Dear Seeker of Success,
Sometimes guys want to learn more than to pick up women, master seduction, and get hot women into bed.
One of my students asked me for tips on how to get women to buy him, and I quote “lots of stuff”.
That’s right.
He doesn’t just want to be a master of seduction. He wants to be a master of acquisition as well.
Now, I’m all for choosing women who treat you well.
Hell, using Speed Seduction®, you can easily take your pick of the women you really want. And if that means women who have $$$ to spend and who spend it on you, more power to you.
However….this guy is making one
Huge, Fundamental Error In His
Thinking About Women
You see, focusing on the behaviors you want women to do, rather than the states of mind and emotions from which women would eagerly give you all those behaviors, is a big, big no-no.
Do you get this distinction?
It is the emotions a woman feels and her state of mind that determine what she will do.
So learn to create those strong emotional states of fascination, desire, lust, connection and “do this right now”.
From those states, she’s far more likely to bounce your bedsprings and think it is HER idea.
And when you want to persuade anyone to do anything it’s always best when….
…They Think It’s Their Own Idea!
I’ll note in a rather self-congratulatory way that Speed Seduction® teaches persuasive understandings you can use in any area of life.
Now, there’s one more crucial piece here that really will help you in your quest for satisfaction with women, and it will help this guy as well.
And here it is:
Make Sure You Pick Good Material
To Work With In The First Place!
If a woman is inherently a selfish person – if her idea of “giving” is to give you herpes – then you aren’t going to transform her into a loving, giving human being.
Or as someone once said to me, “You can polish a brick all day long, but you’ll never shine it into being a mirror.”
Has it been your experience that you’ve overfocused way too much on what you want women to do, as opposed to focusing on the emotional states you’d like them to be in?
In what way has overfocusing on their behavior blocked your cock?
Post your comments below me, ok?
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Knowing that, inside Rapid and Total Success With Women, you’ll learn the secrets of easily enjoying the kind of hot, amazing women you’ve always dreamed of…
…what will be your next move to claim your instant access now!
You just blew my mind Ross! :0)
@Steve
Better SHE blow your….mind. Apply this and you draw nearer to this result.
Post your comments “below me” :)) , ok?
@Google
First of all, I need more #1 rankings! Maybe spot me some free Google ads. What’s up with you pal? 🙂
Second, verily you draw near to the Kingdom of Sarge. In the spirit of the Grey Cat you have perceived and therefore received!
I love this blog, I get useful tips every time I visit.
@Mudvayne
That’s why I post all the time 🙂
ye basics above all.
feelings first is underestimated by a lot of guys..
you are a perceptive guy ross.
@Matrix77
That’s Inner Game.
Thank you, Ross!
I think this is powerful on multiple levels. In the past, I would have great experiences with women but it would quickly go sour when the ‘newness’ wore off. I would not only focus on what I wanted them to do (all the things they had happily done early on), I would also ask myself the useless question “Why won’t she do the things she used to do?”
The right thing to focus on would have been the states she felt that had previously lead her to all those pleasurable behaviors. And the right question to ask is “How do I lead her imagination in a way that will create those states… which will naturally lead to the desired behaviors?” (and best of all… she thinks it was all her idea!)
Practicing these new behaviors can be challenging… but the rewards are very nice…;^)
keep smiling,
ben
@Ben
At our seminars we spend some time on the inner game of persuasion, mental states, etc. Students come to the front of the room and do exercises. Some of these are included in our online courses, as most of the courses use seminar footage as the base foundation of the material.
Ross is a fuckin’ genius! I wish I could see him work day game in person, though I know he doesn’t do that stuff. He still single handedly changed the game though. Go for the emotions! Pure genius.
@Jose
It’s POSSIBLE I may revive the earlier idea of doing some in-field training. Not sure though. For now, I’m looking at possibly an event in LA this July.
Yea Ross, my results really improved the day I made the distinction on my own.
I remember it vividly…
I was thinking about this 20-yr old girl I recently met. (She’s a 10 dude, as my buddy says).
I was thinking about her bouncing up and down on my lap and LOVING every minute of it.
I asked myself “How do I make this happen?” but instantly caught myself and re-phrased…
“What would she have to feel like to want to do this?”
I wish there was a happy ending to this story already biut you’ll have to wait til this CUMming weekend. Hehe.
Matty Misery of Marketing.
@Matthew
EXACTLY!
Ross,
Can I NLP my way out of mental illness (anxiety and OCD)?
How can I stop ruminating on negative/hurtful things from all the pain I feel?
Maybe you can find a way to write a blog entry about this soon?
@Allen
Have you seen this: This Is Transforming My Life, And I Had To Share
SS is excellent but it assumes women have feelings.
I am sure about that.
@Jay
There’s nothing to assume. Of course women have feelings.
I had the mastery of speed seduction e file and made Calif notes and everything off of your teachings and had a lot of success in doing so so I want to say thank you for your teachings but thing is my hard drive has fell and since I’ve moved I can’t seem to find my notes so anytime that you post a lesson on here I am grateful for them
I try to remember all of the methods and the formula of which they are to be presented but being human your bound to forget a thing or two so these postings kind of keeps me sharp but there is nothing like owning one of your lessons to go back and reflect so once again thanks Ross the real boss
@JugheadJohnson
If you’re asking about getting a course re-sent to you that you’ve purchased? All the courses we currently have for sale are in an online members’ area. If the version of it that used to be on DVDs is available, and all your payments are caught up, we can give you access. Write to team@seduction.com
Embedded Commands, Tonal Marking or Not?
Most NLPers tend to mark off their commands with a slight change of tonality “When you FEEL ATTRACTED…”, and others say you do not have to mark you commands so saying “When you feel attracted…” works just as well. What are your thoughts?
@Frank
Mark it. But subtly.
Some people say mark it by pausing then shifting tone and pausing again like
When a person starts to… FEEL A CONNECTION FORMING… they are able to… GET EXCITED…
But I think the pauses draw to much attention to the commands so I usually just shift my voice such as
Have you ever met someone and began to FEEL ATTRACTED and the more you got to know them the more you began to FALL IN LOVE with this person? WITH ME its rare but when it happens it can make you FEEL SO GOOD.
On thing that helps is that most people walk around in a trance all day and only half pay attention anyway so even on my bad days I get away with it. I mirror people so obviously and they never catch on consciously. I would love to hear your thoughts on mirroring, matching, VAC and rapport!
I may get into these more in future articles on my Persuasion blog when I turn more attention to it soon.
In the meantime, you have the right idea – calibration. I see lots of calibration in what you describe. Keep honing your craft.
Love your work! How powerful are embedded commands on their own when slipped into conversations without trance words, rapport building, giving verbal descriptions of emotional states ect? Like using embedded commands as a stand-alone technique? For instance using 5 or 6 in the course of an otherwise normal conversation? What do you think the most powerful techniques are to use in conversation?
Embedded commands sometimes stand alone, but it’s the whole set of ingredients that makes the best soup.
Good stuff, so how do u get a girl into those desired states u want and get em to spend $$$ on u? Can u pls be more specific? I feel like once I understand and get this stuff going on in my life I can get girls to spend money to invest into ur proucts/courses like Speed seduction and mind wave persuasion etc to improve myself.