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    gera October 23, 2010, 4:19 pm

    yeah I’ve find out that is very easy to get fascination showing a vibe that you are independent of whatever response you may get, when you don’t care about those kind of things, and just go to meet her and wanna have fun, I love frames cause since the start of the openning I start by noticing what she is offering. Ohh by the way I like how the website is looking, you are a hero Ross!!, deffinately my role model for seduction.

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    hoppy October 24, 2010, 2:20 am

    A way to deal with the immediate threat of a guy like that, would to call him on touching you or even getting in your personal space. “Man, your not my friend, and you don’t have permission to touch me! You’re way to touchy and fe-ely! If your gay I don’t swing that way! Go groping some where else!”

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    Zarathud October 24, 2010, 6:08 am

    I’ve recently been floating the catch phrase, “I understand the reasons, I just don’t like it.” In this case, the words are so foreign that I almost skipped over it. When I read it carefully enough to understand, it pisses me off beyond words, almost. Women spend their whole lives using every form of hypnotic voodoo to keep younger men in their place and safe and then whine that there’s no REAL men around when they want one. I’d say most of them don’t even want one a fraction as much as they say they do or they’d change their behavior. HOW’S THAT FOR A BAD VIBE!

    It’s also a gross generalization of ‘how women treat me’ based on outdated examples of who I am and how I behave. In addition to the the nice-guy/bully pendulum, I’ve seen examples of getting my vibe right and experiencing an amazing response, beyond what I would have even imagined.

    Some of the deep programming that is coming to light lately is truly repugnant and just dealing with the anger that, “that’s what I was taught?” has been aided considerably with the techniques from Nail Your Inner Game. Hell, it may be a bitch dealing with it, but a year ago I was so stuck in it I didn’t have the slightest clue what was going on. Now I can see it and at least some of the time rise above it.

    I’ve recorded this one in my own voice (Ross’ post, not my B.S). After 4 takes, it sounds better, but will probably require some listening to internalize enough to really come out right.

  • […] that yesterday’s post on the failure vibe that stifles a man’s girl-getting game from the inside really hit a […]

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    Simon B. October 25, 2010, 6:09 am

    Another fantastic post which honed right in on EXACTLY what i’m experiencing!-I’ve got Inner Game and now i’m far more aware of where i’m at! There are times however where elements of the old auto programming responses that fucked me up in the past slip in and i don’t realise it till it’s too late and i’ve lost my focus on her and fuck-up my sarge and my vibe! A great challenge to work on myself/(yourself)and so satisfying when you realise you can turn the uncertainty feeling into a rewarding high which you gain and learn from (eg. getting the girl or realising ‘she defo ain’t for me at this time’!)Thanks again Ross You’ve helped me see things clearer and change my internal processing and look out life more than ANY gurus out there! Keep up the great work.

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    Freedom November 23, 2010, 2:46 pm

    How about the following vibe – straigh, simple, and at the same time EXTREMELY powerful (to me): “do you realize, that you can do whatever you want and you can say whatsoever you feel like and I will not only stay in control but also will utilize what you will do or say to achieve my goal?”. When I said like that to myself I felt a lot of positive energy inside of myself … 🙂 that gives me the UNSTOPPABLE power!!! I will anchor that.

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    Dan September 4, 2012, 11:22 am

    Minutes before recieving this email I was reviewing the three appropiate Confidences that Ross talks about: Acceptance Confidence(accept that you don’t know what will happen) Compassion Confidence (no one is obliged to support or encourage your efforts) and the mighty Extraction Confidence (no matter what happens I will draw something positive from this). They’re easy to remember with the acronym A.C.E.

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    Rheo September 4, 2012, 6:27 pm

    Visions of failure don’t really happen to me while approaching but they happen to me sometimes when I text her and the moment the text is sent, I feel anxiety gushing through me, as in “I hope she replies”. But this never comes up when I’m face to face or during the first approach and the following interaction but I’m pretty scared of the phone somehow with certain women who I really desire! Can anyone relate to this experience and share how to get over it? Ross should we crave and welcome uncertainity even after the initial meet with her was pleasent as to you never know how whe will respond in the moment? Should we value uncetainity over certainity throughout the relationship with her?

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      Sebastian September 2, 2013, 9:49 am

      yes , this happened to me but when i talk to girls online … i feel like i have to say something quite good to keep her interested in talking , otherwise i feel like a feeling of loss in the chest area . The best way to overcome this is to “go next” if that one didn’t worked , although she is so fucking hot… we must be able to escape the trap of their beauty (that starts a discomfort feeling in the chest area as you start thinking that you’ll “lose” her if you don’t approach her) .. And with that thing in you , well, you’re kind of screwed …

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    Zarathud September 5, 2012, 3:00 am

    Wow. After reading my post from two years ago I forgot what I was going to say. I only barely remember being that angry. I still have my bad days, but I’m now familiar with the path to a better place.

    Hell, some days even the possibility of a good “rejection” is motivation to do *something* to add some excitement to my lunch break.

    My current focus is still filling in some missing social skills, but that’s not stopping me from using Inner Game and doing walk-ups as they present themselves.

    Yesterday is was more like a stand-still as she presented her-self. Caught me off guard enough I had to do some Inner Game on that response. Always Be Sarging (ABS).

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      Ross Jeffries September 26, 2012, 6:45 am

      @Zarathud – yes. Always Be Sarging. You’re doing it right. Keep at it.

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    A M September 6, 2012, 3:13 am

    This power can be really uncomfortable for douchebags that see women as social proof…

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      a m September 3, 2013, 12:12 pm

      There is more than vibes dealing with people; follow an abstract of Dale Carnegie’s book on “manipulating” friends, why seducing women is different?

      Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

      Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
      Give honest and sincere appreciation.
      Arouse in the other person an eager want.
      Part Two
      Six ways to make people like you

      Become genuinely interested in other people.
      Smile.
      Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
      Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
      Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
      Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.
      Part Three
      Win people to your way of thinking

      The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
      Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
      If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
      Begin in a friendly way.
      Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
      Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
      Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
      Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
      Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
      Appeal to the nobler motives.
      Dramatize your ideas.
      Throw down a challenge.
      Part Four
      Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

      A leader’s job often includes changing your people’s attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:
      Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
      Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
      Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
      Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
      Let the other person save face.
      Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
      Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
      Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
      Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

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    ZaraThud September 1, 2013, 4:01 pm

    Since you’ve been kind enough to make this a yearly checkpoint…Yesterday as I was walking up to the mall, here comes tall thin asian girl, at least as tall as me, which is unusual, just standing looking at iPad “waiting for me to approach.” I think “too young” and go inside. Couple minutes later here she comes again and I’ve had enough time to process that even if she is “too young,” she’s out by herself and must be at least college age and my mindset is just have some fun in the moment anyway, so I say, “excuse me. excuse me. excuse me.” Finally she looks up, walks right up to me and starts asking for directions. This is getting to be a long post, but I did good with the conspiratorial tone when she asked if there was a restroom and the only one I know of is in a restaurant but I offered to walk ahead and distract the waiters. That got us some more chat time and we stopped to look at her ipad again and she wanted to lean shoulders together but I stiffened up. OK, I understand that and processed it right away. Not fast enough to recover with her, but I did introduce myself and when she shook my hand without offering her name I said a definitive and friendly goodby.

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