Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Last issue I discussed how aiming at the wrong kind of confidence with women could actually harm your progress and get in your way of finding the success you really want.
In this issue, I’d like to talk about…
Fatal Mistake With Women #9-Not Knowing How To Transition From Talking To Getting Physical
In my career as a teacher, about 20% of my students are guys who are actually pretty damn good at ONE aspect of attracting women; the initial conversation.
These guys can talk to virtually any woman, anywhere. They can even usually get a “date” (although as I keep saying, when you learn Speed Seduction® dating is for the women you are already sleeping with!)
Having taught more men to overcome this block than I can recount, I can tell you it comes down to the following causes:
- They have such screwed up and inaccurate beliefs about womens’ sexuality, that they think women really need a lot of talk, wining and dining, “time to get to know a guy” etc. So they literally don’t see the signals when a woman is steaming to take their trouser-turkey.
- Related to #1 they rigidly stick to only going for it at the end of an evening or “date” even if the woman shows signs that are really obvious to that they are ready to get down. This is really a matter of sticking to what they have always done, even though it doesn’t work and is counter to what they themselves see would work.
- They have some negative programming, shame, fear around getting sexual. They don’t fear getting rejected if they go for it, they actually fear getting accepted and having to get it on!
- They haven’t learned a structured way to get women comfortable and eager to be touched from early on, sometimes within minutes of the first approach/meeting/contact. They just never bothered to learn how or believed it was something done at the end of some other series of actions, rather than something that can and ought to be done pretty much from the very start/first contact. They wind up with a “sudden lunge” instead of an escalating tide of touch that generates comfort, heat, and the desire to get nekkid.
If you see yourself in any or all of these 4, don’t feel bad. I’ve got some great solutions that my students have pretty easily implemented over the years, and as I said, when you master the art of Speed Seduction®, dating becomes something reserved for the women you are already sleeping with.
And as I’m fond of saying, that sure beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?
P.S. If you’d like to eavesdrop on a coaching session I did with a student that turned him from a dumped-chump who never got women to get physical into a “super closer” who can get very hot women back to his place in under an hour, here is a link to an mp3.
P.P.S. I seriously do not necessarily advocate getting women into bed that quickly. However there is no good reason I can see not to get at least 20 minutes of good kissing in with a woman BEFORE you will ask for, give out, or accept a phone number. You’ll be surprised at the results you’ll see from doing a bold leap over the entire “dating time table” and going for it in some way BEFORE any “dating” using the Speed Seduction® language and attitude tools and methods.
