Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Let’s talk about using physical body movement and gestures to paw your way out of the Friend Zone.
Before we begin, so you know: this is kind of counter-intuitive.
Note also: there are different kinds of friend zones. This does not apply to women you used to f@@k but are no longer f@@king. This is for women who you’ve always been caught in the friend zone with.
In the latter case – if you’ve always been caught in the friend zone with her – there are a few things you can do.
First, allow there to be awkward silences. Keep eye contact and let her look away.
Second, be 10% more aggressive with your touching. If you’re going somewhere, hold her under the arm and pull just 10% to 20% more aggressively than you normally would. Show a little bit more aggression.
Lean into her and relax your body against hers, and see how she responds to it. If you go to hug her, relax your body against hers.
Just gently, for a few seconds, rub the small of her back, and then pull away.
Third, just be a little more volitional. When you’re with her, put your attention in your feet when you talk to her. You’ll just be present in a different way.
This next one is quite interesting…
Get Her Thinking About It
Every once in a while, if you want to and if it can work, you can also say, “Hey, I hooked up with this girl. Oh god, I don’t want to tell you what we did. Don’t even think about it.” If you see her access it, anchor it.
You could try it over the phone. Say, “I hooked up with this girl. I don’t think I’ve ever been that crazy before. Never mind. Don’t even think about it.” Then if you see her access it, watch and she how she accesses it. Then you can grab hold of it. Do you understand?
[Hey, did you catch the subtle languaging technique? If not, click here for a related topic.]
These are just some counter-intuitive things to help you get out of the friend zone.
Of course, I don’t recommend you get in the friend zone in the first place.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Involving yourself in her fantasy scenarios with a simple, seemingly innocent question is just one of many things you’ll discover at a live, in-person Speed Seduction® seminar.
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Ross I have always heard you talk about putting attention (20% of your attention on your feet) I’m curious to know in what way will you be present in a different way?
@Hell
Just do it and find out for yourself.
psychologiclly speaking the foot is the most honest part of your body
Your Feet Point To Where Your Mind Desire
I just read your post about using negation. I’m curious about whether using negation when posed correctly is more like using skepticism to bypass resistance.
By that I mean, since you are telling her not to think about it, she wont resist the thought as something you are trying to force on her. And also, it’s doubly re-enforeced because you are saying, don’t think about the pik elephant in the room.