Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,
The other day here on my blog, I delved into the difference between a woman deliberately trying to manipulate you, versus her need for safety and control by self-fractionating.
As I explained in that post, there are a few basic things that set up and create her willingness for seduction/trance etc. These factors make any patterning you do much more readily received and usually are factors you generally CAN control.
Now, recently, a few students have commented on my blog posts because they thought I was saying that sometimes, you cannot control the woman’s response. To that I would reply by beginning with: sometimes, factors that are beyond your control CAN work in your favor.
These include:
1) She happens to be among the 15% of the population that are sonambulistic; that is, she will readily accept and make real ANY set of suggestions anyone gives to her. She will sit with her doggy dinner bowl as you recite patterns word for word, go right in to trance and have exactly the responses you want. CAUTION: she also has a loose grip on reality and when she makes YOU her grip on reality, watch it when you try to get that grip to loosen.
2) You happen to match her “checklist”; you have the height, weight, looks, age range, job, status, etc. Given that, any patterning you do will be very well received.
3) She happens to be readily open and looking for whatever it is you happen to present, so it matches her perceived reality; she is looking to get laid that night, you present that opportunity in your patterns, and she jumps on it.
4) She has hidden/suppressed needs and the patterns bring those needs to the surface. You grab on to them and link them to you.
Now What If…
What if none of these factors work in your favor?
What if she’s not suggestible to ANYTHING? What if you don’t meet the criteria on her “checklist”? Perhaps she’s not interested in getting laid at all, and she’s so intent on NOT getting laid she might even catch on to your patterns? Her hidden/suppressed needs aren’t rising to the surface tonight?
Consider this:
- Despite all of the above, a woman’s current response should rarely be taken as her final answer. More likely, she’s responding to what’s in her mind and her world AT THAT MOMENT. That can change…in a moment.
- Why did she pull out her “checklist?” Is it because you took her on a “date” complete with dinner, movie, and a “romantic walk” in the park? Remember: dating is what you do with women you are ALREADY sleeping with. Also note, the checklist CAN change.
- Her looks might be hotter than her libido. Look around. Ask yourself. “Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”
- Remember what I say: “Interested in the girl, invested in mastering the skills.”
Could any of the above apply?
Peace and piece,
RJ
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I think your last bullet point is the most important Ross. With continued investment in mastering the skills you become more aware, over time,of many of the common issues that may arise when an hb is resistant to your approach and everything else will become second nature. You become the master seducer!
I think the second to last point is also very important to keep in mind. Who cares if she’s a 10 if she’s a dud in bed. Better a 7 who’s “really” hot…(or even a 5, oh hell I don’t remember that far back, don’t listen to me)
Ross,
After thinking about my previous post, I do have a serious comment/question about self-analysis in a wider context than the sarge. I’ve done *A LOT* of personal development over the past 7 years. Seduction has only made legitimate priority in the past year and I’ve only gotten laid once (in the last year that is) and that with an old interest via FB.
So part of me is saying, “I didn’t get laid, why is he still getting paid.”
But I have seen tremendous improvements and am still using Inner Game material on a regular basis. What I’m doing right at this point is staying calm, holding my space and acting respectfully (among other things).
My question/comment has to do with self-analysis. A major turning point for me was working with Energized Hypnosis (Dr Hyatt) 6 years ago and working through a self analysis survey (which I’ve repeated several times) that showed very clearly that the areas I was focusing on were not really productive for me at that point.
I guess Nail Your Inner Game does cover a lot of that ground, but listening to Riker’s Technical Manual, I’m thinking that relying on random opportunities, however more plentiful they are becoming after working with the energy and belief material in the power pack, is not giving me enough context to PRACTICE.
I mean with a walk up, there are women out there, not shying away from me, but they aren’t exactly making it easy and there’s only so much I can do to get myself warmed up ahead of time without psyching myself out. I’m just not moving fast enough in the situations.
Well I guess there isn’t a specific question in there, but any comment would be welcome.
Zara
The last quote is everything, is the key one. “interested in girls, invested in mastering the skills”. That´s how we men should think about seduction.
And as you say Ross, keep the core intact, control where energy goes so nothing affects you.
Thanks for your advices,
cheers