Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,
All human beings experience a fair amount of self-doubt from time to time. Especially when it comes to approaching women.
Ever found yourself ten feet away from a chick who was the best looking babe you’d seen all year (or at least all week), there all by herself in the cafe reading a book, looking like she’d probably like it (or at least wouldn’t slap you silly) if you went up to her right now.
But you don’t do it.
Instead, you have this endless, pointless conversation in your head and find any excuse to avoid putting yourself out there.
Eventually she pays the check, closes the book, and walks out.
Whew – at least you didn’t get rejected. By her at least. You just want to…
…Tell Your Doubting Voice To “Shut Up Already”
So You Can Get Some Action
Here’s the difference between a Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training (MIT) vs. the Average Frustrated Chump (AFCs): the MIT has learned to recognize when the “doubt delay dialogue” is happening (or about to happen), and stops those feelings dead in their tracks.
How do YOU Get this?
You see, developing a “monitoring” state or awareness that checks in and recognizes when you are beginning to have less than useful responses; THIS awareness is a great gift. It’s quite magickal.
You see, NO ONE is in a good state ALL the time. That’s not what we want to aim at.
What we DO want to aim at is knowing our own unique patterns of thinking, feeling, acting and being able to recognize quickly when we are going in a less than useful way; interrupt it effectively, and get back on track.
This skill isn’t very sexy; it’s not like being able to levitate, turn invisible or walk through a wall. But it is very, VERY powerful.
I’ll tell you what IS sexy: the results. It’s sexy when she puts that book aside and turns to you, and you use the vibe as a down payment for an all-expenses-paid-for-two journey on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Quieting the rancor of self-doubt is based on a belief: that your feelings and thoughts and responses CAN be put in your awareness and CAN be brought under a good measure of direction and control. And it’s based on a value that doing so is VALUABLE, even necessary. Click here to learn what gets you this awareness and control…
I didn’t have time for a doubt delay dialog at the grocery store yesterday. I saw a girl that looked good, looked straight at her belly and thought, “I like it,” and went about my shopping thinking, “She looks just right exactly as she is today.” Walking towards the checkout she passed again looking slightly up and away and body somehow stretched out a little. I looked again, head to foot and then forward and remembered I forgot to get something something, then waited a while for the open lane because the cashier was doddling around with something and then SHE was behind me in line and then right in front of me bagging. I looked up, took a breath to say something at least once, maybe twice, but did not like the few words that came to mind (“how are you today.” “I didn’t think it was going to rain”). Afterward I came up with, “I bet you’re thinking something different now than you were an hour ago.” I’ll try that next time. Baseline energy was one cup of coffee over the top to begin with and when I saw the moment approaching, vibe went from playful back to “this is the BIG MOMENT” mentality. I know this isn’t a coaching forum, so I understand if you moderate. I’ve been using Inner Game techniques on a lot of past garbage, just that morning in fact, and also afterward. I still need WORDS at the ready and to that end I’m doing “remedial” work just being friendly and striking up casual conversations with anyone possible, especially not attractive women. I am the King of solid-block-of-text messages!
Zara,
I think you did well. In fact, I like your follow-up as an OPENER: “I bet you are thinking something different now than you were an hour ago”.
And I’d then say, “And isn’t it an odd thing how many random decisions and events had to occur for you to be standing right there and me to be standing right here, talking at this very moment?”
Work a bit more times at getting this phase of things “under your belt” and then move to a quiz or game as outlined in my 3.0 Course.
RJ
Very cool. Thank you for the extra WORDS and the next phase direction (I was thinking way ahead of myself on the latter!)