Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
A huge part of mastering your girl-getting game is not only understanding and recognizing the “AFC” behaviors that, up until now, have slowed your surge to success; but also having in place a set of tools and practices to quickly set yourself back on track if one of these behaviors ever tries to rear its ugly head.
Let’s hear from a student who attended our most recent 3-day seminar, who shares a major breakthrough he experienced…in his own words:
Hey Ross,
I have had some of the Speed seduction material ever since some of the early work, and been learning the SRT concepts, and had some success; but I have not been implementing it as I should, CONSISTENTLY…but I have found how great the vague language is….that sort of shit really works guys!
For now, I want to say a personal thank you to Ross for the transformation work he did with me up front on the Saturday morning at the London seminar. I had been stuck approaching those 10+ girls, because my legs simply wouldn’t take me over to them, even though, I am quite able to do it if an opportunity arises and they are standing next to me!
This ‘cold approach’ was defeating my ability to walk…Ross did his magic on me, and trust me, I was not faking it!!!! I struggled to get the feelings exactly to begin with, because I was out in front of the group, and I’d told myself, no way am I humiliating myself out there in front of anyone, before I came to the seminar.
But then, here I was at the seminar, sharing those deepest darkest thoughts in front of the whole room…yet as I managed to overcome that, and concentrate on what I was being told, suddenly something started to change and without much warning, the sensation changed, and as I said out loud, ‘I Claim MY success, with MY smoking hot women, who please, satisfy and delight me NOW’ my fear flushed out of me and I was left with incredible confidence!
Guys, believe me, I’ve thought some of this stuff may be the guys performing for the camera…I will say it again, this actually happened and it was REAL!!! And here’s the best part! It lasts!!!!
I was walking along the road yesterday and an HB10+ walked out of an office, right in front of me, normal reaction, I would have averted my face and wished I had the balls to at least say ‘Hi’. But as I felt the tiniest hint of the old self, I simply repeated my phrase to myself, smiled broadly and say ‘Hi’, she gave me a terrific smile back and I watched her head get thrown back and you could see her pleasure at just being acknowledged…now yes, I could have followed this up, and I will…but I just wanted you to get that I could do this in a heartbeat when the tiniest hint of the old behaviour started and it changed me in an instant…if that isn’t magic I don’t know what is!
Trust in this stuff, but as Ross says, you have to do the work, practice, practice, practice, out there in the real world, not in your head all the time! Even just getting to the first stage of talking to them is a step forward and then you can add in steps, but just do it!
And, remember the lesson I learnt, get to a seminar, put your hand up, tell your story and if you are lucky, Ross could help you to get over any stuck points you have…in the meantime, do the practice, get out there and have fun, you won’t believe how many times I hear girls say, it’s so refreshing to meet a guy who is this open and can talk about this stuff, and this is usually just after we’ve done the deed!
So go on, get out there today, your life and those girls are waiting! For you to take hold of them and lead them off into the land of adventure!
James Hill
London, United Kingdom
See what life can look like for you when you take a bold step forward?
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Our 2016 Speed Seduction® seminar tour takes us to London. If you haven’t yet attended a seminar, you still have time, but as they say, he who hesitates, mastur-waits. Will YOU take a bold step forward and join me on July 30th and 31st?
Dear Ross,
I dated this girl for about two months. She was a tourist and then went back to her native country. While she was here she talked about living together next year, children, marriage etc. This stuff got me and I let my guard dowwn. Began to feel that I have to be faithful to her because she seemed like a honest feminine woman. But yet she was confusing. On the one hand while she talked about a life together, she once even told me not to have any expectations and I shouldn’t get attached. So I asked her point blank if she wants me to forget her and she was like, “How can you forget me? I’ll miss you.” I felt confused and didn’t know whether to commit to her or just set her free without expectations. She went back to her country. We kept in touch but I could feel my anxiety. I did miss her. The power I had in my communication when she was physically present before me, was just not happening in long distance. And when she didn’t respond to my email for 10 days I just lost it and broke up with her. It put a tremendous strain on me to walk away like that but I thought I was doing the right thing. But I gave in after 10 days and told her I wanted her back and that I acted in a haste. She wouldn’t respond back. Anyway how can a man walk away from a woman in a calm way without neing negative? When I did that with her previously she said I was reactive and that it put a lot of stress and pressure on her and felt that I could love her or leave her anytime. And ist not healthy to make your woman feel so unsafe in a relationship is it?
Also I started doing the detangling exercises yesterday. Did it again for a couple of hours today and I feel a lot better. I now understand how 10 and 10 and 10 and 10 become 40 from 10000!
Did Right: Conversation natural and easy, paid attention to responses, advanced physically (fisrt time) at the right time (I could sense her energy), asker her for her contact when it felt natural, right vibe for the most part, experiencing anxiety/sadness around her without buying into it (This inadvertently made me cry silently but I was determined only to go withing experince the grief, she wiped my tears, told me later on that it was not sexy but even she she initiated the make out that followed, when that actually was the last thing on my mind coz I was so focused on experiencing my grief. Is that stealth charisma or what?!)
Subtract: Attaching too much importance as the days passed, Needing her so much, not walking away with confidence, Chasing.
Add: Take time out for hobbies while in a relationship, Do the inner game exercises when I’m in relationship, Do the unstoppable confidence affirmations every day even when things are going great, Pay attention to work, friends etc.
Do more of: Give her independence to do anything and stay focused on my other priorities (instead of her) when we aren’t physically present with each other.
Do less of: Acceptance of the fact that a long distance relationship is not the same as face to face and when she doesnt return my emails/calls promptly it doesn’t mean that I’m doing something wrong.