Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
According to my customer service manager, one of the biggest things that students ask is where can they get even more word-for-word patterns.
You’ll find them in many of my courses – for example, I cover “Twin Brothers” at great length on the Irresistible Arousal DVD that’s included with the Power Pack.
But for today, instead of “more” patterns, let me state that most guys would be better served by learning to use the patterns they already know more powerfully.
I would also add: the best “pattern” is to evoke a woman’s own responses and processes and use them.
In this respect, the most capable Speed Seducer might be MISTAKENLY viewed as “passive”, in that, rather than seeking to create something that is not there, he instead seeks to evoke what IS there, stimulate it to life, seize hold of it and direct it to his intent.
In other words, we stay VERY strong in our intent, yet we use what is given to us by the other person, once we have them sufficiently stimulated to be responding in useful ways…from the deeper structures and processes in her body/mind.
We tune in…listen…use our intuition..use our ability to stimulate the useful processes and responses in her to life. We may seem to the untrained to be “sensitive” but in fact, we are providing a STRONG lead the entire time.
To balance this strong intent…STRONGLY LEADING…yet being open to her responses. THAT is the balance.
This balance can take months to get good at, and years to master, but once you get it, it becomes very hard NOT to attract.
Now, what are the things that get in the way of this? How can we, like sculptors, remove what doesn’t belong in us so we can get to the essence of the skills?
Removing What Is In The Way
First, we must remove our old ways of seeing women. We can see like any other guy, the things that all guys appreciate: boobs, butts, legs, lips, vulva. All good, all fine, all right…IN THE RIGHT PLACE AND TIME.
We must also learn, however, to see differently and to listen in a different way.
Talk to a woman. Stimulate her mind and imagination in a certain way, and within 2 minutes she is telling you how she can feel her uterus contracting when she is attracted to someone and you get the sound she makes to herself when she feels it..not because she says, “Oh, and I make THIS sound… ummmmmmmmmmmm… when I feel that.”
No, I’m just listening, and as she describes the process, she makes the sound at the end of it. Ummmmmmmmmm.
Now, I am listening for what I can use and NOT what stimulates ME!
Ummmmmmmmmmm is HER verbal anchor for that state.
So, for a while anyway, we must learn to put aside our own stimulation or turn it down. That is the first thing many guys most remove.
Second, we must learn to remove old beliefs about what we have to do to attract women and instead learn to look at HER processes and responses. Like the good Lord, SHE will provide what we need…IF we know how to look and listen for it and how to stimulate it into life..and HOW to use it once we have it.
Listen AND Lead
A student of mine told me he was speaking with a woman on the phone with someone with whom he’d had some brief conversations but they’d been playing phone tag.
He took the lead and said, “Why don’t we make a firm plan to meet for an hour so we can explore what is obviously intriguing us both?”
He suggested time. She said, “okayyyyyyyyy” but he noticed it was not a firm, enthusiastic “ok”. He NOTICED. He used his skill to listen. Then he moved to a STRONG lead.
He said, “you know, I want to make sure this is something we both enthusiastically want and “okayyyyyyy” is not the same as “ok…YES!”. THAT’S what I need to hear if we are going to do this. So why don’t we try later in the evening? 8PM I will meet you at _____________
She tried suggesting another place. He said, “Is it quiet? I want a quiet place to talk, so let’s meet at _____________ as I said before”.
She said, ENTHUSIASTICALLY and with FULL agreement, “OK! I’m looking forward to it!”
Now, this is a SIMPLE example… Not dripping with juice or phone sex, but simple and important. He NOTICED her response, brought it out to the surface, and redirected things WITH A STRONG LEAD.
You see, macho doesn’t work because MACHO DOESN’T NOTICE OR LISTEN. So it only works on women who are dumb or weak or destroyed enough to not want to be heard.
Just listening doesn’t work, because WOMEN WANT A STRONG LEAD. You must listen to her responses then STRONGLY LEAD her using them and what you’ve learned from them.
Do both.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Among the many things you’ll learn in Speed Seduction® 3.0 is how to use your language to create states of attraction, lust, fascination and utter desire, with any woman you want – and do it so she thinks it’s HER idea! Click here to see the many other things, also, and claim your copy right now.
OK Ross, you are right. As always.
LOL.. it’s funny because i used to view women as, lips legs breast and ass. focusing on these things and what i was used to in the past. cut me off to who she really is. it left me with very little to say when it came to, noticing evoking and utilizing her emotional responses. now, after discovering and continually using speed seduction. i find myself very often seeing her as a series of beautiful processes. how is she responding to what’s around her? when she speaks, what is she really saying about herself. and what’s possible when it comes to experiencing, a truly profound and beneficial connection with someone. now with me, i believe as long as my intention is on capturing and leading her imagination. and my attention is on her and what she is doing. i’ll always be able to communicate in way’s that, awaken and titillate those deeper parts of her. it all starts with me seeing her as she is, and my curiosity of how she is.. everything flows from that point. you guys reading this, if you haven’t done so yet. do yourself a favor and seize the opportunity to get some speed seduction in your life.. and ross, i love how simple and short you phrased the greatest seduction pattern. i wonder if the readers notice it 😉
Alfons Pfender
This is a really efficent pattern. This works as well with this swabian german girls. I bought this twin brother disk which worked only with this american tourist girls and the spanisch girls which are living in germany. This hard working and economic minded swabian girls are more responsive ore more triggered by this direct and short patterns. I dont need this internal game stuff since iam not hesitating making a womanizing.thanks
Ross jeffries has got the sence for the essential not like this german wanabee pick up artists which are writing loads of trucks of books and the substrate is so small. I never by them since they are not worth the expence
You are right. I was always called “passive” for listening and responding rather than just plain lead. In fact, it was hard for me to see myself as a leader and I still had people follow my every command. This article opened up my mind on what used to work for me and I was told that’s not the way to do it. Well, now I can screw them 🙂
And the best thing is, there is no pressure to figure out “what do I say next” if you just LISTEN. She (or every person you talk to) gives out some many spoken/unspoken messages that you can grab one that will work for you.
Thank you Ross, this is truly inspiring.
Hey guys, I’m back, and thanks Ross. Expanding. A girl looks at you. You make a connecting gesture, walk over, and say, “I am going to ask you a question”. You listen. She talks. In her words you say, “Which was the first feelings you have when you connected with me”? She replies. You listen. Then maybe you take her hands and say “what did that hand feel like because it felt like that for you”? When she finally asks WHY, you say, “It’s just that have you ever … … ?. Every minute she spends with you is one more minute she will never forget, so be generous guys.
Ross,
this is why you are heads and shoulders about every other dating “guru” for guys.
Thank you again.
Mark
waaa!~ well that secret is worth million of dollars and you just gave it up for free!!! you are really the best. I will see you soon in Australia and will be purchasing the diamond or platinum plan!
Good day and God speed seduction! 🙂
Ross, without a doubt my favourite post ever. This is what SS comes down to. Listening to the wind en and the currents and then sail that boat to the warm harbour. I am a student for two years now, thank you for changing my life and thus that of so many woman.. Greetings from Amsterdam
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