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    Zarathud July 11, 2010, 6:26 pm

    I didn’t have time for a doubt delay dialog at the grocery store yesterday. I saw a girl that looked good, looked straight at her belly and thought, “I like it,” and went about my shopping thinking, “She looks just right exactly as she is today.” Walking towards the checkout she passed again looking slightly up and away and body somehow stretched out a little. I looked again, head to foot and then forward and remembered I forgot to get something something, then waited a while for the open lane because the cashier was doddling around with something and then SHE was behind me in line and then right in front of me bagging. I looked up, took a breath to say something at least once, maybe twice, but did not like the few words that came to mind (“how are you today.” “I didn’t think it was going to rain”). Afterward I came up with, “I bet you’re thinking something different now than you were an hour ago.” I’ll try that next time. Baseline energy was one cup of coffee over the top to begin with and when I saw the moment approaching, vibe went from playful back to “this is the BIG MOMENT” mentality. I know this isn’t a coaching forum, so I understand if you moderate. I’ve been using Inner Game techniques on a lot of past garbage, just that morning in fact, and also afterward. I still need WORDS at the ready and to that end I’m doing “remedial” work just being friendly and striking up casual conversations with anyone possible, especially not attractive women. I am the King of solid-block-of-text messages!

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      Ross Jeffries July 12, 2010, 2:33 pm

      Zara,

      I think you did well. In fact, I like your follow-up as an OPENER: “I bet you are thinking something different now than you were an hour ago”.

      And I’d then say, “And isn’t it an odd thing how many random decisions and events had to occur for you to be standing right there and me to be standing right here, talking at this very moment?”

      Work a bit more times at getting this phase of things “under your belt” and then move to a quiz or game as outlined in my 3.0 Course.

      RJ

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    Zarathud July 13, 2010, 6:00 pm

    Very cool. Thank you for the extra WORDS and the next phase direction (I was thinking way ahead of myself on the latter!)

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