Dear Seeker of Success,
It’s one of the most common questions I get.
It usually reads like this,
“Dear Ross, I love your Speed Seduction® stuff. I’ve never actually used it….because I am in love with this one special girl. Actually she is my wife (girlfriend, fiance) and we just split up. She says she hates my guts and can’t stand the sight of me and that she would rather suck the infected south side of a moose running north-bound. What patterns from your Rapid and Total Success With Women course would work to get her back?
Signed,Desperate and drooling”.
Now listen: anything is possible.
But when you are learning new skills, new ways of thinking, new ways of responding, why ram your head against a wall by choosing someone who has already got their walls up against you and who already has a whole slew of bad feelings associated to you?
One of the themes I think I am going to keep hammering home is this: STOP IT.
If you want to improve your success and satisfaction with women, half of that job is just to STOP DOING WHAT DOES NOT WORK.
Stop trying to buy women’s favor.
Stop striving to impress women.
Stop overfocusing on the behavior you want from women.
Stop, stop, stop, STOP RIGHT NOW listening to popular music that programs you to be a bully or a beggar.
And for god’s sakes, STOP trying to win back women who have, for whatever reason, left your life.
Don’t make me come down there and bitch-slap you.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Get what you need to experience REAL success with women by clicking the link you just read.
LOL!…I think I could use a bitch slappin. Up until now, I’ve been suffering from a case of “one-itis” myself.
Maybe we really don’t know what its like to enjoy the success of many female delights as a speed seducer until we can just let go and just move on. I suppose that would be possible if we keep practicing the process and not be focused on results.
Thank you Ross!
@Tom,
I think the problem(or structure of the challenge) is that we have a great experience and then we want that SAME great experience without realizing that there are many forms of enjoyment. It’s human nature to crave and attach, but often what we crave and attach to is our distorted and filtered memory of someone once they are gone. Human nature.
Amen Ross! Pure gold in there. Why worry about getting back the old Ford with all the beautiful Ferrari running through the world without true passion and love in their lives?
Guys, take a look at the BIG PICTURE. There’s a whole world out there! Granted, it can be scary at first but also full of rewards!
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I actually requested getting a bitchslap by someone I knew as a incentive to forget abouta that “one” girl. It worked. I now walk tall with balls of gold and proud of them!!! Get yourself a Bitchslap If you need one. then move one into SS world to see the wonders that await you….
do you bitchslap all your “customers”? in that case where do i sign up for one of your seminars?
/starbucks
@STARBUCKS! I am so honored you are reading my blog, my beautiful Swedish friedn! You can come to my seminars anywhere, anytime, as my honored guest. Du are mycket snygg! Har du sett min apa?
nah i won´t come if i don´t get bitchslapped.
are you attending my squashing seminar next month? it will be awesome!
Ok, Starbucks. We’ll save a slap for you!
Puss och kram, och hej da
RJ
hello, im in the same situation, although my fiancee doesnt hate my guts and i am still talking to her. my main reason for wanting to get her back is because we have a 2yr old daughter and obviously that i still love her. we were together for 10yrs and the main reason for the breakup was because she told me that she doesnt feel “inlove” with me anymore so she doesnt want to go on with the relationship, and it ended with us arguing. my question is how do i turn her back on and can i get that information from you being my ” master teacher, mentor, coach and guide for just $1″. i already signed up for the coaching program and any help you could give me would be great. thanx very much in advance and i hope to hear from you soon…jeff
@Jeff,
Sorry, I just don’t deal with this kind of issue. It’s like asking a heart surgeon to do your dental work. Maybe there is another way to get access to your kid. I wish you luck..
jeff ( and Sir RJ )
guys, RJ always tell us to reply like we have a pair – well in that case ok ! i think that there are real issues and real hurts about a guy losing a girl or woman he likes – especially if theyve been married and like jeff , there has been some outcome of the marriage like a kid or perhaps a business venture which is now in advocacy or jurisdiction …and this has already been quite common ( eg separation before divorce ) for a few decades now especially in the usa but now also in formerly catholic countries in europe where i am .so like Rj told us to , im gonna wear that my pair now ( although i wanna make it clear that i do respect what RJ said , that he doesnt deal with such cases – i respect his right not to deal with these – hope he respects my right to deal with them also ……i’d say i agree with RJ about stopping trying to impress them and all the other stops he has stated ….. but i’d say that doesnt mean you give up on them ….you see all the stops RJ has advised are to advise you to stop grovelling to her because that heightens that loss of respect she had for you in the first place ….with women, my experience is that it’s all about VALUE ….you gotta show them high value and it’s a magnet to draw them in ….i cant write it all here , so i end by saying stop those things RJ said to stop ….but dont lose total contact with them ….add value to your self and then see her change her attitudes toward you ….. i wont say more cos i respect RJ – it’s his blog not mine and i dare say i learned a lot from him .
Dear,
Do you have a course for men to seduce?
how can I learn and what is the price.
I saw your interview in the program on VTM (Goedele on Tuesday.)
very interesting.
I am a young thirty years old woman from Belgium.
Much succes!!!!
Best Regards,
Sara
@Sara That was a fun show. No, I don’t have one for women.
@Sara,
Girls come free(and I mean that many ways) IF they are:
1. Open to learning
2. Think I’m hot
3. Send me nice pics
I don’t want to get my ex back. I’m not in love with her, but she has the most amazing body, and I want to have lots of sex with her. We have kids, so I’m stuck with her. I want to make it worth my while. We’re getting along really well, now I want to steer this relationship to the bedroom. Can you help me with this?
pete – find out what she really respects and grow in those area(s) ….watch her change her attitude towards you …..see my post above to jeff, if you would .
Hello, I just bought this book and was wondering if this would be a good starting point to picking up chicks? I just want to make sure I am getting the right info…
The book is here: http://www.theartofaplayer.com/
If you could let me know if I should return it that’d be great!
RJ did say anything is possible – and so i totally agree with his implication – it’s not gonna be easy – so he suggested looking elsewhere
awesome post! I add a little confession. After months I wanted to meet again my ex, just to see her (honest), and I got back an SMS with some rubbish/excuse etc. I went through mixed feelings but when I read this I slapped myself (not to make Ross come all the way to Sweden) and laughed getting my good mood back