Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,
A crush is defined by Dictionary.com as “an intense but usually short-lived infatuation.”
And sometimes they’re not “short-lived” but they’ll still CRUSH YOU as sure as a pissed-off python that decides it has a hankerin’ for a YOU sandwich.
Such as this student experienced:
Here’s the story. We’ve known each other for about a year now, as a result of meeting at a business networking function. We had lunch a few days later, and enjoyed each other’s company. Back then, she told me she had a boyfriend. Since then, we’ve had business conversations on the phone occasionally. I threw in some SS themes wherever possible. Every time we talked, we had great and wonderful rapport. She indicated that she is not comfortable meeting me in private, but invited me to visit her at her office for chit chat several times (I never went, because it seemed like a supplication to me). Recently, I moved away, so she’s now about 2.5 hours from me.
She’s adventurous, cool, fun, GF material, so I decided to give us one last chance. So I’ve twice left voicemail and also e-mailed her, but I haven’t gotten a response. So what gives? What went wrong?
OK: I’m going to dissect the daylights out of this.
For this past year, how much time have you spent thinking about her (crushing)? How much energy have you put into your projected fantasies about her? How many times have you and Jimmy wrestled over thoughts of her?
Look: this is the SINGLE worst thing you can do if you want sargy success. BANISH this habit from your mind, ritually. Retake ALL the energy you’ve dumped into this crush.
Imagine a giant machine, with huge grinding gears. Imagine all the energy of that crush being put through that machine, grinding it to pieces and then boiling the remains into steam that is purified into PURE energy for your peace of mind, grounding, balance, learning and attractive vibe towards women anywhere and everywhere. The smart ones being drawn to you without you even speaking and when you DO speak, that vibe and THAT vibe only is conveyed, regardless of the words you say.
Now, see how this crush affected the rest of your thought process.
“Great and wonderful rapport?”
Or so you felt in YOUR fantasy. I’ll bet a dollar that “great and wonderful rapport” is NOT what SHE said.
“Adventurous, cool, fun, GF material?”
What? WHAT? W-H-A-T?
Adventurous? But she won’t meet you in person? GF MATERIAL? A woman who won’t even meet you in person, who insists you come to her office for “chit chat” is GF material?
See, she is GF material IN YOUR CRUSHING FANTASIES. And thing is, I’ll bet a second dollar you’re not in HER fantasies at all.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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Right on Ross,
Thats all it is a Crush a projected fantasy I went through this myself and as you said you will have piece of mind when you let it go and recirculate that energy into something more constructive in your life.
Now that I let that stupid crush go women HOT WOMEN are finding me more and more attractive.
Why? Maybe because they sense the calm I have the free spirit I project makes them want to explore what I’m all about. Seems like the less you obsesss the better you progress.
Very good post!
Thank you RJ!
In the same way how us guys vibe with each other because we don’t want to get into each other’s pants, we have to do the same with women MENTALLY. NICE. “An idle mind is the devil’s playground.” It does take alot of self-awareness to catch ourselves as we start to AUTOMATICALLY have thoughts about the woman especially when she’s not around.
Hi
This is my personal affirmation list. It’s mostly to help me be successful with women but also has a lot to do with having self-esteem, confidence and a healthy psychological state of being. Feel free to use it and share it with others. It took me a long time to build this list and I have found it extremely helpful.
Peace
Beliefs of Naturals – My Reality
Read 3 times before bed and in the morning(do it for a for month)
Record in the second person. Play recording on a loop continuously at a low volume(whisper).
Play recording during the day and at night while sleeping.
