Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Thought you’d enjoy a field report from the master himself 🙂
It was a Monday. Dinner time.
I go to a place nearby where I’ve spotted hot women. My intuition and observation both told me that going evening time would be the best time to be at the place.
I walk in around 6PM, get my food, and sit in the “cat bird” seat.
For those of you who need some refresher, “cat bird” is that place where you can make eye contact and observe virtually anyone walking in.
I notice a girl come bouncing in. Something very vibrant about her and she had a fantastic ass into the bargain.
As she got closer to the register I thought, “Damn…you just made my Monday feel like a Saturday afternoon”.
(For those of you who are wondering, I’ve just found that my most effective “lines” are those that reflect what I’m actually thinking or those that incorporate something in the situation that the girl and I are sharing).
Now, she was on her phone as she walked by my table so I didn’t want to interrupt her call.
She sat down facing me at a table two spots down. I waited til she was off the phone and then I said…
“What are you enjoying there?”
(This is a “pre-opener”. Something I deliver to soften and prepare them for the real “opener”).
I forget her answer. Then I looked at her and I said, “You know, I just had to tell you that I saw you when you walked in….and there is just something so….vibrant about you…..that….you made my Monday feel like a Saturday afternoon”.
She blushed, put her hand to her chest and said, “Wow….what a fantastic compliment”.
I immediately went into a little quiz/game, “So..are you a roller…a folder…or a tosser?”
As they usually do she said,
“What does that mean?”
I said, “Let’s say…by some quirk of nature….it turns out WE’RE REALLY…GOING…TO LIKE EACH OTHER…just feel that CLICK(I pointed to her crotch then raised my pointed finger up to her heart)..we’re going to our ideal vacation spot..where you’d go if money were no object and we had all the time to do what WE REALLY WANT..do you roll the clothes, fold them or throw them.”
I could see her visualizing all of this-she’s an awesome trance responder!
She took a few breaths as her pupils dilated and she said, “Folder on the way there, but on the way home, I toss them!”
I shook my head and jokingly said “Ah, damn. I thought you’d be someone I wanted to get to know!”
We both laughed at that.
I said, “Actually I have a theory that says that any random test you make up is as good a predictor of whether two people(gesturing back and forth from me to her) are really going to click as any psychological personality profile.”
I nodded and she nodded back.
I said, “Hey, I don’t want to yell over to you.” I got up and said, “Do you mind if I join you?”
She smiled and said,
“Please”
I sat down and said, “Let’s see if we are snack compatible”.
I then went through the snack quiz and let her see that yes, we were.
Ok. That’s it for now. Comments? Questions?
What am I doing here with her?
Why do you think I’m playing in this fashion with her?
Share your thoughts…then head on over to Part 2.
Peace and piece,
PR (aka RJ)
P.S. Our live 3-day seminar in Los Angeles, March 29-31, will include “Ross plays with girls” demos so you can see these tactics in action.
What – you haven’t registered yet?
You should just have slammed all kinds of heavy patterning until she had to “excuse” herself to the ladies room
thanks, this is really helpful, btw i just had my first try and miss, theres this girl who works at a mall, i wanted to talk ti her for sometime now, so i saw her and decided to talk to her, i start to get really nervous so i used the “focus at your feet” thing, while i figure out what to tell her, i just said something like “i just wanted to get to know you” she smiled back and said thanks, i said “maybe we can go out for cofee sometime” she said she didnt have the time cause all the time is either working or at school, so i politely said good bye, a few days later i returned trying to get her to come up with a way, but all she thought was ” maybe in a few months when im on vacation” so maybe is time to move one
anyways thank you,
Hi, does she also study on friday nights?
maybe she is not ready or you did not do the language properly. if she cannot make time in her busy schedual to have coffee. maybe you should move on.
thats exactly what i thought.
I think you are using quizes so that she has to work to meet your approval, at the same time, keeping things light and not to intense, just the right amount of playful.
