Dear Speed Seduction® Students,
One of the biggest discussions in the “PUA” community is about being “Alpha” or “dominant”.
As I’ve said before, when you are seeking answers from “experts” beware of answers that are half true or incomplete.
In this video, I go into what it means to be dominant, as contrasted with abusive or domineering. Also take note of the responses of the female volunteer and notice how I am very subtle in my dominance.
Watch the video then tell me what you think:
Peace and piece,
RJ
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well it aint a mystery about this one… you hit it, right on the button Ross.. giving a actual understanding, quick and comprehensible about what it truly means to be dominant.. not some uncompetitive subjective, emotional projecting that some guys in this field do. subtleness will always win out to blatant and direct, you can do so much more, and go so much far with it.. i’m from NY and i regret not going to your seminar, that’s why i’m saving up now, for the next one.. i feel like Kevin Lomax, whenever i’m able to receive some guidance from you.. your truly at the cusp of something monumental with this technology, i’m thinking in terms of evolution, cosmic right Lol.. Ross, Major mark, And Shade are the only guys i’d study in the field of scoring, everyone else is still playing catch up..
I imagine a three steps stair where the woman is in the 2nd step. Being dominant is like talking to her being exactly in the 2nd step also. You´re not higher or lower, not arrogant or neither begging. It shows that you aknowledge her but is also concerned about your place. You´re not also being abusive, trying to put her in the lower step. That´s why even when you lead her from that place, it shows respect and creates rapport. It naturally flows from the beliefs you always teaches, not to take her initial response as written in stone, she can do whatever she wants, you control your energy, not attaching excess meaning on being accepted or rejected, speaking your truth is more important than getting into her pants. All these help to understand this concept.
Another metaphor i use to understand this is ballroom dancing. It´s usually known that, in dancing, the gentlemen holds the responsibity to conduct the lady, and in order to do that, both partners must keep their arms firm, not applying too much strenght nor letting it fall and being flacid. That makes the difference between a shitty dance and a good one. The key to being effectively dominant it´s showing this kind of mutual “firmness” with your words, your tonality, your posture and your vibe.
Cool Ross. Well demonstrated. Love your stuff.
Ross
Great stuff and informative, but we could use a lot more on this subject. How about creating a full single home study DVD on being the right kind of Alpha. Every day I see women that are either domineering rampaging witchs’ on steroids, with wimpy, almost effeminate guys or nice sweet girls with cartoonish, ex-convict, gangsta rapper stereo types. American men have become a lot more wimpy since the Kirk Douglas, Humphrey Bogart, Gary Cooper, Clint Eastwood men. The Femi-facists have emasculated and confused men. Women DO want dominant Alpha males. But because there’s so few left today, many look to the cartoonish types to fill the gap. (Pun intended)
Thank you for this video it gives me something else to consider with my interactions with women.
Watching you on stage really puts my simple girl-getting task in perspective.
These are good moments, when you bring a person to the stage for assistance with a demonstration
You display skill, both as an instructor and as a leader of others, and do both at the same time.
In this particular clip, you project all four attractive “vibes” while doing so. It looks so effortless.
Tell me. What kind of rehearsal do you do, prior to, and during, these events?
What “beliefs” do you install? What kind of “stuff”, if any, comes up for you during seminar that you “handle”?
Danny,
Thanks. I don’t rehearse at all really. That’s because I’m always thinking about these concepts. And also, when I teach, I go into another place that I can’t quite describe. It’s a profound and wonderful altered state for me. I own it. It’s mine. No one else in this community can touch me when I am there.
RJ
I am sure you remember me with the name Cool Fusion from the NY Seminar. What is amazing is that I don’t remember this episode detail by detail, but it seems that the concept of dominance got assimilated by my subconscious mind.
I went to a dancing party 1 week ago in a friend’s house, and I met a Swiss Girl, petite but with a great body. After we danced, we kept talking, and I applied this concept in my interaction with her (thing I am sure I have never done before. Now I realize that I had some issues with my past in this area, and I was really confusing dominance with abuse; so I never dare to do that to a girl). The result of establishing a gentle lead was that she followed me all the time around the party; later during the evening, I had the opportunity to use the Discovery Channel. That was one week ago, but this past weekend, just in our 2nd meeting, we had a wet and sizzling passionate night.
Nothing compares with a life seminar taught by you. The way you teach as you said it is not a typical classroom; it is interactive and effective. Even taking notes is not as important as long as the concept becomes a primordial part of the student. I didn’t even take notes of this part, but when I finished dancing with this girl, the concept of leading just flashed in my mind for a fraction of a second. The rest was just intuitive. The real miracle is that confusion between dominance and abuse is not there anymore. Everything is crystal clear. I even realize right now that my tonality and posture were new and powerful.
Diño is right; (perhaps he also teaches dancing 😉 In the World of Ballroom, girls love being led because they don´t have to worry about anything just being beautiful and graceful. The lead is gentle but firm and clear. A special connection is established between the 2 dancers, and it is something that I really believe, and therefore, I can passionately talk about it (and even make some patterns ;-). A melody, 2 dancers, 1 Heart.
PS
While I was with her it didn’t cross my mind to thank you; I was deep in other seas, but I am doing it right now. Gracias 😉
Cool Fusion,
Thanks. That’s what my career is about; creating positive and powerful change. I demonstrate what I teach as I teach it and that is why it works much better than taking notes.
RJ
You’re fucking right!
I think it´s also about showing the woman that she profits from surrendering to your leading, without having to submit herself. I mean, she follows your lead because she feels safe to do so, not because she´s feeling abused or overwhelmed. Following your lead is an expression of her active participation in the process and not a passive submission to something threatening. You´re also screening for her participation, since if she doesn´t follow you or show a shitty atittude, she is the one who is going to miss the chance to have a fantastic time.
this is really intresting rj though i was wondering how far can you go with this? like to what levels and one more thing which is what if the girl isent complying as much how can we handle that? Peace.
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This also ties into the concept of giving commands, in a more subtle way. My current gf is clearly motivated by this and it takes less effort to guide her in the direction I want while still being sensitive to her needs. It’s not always all about sex, it’s about leading and guiding and I know for a fact that is what most women want.
The ones that don’t are butch alpha females and not worth my time.
YOu should offer a traing program on how to deal with other ppl in public places that intterupt and disrupt you wrap with a woman…havent seen anything coverig this subject from anyone and its a really big problem when making intial contact.