“Swerve me? The path to my fixed purpose is laid with iron rails, whereon my soul is grooved to run. Over unsounded gorges, through the rifled hearts of mountains, under torrents’ beds, unerringly I rush! Naught’s an obstacle, naught’s an angle to the iron way!”…Melville, “Moby Dick”
Dear Speed Seduction Students,
Those of you who have joined me on Facebook are giving me some flack over the fact that my profile states I’m “in a relationship”. Many of you think I’m somehow back-peddling on my philosophy of dealing with women.
So let me make it very clear and clear it up: I have no problem, and have never had a problem, with relationships by choice. If you are happy, and you are with a woman because, having lots of choices and lots of options, you choose her, there is zero issue for me.
In my view, it is relationships by default-accidental attractions that have you with a woman who really isn’t whom you want to be with-that turn into real-hate-shun-ships.
Which is not to say that even happy, chosen relationships don’t have their inherently and socially conditioned oppressive elements. There is all sorts of “backround noise” amidst the music; all of the responses, attitudes, behaviors that are not organic, but conditioned by the constant onslaught of popular music, tv, books, magazine, movies and other media.
The ongoing and relentless programming of pop culture around romance, love, courtship and sex-the countless songs and movies about getting together, jealously, breaking up, etc etc-amount to a propaganda machine that would make the most control mad dictators and totalatarian governments blush with embarrassment.
So, in a sense, even when you’ve chosen, out of lots of options, you still haven’t totally chosen.
Having said that, I’m happy. That could change on a dime, and I’m cool with that too.
But leave your old-fart guru alone here, and let me enjoy loving someone I really, truly dig.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Stop the guessing about who she is; I ain’t telling out of respect for her. She has no desire to be identified as “Ross Jeffries’ girlfriend” and I don’t blame her.
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Loving the new blog update, it looks great! Your holding another seminar in London again, im starting to think you cant get enough of us 😉
It looks like i was too late (again) too make it this time but I’m definitely going to make it in October 🙂
Cheers Ross.
Ive been thinking deeply about “laziness”( yes, I am the one who posted that in the “fear vs Fatigue, and also i am the one who felt great when you talked about laziness= abstraction and the processes IN ME: thanks Ross, because i felt like if I had a personal teacher right in the spot)
Anyway, i realize something, actually two things: in my case “laziness” is a combination of a great purpose(i am in the middle of something big in my life) and what you call “a bad motivation strategy”, both entwined. That kicks me in the teeth as i read it, i swear. “motivation strategies”
So i decided to add some extra motivation during my sarging, and that works well. Maybe its a stupid thing, maybe its not, but the other day i met a 40 year lovely women. We talk, we close the deal. After that i said out loud to myself” well done boy” and then i buy a Thor toy(you know the god of thunder)
Now i want all the marvel saga toys, so in order to have some i have to do some things i am not used to, and think and experience in brand new ways
Thanks Ross, im serious i am moving forward( and i am sorry for the looong post)
Nice blog, i have added it to my favourites, greetings