Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,
A crush, according to Dictionary.com is “an intense but usually short-lived infatuation.”
Almost every guy has had one. Maybe it’s on a woman he just knows a little, here and there. Maybe she’s a co-worker. Could be she’s that amazingly hot bartender who works at the happy-hour joint every Thursday night and is sometimes flirtatious toward him.
Maybe he’s gone out with her a few times and has had fun hanging out with her so far. Or, she’s someone he walked up to and Sarged on, found she was open to who he is and what he gives to the world, and took a high-speed ride on the carnal carousel.
No matter what, he’s got her on the brain. All the time.
He thinks about her constantly… creates scenarios in his mind of how his next interaction with her will be so he “gets it right.” Constant, relentless, thoughts of her will keep him from being productive at work and unable to enjoy hobbies and interests, or even hanging out with his pals.
Here’s a note from a student who reports he’s “got it bad” for a chick:
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Too often, though I know logically it makes no sense, I find myself falling into the trap where I place too much importance on one particular woman. Like, I get a crush on her and it make me unable to think or focus on anything else.
What are some ways I can moderate myself when my interest in a particular woman causes me to become uselessly intense about that woman. Are there specific methods to help gain perspective when I find myself becoming too hot and heavy about someone, as I find myself now doing?
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First of all, define “importance.” Importance as in sexually wanting her, or importance is in her being someone you connect with on an emotional/caring level?
I’d be VERY careful about connecting too strongly with women, emotionally, unless you are well into f@@king them. Most guys underestimate their need to care for someone and emotionally connect in, and it can be confusing.
Sometimes I feel I stand at the fulcrum between two things: the living wall of fire that it is my lust and the flood of water that is my compassion and my need to connect and care. Can make things at times confusing, yes?
Next time you feel the pangs of your crush on a woman, answer the question of what her actual “importance” is to you. It’s the first (and critical) step toward busting free of the vice-like grip of your crushes on women.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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