Will Your “Black Book” Get You Laid Tonight?

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Every time I’m out and about, living my life, and I’m in a public place and I overhear the phrase “I got her digits” (as in, a guy boasting about this to his pals as if this is a great victory) I think to myself…

“WOW…a phone number.  What’s he gonna do next, add it to his iPhone?”

A couple weeks ago I was at a local coffee shop where I sometimes hang out and I got treated to hearing someone go on and on and on about all the numbers he gets from women, all the time, everywhere.

If you ever watched “Cheers” you may remember some of the plot lines about Sam Malone’s little black book, filled with phone numbers of hot women, with her rank on Sam’s personal rating scale (similar to the HB scale that Speed Seducers® use) next to each name.

Those who REALLY remember will recall, some of the episodes showed Sam’s inability to actually get one of those women to meet up with him, no matter how many numbers he dialed.

No, I’m not referring to the episode where the young kid stole the black book, called the women pretending to be Sam and arranged meetups, then didn’t show up.  It actually happened more than once where Mayday Malone spent the night alone, just him and his little red Corvette.

Why the “hit or miss”?

Because it was a book of phone numbers with notes and commentary on PAST experiences Sam had with women.

So before you decide to go build your own “little black book” and use the number of entries as an indicator of your success with women, consider the following.

What you aim at, you tend to get.  What you focus on, you amplify.

So…you are aiming at getting phone numbers? You’ll get phone numbers.

If you program your alarm clock to ring at 11:00 AM, what time do you think it’s going to ring? 10 AM? 11:30 AM?

If you’re driving your car and you set cruise control to go 65 MPH, how fast do you think the car will go?  25 MPH?  100 MPH?

What is it about your mind set that is having you fixated on phone numbers?

A phone number is just a punctuation point. Sometimes it leads to a full paragraph, sometimes it’s a semi-colon, often it’s a question mark or period.

Instead: what energy/attitude are you coming from and displaying when you meet women?  How much time are you spending talking with women? Building interest? Intrigue?

Sure, you want to have a little black book, a steady stream of scintillatingly sensational women who want to spend time with you.  But remember, it’s not the book itself – it’s the EXPERIENCES, that are your ultimate success with women.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S.  A running joke about Sam Malone’s black book was that many of the women within were among the loosest, easiest, and/or most air-headed women in Boston.  YOU need to decide YOUR own definition of a “top quality” woman – and go for women like her, and even better!  Click here to learn how.