Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
In an ideal world (assuming there’s some fantasy-island “one definition” of “ideal” that fits every person and every situation), when Sarging a woman there would be no one else within earshot, no background noises, no distractions, no cell phones blaring, and nothing on her mind, at all, except overwhelming thoughts about how the most important thing to her in this world is the prospect of riding your baloney pony.
Wouldn’t it be nice?
Now how often does that happen?
Many students report challenges when meeting and conversing with women in public places, with other people around (and seeing and hearing what’s going on), when it comes to sealing the deal with her without putting her on the spot.
For example, one in particular asked a woman out in a public place and she said “Oh, but my calendar is so full.” He suspects she really enjoys his attention, but she’s claiming a “full calendar” because she’s not keen on saying yes to him so publicly.
So first of all I ask…
What’s this “ask her out” stuff?
Tell her, “You know, I don’t have too much time, but why don’t we hang out for a while?”
DO NOT ASK WOMEN OUT ON “DATES”.
For all you know, she is very eager to f@@k, doesn’t WANT to go “out” with you, but is ready for lots of “in and out”.
When you focus on asking her “out” you are still(STILL!) thinking of sex as something that happens at the end of an evening or afternoon of “going somewhere” or “doing something”.
Guys, you must remove these chains from your mind. FREE YOUR MIND, AND *****HER***** ASS WILL FOLLOW!
I have a challenge/assignment for you. You won’t like it. You probably won’t do it. But here it is:
From now on… for the next 60 days… you will not get or accept a phone number, nor make a plan to later see/spend time with a woman until, unless and AFTER you and she have made out for at least 10 minutes.
THAT should re-orient your thinking nicely.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. And you know what else would help – having the ability to magically insert your desires into her head so that she begins to think its her idea to get with you! These are ideas she can have, and act upon, no matter who’s eavesdropping. Learn this and much, much more in Speed Seduction® 3.0.
Good plan.
THAT will definetly re-orient my thinking nicely. Thanks Ross, You are still the master…
I like this article. I’m reposting somwhere but I will link up to you so no worries.
I like the exercise. Sometimes it’s easy for guys to sidetrack from what they really want and make excuses to avoid the tough stuff.
Getting a phone number is easy. I think guys can easily do that to avoid having to push the envelope. I know I am guilty of that. It’s like the mind is procrastinating. “I’ll push the envelope later.”
No time like the present.
I will try this exercise and see if I can get some other people to play along.
Hey Ross,
I already did that just 4 days ago! We met, went for coffee, kissed but I still didn’t take her number. Thats because we were leaving the city and I didn’t know if the magic that was created in a face to face interaction could be created on the phone when we were so far away! I have a question for you. Can the SS languaging be made to work on email communication? Because I find that I meet some amazing women with good energy and vibe and it just sucks when she and you don’t live in the same city, and how powerful can a man’s vibe be if we think of it like a magnet? Your magnetic field may probably have a finite boundary right or is it possible to extend it to infinity with the power of intention?
Ross
I took to heart(listen to the cardiologist in me speaking) your advise about creating the context that I am the host and I am taking responsibolity for the ladies having a good time instead of me being on the prowl. At a dance event Saturday night I was comitted to making all the new ladies as well as the established ones feel welcomed. I began to dance with a cute blonde 14 years my junior and as ususal. I shared my name and state of origin. I would like to live in Ky she said. The next question stunned me. Do you have horses? she asked. I wondered if she was a psychic since I have long been searching for an attractive ladie who shares my pashion for dancing and horses. She came to my farm the very next morning for a heart healthy breakfast, a trail ride and we made time for the pony ride as well. ‘Context is decisive’ I really beleive that the context we create really impacts our ‘karma’ and the ultimate outcome.
@Fred Fantastic. Now you see what I mean. “I am the host and I’m here to see to it that everyone feels welcome and is having a good time.”
I haven’t asked a women out in years, and I’m this getting some. Though I still give out my phone. Normally I get a call back within or around the 70 hour mark. Love the article Ross.
By-the-way… I’ve got to use this quote “FREE YOUR MIND, AND *****HER***** ASS WILL FOLLOW!” LOL
Hi RJ/Everyone,
[If easily offended, go have a word with yourself]
Maybe I’m just a natural born seducer , But…Um…Every single phone number I have ever received using this material was offered to me by the woman..Her choice..And it’s all down to the correct frame of mind that SPEEDSEDUCTION offers..