1. Being with me is the best possible choice for any woman.
2. Women love men and especially love me.
3. I love life!
4. I am God. I am Perfect. This is my universe!
5. I am fearless, courageous and bold!!!
6. I read incredibly fast!
7. Women love sex and want sex from me.
8. My intelligence, creativity and potential is infinite!
9. Women love to be hit on even if they pretend otherwise.
10. I am completely focused, organised and use my time with the utmost efficiency.
11. Women are nurtures and pleaser’s who want to nurture and please me.
12. I am a self-assured, confident, sexual and dominant male.
13. Everyday in every way I am better and better!!!
14. I have complete control over my life, mind and psychological state of being.
15. I am the greatest genius this world has ever seen.
16. I heal instantly!
17. I am successful, confident and achieve my goals. I exude confidence, sex, power and self-esteem.
18. I can be, do and have anything I want to in this world, my possibilities are endless!!!
19. I love myself! I am complete, fulfilled and completely happy!!!
20. I am growing more beautiful and luminous day by day.
21. People love me! I make friends easily.
23. I read and meditate every day. I access all the knowledge in the universe.
25. I am completely irresistible to women!
26. Regardless of how she is reacting to me she is getting aroused.
27. I see the underlying truth in all things.
28. I am an adventurer! I travel the world!
29. Regardless of how she is reacting to me I am the prize she is trying to win over!
30. I am a multi-millionaire and master seducer!
31. I love what I do and am richly rewarded, creatively and financially.
32. I have a perfect photographic memory! I recall everything easily.
33. Since she wants to sleep with me, the power is in my court to decide whether she lives up to my standards and expectations. I get to decide if we get to sleep together.
34. I create my own reality!
35. Today I love my body fully, deeply and joyfully.
37. Today I open my mind to the endless opportunities surrounding me.
38. Prosperity surrounds me, prosperity fills me, prosperity flows to me and through me.
39. I have sex with super hot, confident, loving, caring and intelligent women with genius IQ’s all the time!
40. I think positively every day, all the time.
41. I attract amazing people.
42. My imagination and power affirmations are now creating the reality I desire.
43. My body is now trained to burn fat and build muscle day by day.
44. I have a six pack of abdominal muscles.
45. Let these commands be fulfilled!!!
46. I am filled with the light of love, peace, happiness, power, success and joy every day, all the time.
47. I am aggressive, direct and powerful with the women I desire. I radiate a confidence, self-control and charm that women find irresistibly attractive.
48. My mind is focused on what I desire and I go for it congruently and powerfully.
49. I take immediate advantage of my opportunities with women. I swiftly establish incredible rapport, gather the information I need, then close with aggression, power and finesse.
50. I radiate a natural, easy self-acceptance that women find irresistibly attractive.
51. I am mastering the responses, attitudes, behaviours, insights and timing that bring me irresistible power with the women I desire.
52. I am now approaching women that I am attracted to.
53. I am able to pick up and attract any women I desire.
54. I am a strong, powerful, aggressive, dominant, alpha male, leader and conqueror!!!
55. I am charming, interesting and fascinating!!!
56. I have a perfectly sculptured muscle ripped body.
57. I am super hot and sexy, all women want me!
58. Abundance is my natural state of being!
59. Money comes to me easily and continuously from multiple sources!
61. My IQ and intelligence increases daily rapidly!!!
62. I have clear beautiful skin!
63. I have lucid dreams and recall all my dreams with complete clarity!
65. All things are now working together for good in my life.
66. I am now attuned to my higher purpose in life.
67. I rule the world! I am brilliant and perfect in every possible way!
68. I succeed in everything I do!
69. I have sex with one thousand super hot women!
70. I am now enjoying everything I do and feel happy just being alive.
71. Sex with super hot women comes to me easily and effortlessly.
72. The light within me creates miracles in my life here and now.
73. All things are now working together for good in my life.
74. I am now attuned to my higher purpose in life.
75. I have the infinite creative power of God within me.
76. My higher self is guiding me in everything that I do.
77. God lives within me and manifests in the world through me.
78. The light of God surrounds me, the love of God enfolds me, the power of God flows through me. Wherever I am, God is, and all is well!
79. I ascend spiritually rapidly everyday all the time!
80. I am a Natural, Ladies Man and Player!
81. Everywhere I go women want to fuck me!
82. I have sex with supermodels daily.
83. Supermodels have an incredible desire to fuck me wherever I go!
84. I attract whatever I desire.
Ross, this is great! =)