This is great. I always seem to flub up the transitions into games and things, finding myself thinking of the “common” smalltalk type things (what’s your name, where do you work, etc.) and taking a minute to come around to the games and stuff. I guess it shows I’m still not very comfortable with the process overall. This shows that you can just go from one thing to the next without having to wrack your brain for questions and things that will come across as being what every guy asks about.
Thanks.
Now, I know how important it is to be in the right state of mind when you approach someone. Every morning, I do during 10 minutes the 2 breathing exercises you gave when I went to your New York seminar in 2010. That seminar was great! Thanks to these simple exercises I feel more aligned and quiet in my mind.
Say when you first meet a girl, you actually do feel that sense of incredible connection with her where you imagine having all kinds of fun in the future together. Would you actually talk to her about feeling that as a pattern as in “you know, when I first met you I really felt that incredible connection, you know when you meet someone…” Or is it too much of a compliment/supplication to tell her that she made you feel such intense emotions right away?
Here the great seduction guru RJ is trying to connect with that girl using the quiz game (roller, folder, tosser). Once the connection is established, he is trying to build on it with snack quiz…i’m very curious to hear the rest of the story.
Ross, as always you are a genius. I like your new concept “something in the situation that the girl and I are sharing”. Tell it all now the juicy story and don’t drag it in parts…
It all sounds familiar right up to actually starting the conversation. The “pre-opener” is something I haven’t paid much attention to lately. I also get a big ugly feeling about asking friendly questions like that and I know know exactly when it started in a context that no longer applies so I guess it’s time to let go of it and I even know some ways to do it. Thanks for bringing that into focus.
You are indeed playing with her and doing so first of all to take some of the pressure off of the interaction. You’re basically distracting her conscious mind so the two of you are free to interact energetically and find out how good of a match you might be. You are also screening her on multiple levels because you really aren’t going to waste time on someone who isn’t a very good match. Finally, you are setting the frame buy “playing,” that whatever good feelings you are building together are first and foremost just for fun and enjoyment and not tied to anything more serious.
You’re playing with her in a way that she opens to you and tells you something that you can use. I just wonder, can you use something besides that game because you see, I’m not in english speaking country and translation is just bad. It doesn’t sound good at all in my language, so I was wondering can you use something else in that situation. Was there a book she was reading or some object on her that you can comment on ?
Fun blog.
You area creating a fun time with her because it reflects her vibrant bounce she walked in with. You want to let her know that you are screening her and she has to qualify to be with you. This, of course, all started because of her ass. I wonder how it ends.
Awesome natural approach Ross. Love it.
Stumbled across this opinionated article earlier today. Would love to see you respond & explain the reality….
http://www.seductionmyth.com
Hey Ross, Nice to see you at it again! =)
I will also soon start doing walkups, hopefully next week or even this week.
I have to tell you about what increased my energy, I don’t know if u got my message at youtube speedseduction?
Also sent u on twitter about strenthcamp breathing (on youtube). THAT exercise released tension in my throat and chest and stomage that prevented me from speaking with resonanse for 7 years or so. I feel great now, and with the more energy I look forward to finally be able to do walkups, since u need energy and feel loose when you do it.
Best to you Ross
/Sleight
Ross, you could have done some disvovery pattern and used a sliding anchor to turn those feeling way up high, reachored it and then isolated again, etc. There are 100 places to go. Good Job!!
i am finding it hard how you can see her pupils dilate if she is seated two tables from you. i have not been able to find any fractionation, i look foreward to the next part.
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“I said, “Let’s say…by some quirk of nature….it turns out WE’RE REALLY…GOING…TO LIKE EACH OTHER…just feel that CLICK…” I see the command that you two are really going to like each other. The command sneaked into her unconscious. “Let’s say” looks like you are quoting you and her, unconsciously she will take it as you qouting her.
The “click” part is you clicking her clit. I…wonder…did you smell or lick your finger afterwards?? 🙂
“if money were no object and we had all the time to do what WE REALLY WANT..do…” I see a suggestion to do what you two really want to do; it appears to be a lack of referential index because you do not say what either of you like do. It leaves it up to her to see, picture, or imagine what she likes to do with an aging, graying, skinny geek.
Am I getting it yet?
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