Sir RJ is giving you the chance, and it’s up to you to create the oppertunity.
(By the way…To an AFC that’s known a luck)
Also, when she offers you her number you don’t go off skipping home…NO…If it’s a slice of the action you want then that’s what you better be going for…
Your brain will do what you tell it, so, if your wondering why you need to delete some relations phone numbers to make way for Z HB then (I believe) you must just relax, have a word with yourself and really ask and visualize, “What does success mean for ME? ME”…Coz if it aint the “King Kong Finger” picking up the “ham sandwich” then your shit out of luck.
This is where you’ll find Functional Seduction, and IT IS controlled by YOU…and it’s your responsibilty to give her what her body is crying out for.
Women need you to show her what that is, not text her..Get out there..AND IN THERE!
If you aint got your hands on the wheel then your not serious, you should go back to dating..
…And on a lighter note…. Southern California will have sun today.
..and I’d just like to say… It’s a pleasure working with all you guys…
..It’s like all my best friends on one website..
Thanks Ross
Your a Ledge…
rUK x
Add note:
Not all women are the same, just like not all man are the same. Paul has helped increase my day game and the understanding of women (how to Really Connect with them, and bring out the happy within, both mentally and physically). Because of that (and PBS), I now can pick and choose which “type” of woman I want. I can do all this without being a “dancing monkey” seeking her approval.
Don’t get me wrong, I still love to chase, but I want to be chased too. “Some” young PUA’s over-look that.
As for the alpha male thing.
I sometimes think some guys miss understand it. They seem to think they’ve got to be the badboy. Well, the bad boy thing does work, but only with young inexperienced women or damaged cougars. If that’s what you want, go for it.
On the flip side I found that all women respond to a man. The type of guy that can have fun, be cheeky and playful, but when he needs to, well, he can take care of his shit (the alpha male).
Also, if you’re going to use the bad boy card, you’ve got to have the energy for that type of guy, why, because women have a lot of empathy and they’ll see through you like a piece of class.
If you do pull off the energy needed, you run the risk of become a pick (creating the wrong sort of subconscious patterns).
One more thing. If you plan to play the Bod Boy infront of Alpha Male PUA, which results in f***ing thier game up, well, they’re not going to be happy (a wing-man thing).
Now I’ve bashed my gums. Have a nice one everyone…
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Hi Peeps,
I spent some time with a little asian girl, we were about to go on a boat trip,…And I don’t know why I did it…..But, ..I ran away….I don’t deserve to feel anything less than bad.
Still,…Lesson learned…I won’t do that again.
Also, I did this too….A woman offered me her number..So..If your part of this 60 day plan you might want to hear what I said next.
Well you should because it’s class and i’m giving it away for free because Sir RJ would want it that way, And without him I would still be AFC.
HB: “Let’s exchange numbers.”
SS: “Oh, I see, whats going on here, You’ll have my number, and then….You’ll expect a lot more, ..Now.. How do you know …I’m that kind of boy”
I should be fuking famous.
I’ve been a naughty boy..
..I gave a woman my number (she got really aggressive about giving it to me but I won’t go into that here) …SO…I deleted it straight away, walked around the corner and met another bird…I refused her number and I’ve got a date next Thursday…This is my first date….in….I’m really happy about it…But sir rjing doesn’t stop….There.
Pat on the back me thinks……Then roll her over and go again.
Your friend….r
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excellent assignment!
last night after chatting up two cute chicks at the tram stop and having them all interested and even eager to prove themselves to be sisters, by taking out their IDs and stuff (i didn’t ask them to do it btw), upon their tram’s arrival i bid them farewell (usually i’d tell them to give me the digits, no big deal)…
and i felt good about myself, more composed and confident cause now i know that unless we get physical i don’t care about numbers… and i can focus on the actual ongoing situation and ENJOY IT no matter what outcome…
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good thing i thrive and love challenge…YOUR ON ROSS…i get back from sea in a few days…been working my inner game for the past month and half…i accept the challenge and will provide stories of my results
respectfully
Domenick “dibz”