Dear Seeker of Success,
To get good at succeeding with younger women, you have to learn to see the world with a different view.
In Speed Seduction®, we look for process and activity.
If we want women to be attracted to us, somewhere inside of her she has a process for doing that. We want to awaken that process by how we show up and then bring it to the surface with how we use our language.
You could certainly mindfuck yourself into thinking, “I’m 40 years old. I have all this competition from guys her own age.”
Or you could say,
“These women are in an environment where their normal preferences and rules don’t apply. Given that their normal preferences and rules don’t apply, I have as much of a shot as anybody else, particularly if I bring these skills forward.”
Important thing to consider:
What Specific Age Range Are You
Going For? It Matters.
Let’s say you’re in your 40s. Maybe 47 years old.
For a woman who is between 30 and 35, if you’re in your 40s, you may ALREADY be more appealing to her than a younger guy. Just what I’ve seen through experience.
However – if you want to drop down to women in their 20s (or otherwise go for women at least 20 years younger than you), you may have a problem unless you have some wicked skillsets.
One of the things I’d look at is:
What Do “Naturals” Do?
Naturals know their target market.
They know who they’re good with.
There are plenty of female travelers in their 30s who are really juicy. You can go after them.
The second thing I’ll tell you is the metaphor of the bank vault (which I’ve covered before).
To summarize: We have two bank vaults and they’re absolutely identical in every way. They have the same combination, structure and composition.
Behind one door is a stale Hostess cupcake. Behind the other is $15 billion in diamonds, the secret to cold fusion plus the formula for a pheromone that would make any woman instantly want to fuck you.
Does it make any difference about what’s in the vault in terms of what you need to do to get the door open?
Not To Get All “Biblical” Here But….
Instead of thinking of it as a David versus Goliath thing, you have to temporarily put aside 80% of your desire for the reward and just focus on what’s there that you can use to get the door open.
Stop intimidating yourself over the big reward behind the door and say, “It doesn’t matter whether it’s a stale cupcake or $50 trillion worth of stuff and the formula for instant sex. I still have to do the same thing to get the door open.”
If you learn what you need to get the door with the cupake open, then you can repeat it even faster with the other door.
I would use that metaphor, to get those younger women headed my way.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Make no mistake: younger women ARE harder to handle and this is NOT a game for amateurs.
So stop “wondering how” – step up, get my guidance and get yourself going!
We must be on the same wave length because I was thinking about this the other day. I know most of your openers, which one would you suggest for a 18-26 year old . I like the one where you walk by and tell her “stopped me dead in tracks) but anything else where you could imply a compliment ?
Secondly what about at work, I am a bit paranoid there for obvious reasons. I have many athletic bodied women there , and wanted to use the “Are you involved in a martial art or do you fight (and then you talk about her left hook, and taking her lunch money) which I think is brilliant for a few reasons (I can tell you if want just to show I am paying attention). Otherwise, I have no problem just saying anything, but I like your openers. I know you are self employed, but working in a modern corporate office is another form of prison with roles and rules (just like a reHATEionship)…..
@Harry
Dipping the pen in the company inkwell is always an interesting proposition. You’ll want to “go stealth” for sure.
The “Approach Anywhere” course (#5) inside the Hayley Quinn Macking Mega-Pack covers this to some degree.