Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
One of the all-time favorite language patterns is the Boyfriend Destroyer.
(For anyone who thinks the idea of a “boyfriend destroyer” is bad, evil, misogynistic, disrespectful, rude, pushy, or anything else I’ve been called on the Romance Racketeer talk shows, stop your hissy-fitting and read this first.)
Then come back, with fresh understanding.
At that point, it will be time to learn what happens when she says:
“I Have A Boyfriend”
The average frustrated chump (AFC) packs his stuff and goes home, or worse yet, starts apologizing as if he did something wrong by being a man and expressing interest in a woman.
You won’t do these things, because you have options.
Boyfriend Destroyer #1: You don’t need to convince me someone else finds you attractive. I won’t make up my mind that way.
My favorite, this one is. Notice how it turns it around and makes it seem like SHE is trying to impress YOU.
Boyfriend Destroyer #2: That’s ok, I don’t want to be a boyfriend. I’d rather just relax and enjoy each other without the heartache and the pressures.
What does this imply? That her boyfriend causes her heartache and pressure.
Notice this is IMPLIED, rather than directly stated. If you state it directly, she can resist it.
Remember my rule:
Whatever You Can Get A Person To
Imagine Will Be Perceived By Them
To Be Their Own Thought, And Therefore
They Will NOT Resist It!
(A huge key to this is being vague and using implication, among other things taught in Rapid and Total Success With Women.)
Boyfriend Destroyer #3: Well, anyone even half-way attractive can be with someone, provided that’s all they want. Anyway, what’s your favorite place to go on vacation? (temporarily change the subject)
How does this one work? Well, it’s a truism – anyone attractive CAN be with someone. But note how I IMPLY that the guy isn’t the right one, but just someone she’s settling for.
What girl wants to be stuck with that?
And I don’t directly attack him at all; I just IMPLY she is settling by how I say “someone”; you have to hear me doing this to really get it!
NEVER Directly Attack Her Choice,
Even A Bad One
It will only force her to defend it! Don’t attack or argue about it!
Just help her find her own way to you.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Wouldn’t it be great to have that power at your command; to light up women’s fantasies, desires, and the deepest parts of their minds and brains, so their hottest feelings are turned towards you?
The more I read your newsletters the more I realize there really is no end to your creativity. You really do encourage and enlighten with each reading. That’s not just smoke, you spur me to think for myself and think of possibilities future, not possibilities past. Thank you.
@Paul the possibilities ARE endless. Thank you.
Here’s a mantra I use every day:
“Show me better, show me more, show me more, show me better, now.”
Try that as part of your daily practice.
Try that every time things go well for you. There’s always a slight edge.
I’ll give it a shot. Thank you.
Number 3 is great because woman have to wait and wait for countless guys to approach, and at some point she will most likely settle, or listen to marching orders from Mademoiselle (or other forms of social indoctrination) which is only going to give “advice” that benefit’s the advertisers and gets repeat customers (like patient to theRAPIST) , much the way “girl getting” advice for men prior to ss, it’s disinformation
@Harry as I explained in the article on the ethics of boyfriend destroying (link to it is near the top of this article), by using the Boyfriend Destroyer, we give the woman a NEW choice when it comes to responding to approaches by men.
It’s one of the best favors we can do for her.
The best part about the Boyfriend Destroyer is how effectively it sifts. If she really has a boyfriend and she really feels this is the man she wants to be with, the Boyfriend Destroyer won’t work. It doesn’t break up happy relationships. The sooner guys get that through their head, the sooner they start getting more women.
Sweet, o Mighty Ross. Reminded me to ‘dial back’ my sneer and sarcasm…I need to be reminded.
Hey…am house-sitting…well, actually cat-sitting…for 2 different cats with ‘way differing personalities and agendas schedules, and even menus. It’s a lot like balancing two different Friends with
Bennies. You…and good old Aldous Huxley…have posited that hanging out with cats is like an anthropological stint: it’s like watching people with the lids off. You’re right…
@Leslie – as much as I will miss London, I can’t wait to get back to LA and see Tazzleberry and Purrnilla again! They never cease to amaze.
a 4’th is to NLP him by having her put him in a palce in yiur mind were unimportant things from the past. (after she gives you the gestures of were she keeps those things. Like on a movie screen ) and put yourself in the important place and the more you try to move it back, the more etc, etc etc…
Interesting approach David. More advanced, and quite a powerful way of adapting the skills and teachings to YOUR situations with YOUR women in YOUR world.
Good job!