Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,
In past editions of this blog, I’ve delved into how to Sarge when you’re out somewhere without a wingman and you’re trying to “break in” to the circle when everyone else seems to be there with all their friends.
Well, here’s a question I’ve been asked several times in the past couple weeks (that also comes up often in our live seminars, group coaching calls, forums, and discussion groups):
What do you do when the woman you’re interested in has an overprotective “guy friend” around?
When you try to find out if he’s her boyfriend – “So how long have you two been together?” – she says “Oh, he’s just a friend. We’re not boyfriend/girlfriend.” However, it seems like he’s always around, interrupting every attempt you make to create excitement and get her all giddy wanting you, not to mention inserting himself into every single conversation.
When he’s not around, she mentions him frequently, often beginning sentences with “(insert his name here) says…” or “(insert his name here) thinks…” Even if she didn’t say the words, you just KNOW that if you and her ever got in an argument, he’d be in your face “defending” her.
So, how do you get this guy to stop c**K-blocking you, when he’s not even her boyfriend?
First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most, let me ask you:
“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”
That being said, before you go any further, consider the following.
- Simple fact: he’s “around all the time” because she wants him to be. That’s the bottom line. This overrides all.
But, that being said:
- Could be, she’s not on the market. She might have a boyfriend who’s on an extended trip (in military service, long-term overseas client project, etc) and this guy is a friend of theirs who “looks out” for her as a favor to her boyfriend
- Maybe he’s consigned to her “friend zone” and he comes from a place of scarcity and “hangs around her” to keep what little she gives him. If that’s the case, he has a vested interest in sabotaging every man who Sarges on her.
- Have you tried befriending him, or do you just go silent, sulky, and mopey-faced when he “interrupts”? When you show the world that you are a positive, engaging person, you outshine the AFC competition. Remember: you don’t have to outrun the bear. You just have to outrun the other guy the bear is chasing.
Maybe it’s #3. Open yourself to the possibility. Give her a chance by giving him a chance. However, if he really is giving you the third degree and is there entirely to cause you problems, you might gain some clues from what this student did.
Peace and piece.
RJ
P.S. Ready to get control of your life and your social situations and start meeting, flirting, dating, seducing, and sleeping with sexy, beautiful women, fast and easy… no matter who’s around?
I must say that almost never something like this happens to me, simply because i don´t let it ever happen… If i´m talking to a girl and, after being friendly to everyone, i want her attention outside her circle of friends, i usually directly state this: “May i talk to you alone for just a sec? There´s something i would like you to answer me…” then by the very nature of the questions i make, it´s implicit that it is a only two persons conversation. If she´s not responding well and keeps coming back to her friends, what usually it´s not the case, i tend to “exit stage left” and go find my satisfaction elsewhere… If some friend keeps interrupting i may politely state to him: “Sorry, but may you excuse us for a sec, i´m trying to understand something i asked her, and i need to pay her full attention…” if she´s into the conversation she´ll probably endorse my request, and if he still keeps interrupting that may even give me a good reason to take her alone to some other place…
Also, this is not the most important things of all, when you get good at this, you can sarge anyone in plain sight of whoever may see it, sometimes it makes the sarge even more powerfull, simply stop giveing importance to the presence of her friends and she´ll feel you want to talk to HER, once she´s hooked, nothing in the environment should be trouble.
RJ is DEAD ON ACCURATE on this one. (As Usual).
A Guy, or ANY Guy is ONLY around because SHE has made the deliberate behavior choice to have him there to specifically run interference for her. Now, he could be the proverbial “Oh, I’ve Never thought of her that way. . . we’re just friends” supplicating AFC (and typically is). You ALL know the type, if he shows her incessantly that he’ll supplicate, show submission and obedience to her she’ll see he’s a “nice guy” and “really cares about her” and someday she’ll see him in a different light. (Snicker. . . Some guys never learn). He Could be her gay BFF. But the fact of the matter is he’s there because she wants him there. DO NOT limit your options with women by wasting a split second of your time in that frame. Once you see that “same guy” is always around like an intern, or other unpaid employee, politely excuse yourself and walk away to widen your options immediately. Remember, EVERY time this supplicant cock blocks you, he’s shit-testing you for submission to him! Like RJ said, never limit your options. Walk away and let these two play their masochistic Female Master/Male Slave Game.
Ross, I am dissappointed, why not take all the good feeling she has for him and anchor it to yourself, turn it up……….etc etc and use her self anchors to …. and close the deal quickly. (Speed)