Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
I’m often asked about the best manner or vibe for a man to put out when he approaches a woman for the first time.
Though the specific questions vary, a few common themes emerge. Are cocky and funny good attitudes to exude toward women when you’re Sarging? Or, will a friendly and warm approach work better? Can you mix the two?
Well, first, foremost, uppermost, and important-most: postulating that ONE approach ALWAYS works is just silly.
Being cocky and funny the whole time is like trying to drive your car around in one gear. You have to be able to shift gears as the conditions warrant, or you’ll strip your gears. When that happens, you won’t be able to move forward.
So with that being said, why just have one approach?
A good approach toward women can start from any one of four basic positions, and move rapidly in between, back and forth, amongst the others.
You can start from ANY of these:
- The put on: saying something funny, designed to make her laugh
- Comment, question, observation
- The blurt-out, where you just say whatever is crossing your mind or whatever you are experiencing seeing her in that moment
- Genuine intuition
The best approaches combine 2 of these or start with one and move rapidly to the other.
As for being “cocky and funny”; many guys are quite capable of it, but you need to know when to drop it and rapidly display other aspects of yourself, unless you want to come off as a joke machine or an insult comic.
It’s one thing to approach life with a smile. It’s another to approach people with a sneer. Sneering shows some serious insecurities, doesn’t it?
The larger point is this: calibrate to the person(s) in front of you and notice what response(s) you get.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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How interesting I was just thinking about this I knew there was something not quite right about the way these “cocky funny” guys approached. It just does not fit my personality overall.
I generally keep the “Laugh with her not at her” attitude. And just mild, gentle teasing. Not teasing for teasing’s sake but only if I observe something that I’m comfortable commenting and it feels right and natural and not hurtful to her. I once made a silly mistake by laughing at her, not with her (2nd date, after making out with her on the 1st) and she felt hurt and insulted. She told me that what I said was mean. I didn’t apologize for it and then she was quite aloof and snappy almost the whole time that day. Cocky and Funny is a delicate balance to strike and I say it only if I wouldn’t mind it if someone said the same thing to me.
There was this girl on the street and texting on her phone. The police were right besides her so I didn’t approach her, but I did have a cocky and funny line to approach her. “Hey, its ok! I got the text already! I hope I didnt keep you waiting too long?”
To all the Sarging Brothers, Cocky Funny is not only a collossal waste of time, but it will set you back. If you are in a foreign country, it will get you yelled at and will not work. Take it from me, I tried it. It is not funny and if I ever run into D’Angelo, I would like to put my foot in his ass.
WARNING: Stay Away from C & F. Seriously, don’t do it !!!
I agree with Rheo.
When I was younger, I had a little bit of anxiety approaching to girls. I remember my mom advised me all the time: “Treat girls like delicate wine glasses”.
Now I look it back, “funny and cocky” way to approach was a component of sarging not the entire of it. That way of approach is like driving a racing car, you always need an alarm when to go slow down and get gentle otherwise you will give “unreliable guy” impression to the other. Remember the the ‘wine glass’, some wine glasses are tougher, while some are frailer. Girls in ‘Seeking more curiosity than safety’ category respond well to your funny and cocky way of approach, but only for when you’re up to collecting her attention. So it’s your job to observe one by one. Girls like funny and easygoing guys, but remeber their ultimate goal is receiving care and being emotionally protected.
I do think that cocky funny has its place during interactions.
If you do it with a sly smile, you can get away with a lot.
Hey David, do you mean David D’angelo?