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    rob45840 July 21, 2012, 10:34 am

    Thanks! Outstanding technique. The energy and enthusiasm part, is quite helpfull. As men, conservation of emotional energies and their investment should be prudent. This is more than being about, “how to hustle”, quite helpful!

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    EcstaticShock July 21, 2012, 8:55 pm

    I wish I had this when I was 13!

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    Hendrik July 21, 2012, 10:05 pm

    Thanks PR !

    I have done it and love this playful technique. For me personally it’s a lot easier to project this visualization when I imagine myself as a character from a fighting game who had very similar freezing abilities. Then it feels even more real.

    Regards,
    Hendrik

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    GT July 22, 2012, 12:33 pm

    I used this for the second time today, this time in-the-moment at the gym.

    She got on machine in front of and one to the right of me and started wiggling her ass like she wanted me to look. I obliged and she pulled her shirt tail over it.

    I Didn’t get offended like I have in the past, just figured we’d established that level of communication and went back to my workout until I got bored and started looking again.

    At that point I realized I was already over the line so I did the 9 easy steps above right there, which I’m now calling The Ice-Breaker and then I did ignore her until we both finished our workouts at the same time and walked down the isle of machines shoulder to shoulder.

    Sorry if my progress is not up to your wall-of-proof standards, but at this point just holding space with her completely neutrally, without getting angry about the “lost opportunity” is an improvement. Not to mention her walking right along with me!

    I had actually developed a line this morning to use when a woman enters my “personal space” like at the super market checkout, and completely spaced it out at the gym, but I still count it as a win to have worked with where I’m at and acquired a real-world reference experience to rehearse with so next time my line is automatic, or at least automatically there.

    It probably won’t feel “natural” until I’ve actually done it a few times, but that’s step three by my count above.

    Thank you PR.

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    alistair July 23, 2012, 9:29 am

    Energy work is something many men find difficult, even though we are energy beings like women are!

    Once you discover the energy and it’s flow paths in your body you can master your state and succeed in any area of your life, not just with women.

    Richard Bandler introduced me to internal spinning energy states and the attendant colours, sounds and feelings, and I teach this awareness to all my clients as a first step to doing work together.

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    Roy (Toronto) July 23, 2012, 8:19 pm

    Thank you so much for this. I have been needing this for a while.

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    rus August 6, 2012, 12:21 pm

    Hi Paul,

    Amazing.

    I notice you have a number of methods for similar/same or different senarios… Would I be right in thinking when we totally understand turning difficult areas into metaphors and taking control of them, you can create your own? Similar to language patterns?

    rus x

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      Ross Jeffries August 14, 2012, 9:59 am

      @Rus Exactly correct. And you can apply it to yourself.

      For example, if a woman breaks up with you, you can frame it as, “She dumped me. I’m fucking crushed”.

      These are metaphors. She didn’t literally toss your physical body into a trash heap(I hope not). And you are not literally “crushed”.

      And even the term “breaks up” is a metaphor. You don’t literally have a “thing” called a relationship that is literally broken.

      “Fuck. It really hurts right now that she ended the relationship with me. I feel confused, angry etc etc. SHIT!”

      That’s a better way of being accurate without being totally disempowering and it leaves you with the possibility of making new connections with others.

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    Harsh May 29, 2013, 1:30 pm

    Hey Ross, I feel guilty when I think about taking a hammer and shattering her image to peices. Because this was a woman who I slept with, we shared a common vision of having a future together – children, living together. She was a nice person I think (sharp mind, liked to take care of me – but confused).She eve talked about marriage. But we are from different countries. She is in US. I’m from India. After she went back, I didn’t realize that she was fractionating vertically, and saw it as me failing. I broke up with her, for the fear that she might break up with me if I don’t. Then tried to get her back. Didn’t work. Its been 2 years. Have done the ‘extractor’ as taught in NYIG, and now I feel more peaceful than I have ever done in 2 years. But still I feel she is there in the background. What should I do? Is there more information I have to extract? Should I keep doing the NYIG exercise? I remember you saying in NYIG that if u don’t do it everyday for 20 minutes then you may fuck it up. I’m guilty of this as I haven’t been doing it everyday. But I thought a little reassurance and guidance from you would help. Just FYI I have been uncursing my sense of possibility of what I could experience in the future with this girl, using Up until now… languaging and I like that. And I want to magickally manifest a relationship with her, or at least experience forgiveness and loving communication. Right now I have deleted her from FB, deleted her number to get her out of my mind. But still I’ve spent the last 2 years in cofusion thinking about her.

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      Harsh June 2, 2013, 9:12 am

      So I decided to do it! I have done this ritual 2 times. I can feel my energy come back to me. I have replaced the guilt by telling myself the following.
      1. I’m not killig her or anything.
      2. I was ‘invested’ in her. Now that will change and I will probably be only ‘interested’ in her.
      3. Now she is free. I release her with gratitude. With all my power intact.
      Question -I feel like doing this ritual more often now and reclaim ALL my energy..my mana! Can I go ahead and practse this as many times as needed on the same woman?

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        Ross Jeffries June 3, 2013, 9:51 am

        @Harsh

        Glad this is working for you. There is no hard and fast rule for how many times you do this. You have to learn through your own doing.

        Again, this is part of my teaching philosophy: at first, the student practices with rigid adherence. Then the student gets creative.

        Find out for yourself.

        RJ

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          Harsh June 6, 2013, 10:27 pm

          Thank you so much Ross. So after all this time and (up until now) random rituals, and based on your guidance I have formulated a ritual routine for myself based on what you have taught.

          1. Do the Flaming eagle and clearing ritual in the morning.
          2. Rigourous exercise followed by Transmuter from 3.0 course.
          3. Breathing from NYIG followed by Global-Local-Pleasant-Unpleasant-Suble-Obvious-Peace meditation.
          4. Install the most applicable beliefs from 3.0, followed by ALL beliefs in due course of time.
          5. Continue reading the book by Michael Yapko.

          Stage 2: When I feel better consistently these exercises, and am able to enjoy the simple pleasures of life like having a cup of tea in peace (consistently) I will be gradually replaced with Unstoppable Confidence exercises, and real world sarging.

          Seeking your blessings to carry out my plan! I’m so happy now I could formulate a definite goal. Thank u again Ross for helping me form a goal and clearing my confusion about how many times I must do a ritual. From now on I will think for myself, see what works best for me and get creative.

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