Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
If you experience those butterflies-in-the-stomach when you’re about to make some approach or move toward a woman, you’re not alone. You’re anxious and nervous about what comes next.
Maybe it’s the worry of how she’ll take it when you first walk up to her and say your first words. Could be jitters because you’re calling her for the first time and you wonder if she’ll be happy to hear from you, if you’ll be entering a relationship with her voicemail, or if she “accidentally” gave you the number for Big Guy’s Sausage Packing Plant.
Perhaps you’ve attempted to pump yourself up with visions of her being glad to see you, delighted to hear from you, or screaming your name at the top of her lungs as the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle enters orbit.
And THAT may be the problem. Let me explain.
There is a distinction between “performance confidence” and “acceptance confidence”, and there is the concept of “When I am uncertain what to do, I take a bold step forward.” Now let me add another dimension (or two).
“Anxious” and “nervous” are linguistic labels. They don’t describe, in detail, what is going on, physically with your body.
Before you put your attention on the linguistic label, pay attention to your body. What is REALLY going on, in your body and with your body, when you feel “anxious” or “nervous”?
I want to suggest that a better, more useful label is, “overstimulated”.
Your heart beating fast, your breathing short and restricted and quickly, whatever it might be, certainly qualifies as “overstimulated”.
What you need is to become familiar with your body and how it breathes, stands etc when you are “calm” and “alert”.
Now, the second part of this is understanding: being overstimulated is a response to too much anticipation; too much projection into the future, and too much focus on result, rather than on the process.
In other words, if you are picturing f@@king the brains out of the hottest chicks then you are going to be putting too much sexual energy into your system; too much voltage down the line and the circuits are going to start to wobble and shudder and maybe short out.
Stop imagining the future before the present has a chance to unfold. This will give you better clarity about RIGHT NOW.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Sick and tired of letting sexy, beautiful women pass right in front of you while you sit there virtually paralyzed not knowing exactly what to do or say to meet them? Speed Seduction® is your golden ticket to total success with women.
Hey RJ,
I dint know where to send my email to you so I guess here I go right here. I just want to tell you that you changed m life completely. You see for 22 long years I’ve been what they call a “bottom-feeder.” There have been many instances that I had to invite girls (or rarely invite me) to a party and take advantage of the women when they’re drunk. And I even get resistance when I make my moves. How’s Booze and Begging sound to ya?
Then, a year ago, I asked a friend of mine how to change my relationship with women. She told me to look for you in youtube and subscribe to your newsletter which I did. Using his credit card, we purchased your materials. At first I was like “how stupid can this still get?” but looking at my life, I knew I was the stupid one.
Little by little, word by word, I see serenity with vividness. I began to notice changes in my perception of the world. I began to truly realize that the map is not the territory. If you could have only seen me practicing in front of the mirror for more or less one hour for 4 days calibrating, adjusting, and perfecting my tone, body language, facial expression, and my breathing. Then on the fifth day, I went out for a coffee. Relax outside but I’m burning inside. And then the stars seemed to have traffic in the sky and they aligned for me that very day. As I was parking my car, I saw this 5”9’, 34C, dark-haired girl. I approach her with a, “hey, I was right there and I saw you, thought I should say hi.” She smiled. Right before a word comes out of my mouth, her best friend, 5’7, 33C, Japanese girl said hi to me. She introduced me to her. Mila and Sab talked to me and I ran your ROLLER COASTER Routine (themed park?) With a relax and modulated voice, I was in my own world like I see two mirrors in front of me. I bombarded them with anchors after anchors. We were talking for, guess what…3 hours. I used to have 3 minutes if not 3 sec limit of rejection in the past.
Mila and Sab were aspiring models but I dint know that the dawn after we “played hide-and-seek” in my hotel.
Till this day we remain best of friends. Btw, Sab’s sister is my new girlfriend. And she accepts how I roll with women.
Thank you Ross. The money was worth it. Life changed forever.
@Gerard
Awesome ! Can we have permission to use this as a testimonial? email me at: ross@seduction.com
RJ