Dear Seeker of Success,
I’ve heard the objection many times.
Some people say that the girl-getting patterns and phrases I teach smart guys to use when getting a woman irresistibly aroused are so obvious that chances are, the guy will get “busted” and “shot down.”
Like, the use of emphasis and nonverbal cues that I teach you to use while saying “it’s on” and “below me” for example. I was asked this question by a student:
Many of your methods are so “obvious” that chicks can tell what a guy is doing, so he “gets caught” and she has a negative reaction.
For example, your method of stacking realities with quotes of alluring sexual content — she KNOWS what I’m doing and why I’m saying it, so she doesn’t buy into it when I do the “weasel phrases” or position it as something “someone else” saw or read someplace. No, she blames me for being a pervert.
How can I calibrate the interaction so I know if I will get a negative reaction? Can I counter-object and “save the Sarge”?
I’ll let two of my students answer this one.
Student #1:
“Yes, It Has A Name”
When the woman noticed his innuendo and asked what he was up to, with a friendly smile he matter-of-factly told her, “Right! It’s called ‘flirting’ and it’s what a man does when he meets a woman he’s into.”
(Note how even in his retort, he plants a suggestion.)
The woman who “caught him” shrugged and said with a little grin, “Oh ok…I was just asking.”
By staying true to who he is and what he gives to the world, this student was able to resume the Sarge without skipping a beat.
Student #2:
“I’m Doing It For Her”
During a conversation with a sexy woman about reality TV shows on getting women, another student mentioned my name.
The woman said, “Oh, I know who Ross Jeffries is. He’s one of those pickup artist dudes. Do you actually DO that stuff? Waaaaait a minnnute … you DO do that stuff! I can TELL!”
My student’s response: “As someone who knows what they want when they see it in front of them, doesn’t it make sense to get more of what you want? If I wanted a woman who is perfect for me and vice versa, wouldn’t I be doing both of us a favor by learning all there is to know about making you happy?”
She agreed and dropped the subject.
No, actually, I correct myself. She did ask about Speed Seduction® again….
At 3:00 AM, with a dreamy grin on her face, after a steaming-hot two-hour makeout session with the guy.
Yep, that’s when she asked.
Don’t Get Caught By The “Gotchas” –
Use Them To Score Instead!
Counter “getting caught” with truth and integrity and use my teaching to claim more of who you want in your life (and in your bed).
Peace and piece,
– RJ
P.S. Using the amazing principle of “Participation Illusion”, you’ll be able to be as blatant, up-front, and totally balls-out and never have to worry about being “caught”. Strongly lead every step of the way, yet have her PERCEIVE she is an active co-participant reaching for what SHE craves to have!
With this principle – contained within Secrets of Hyper-Response and Core Attraction – never worry about “being caught” or “buyer’s remorse” again! Claim yours now!
The best protection against “getting caught” is positive beliefs about her and yourself and what you’re doing. If you’re still the in mindset of speed seduction being a violation of the laws of attraction then of course when you get any “resistance*” you’re going to freeze up because you believe some humiliating punishment is about to collide with you at your most vulnerable area. But if you truly believe what you’re doing is an inherently good thing, and you have sympathy (compassion) for her subjective world, then of course you’re more likely to respond with: “if I wanted a woman who is perfect for me and vice versa, wouldn’t I be doing both of us a favor by learning all there is to know about making you happy?”
“But what about the lies you recommend to start out things like The Discovery Channel Pattern? Since the man using this pattern almost certainly did not watch a Discovery Channel show about roller coasters, this pattern has a lie built-in. “
Try seeing it from her point of view; as far as she is concerned you’re taking her on an exciting imaginary roller-coaster ride. This is an inherently good thing, remember? You’re going to get her to go places emotionally that previously took half-naked heavy foreplay. For that reason precise factual details don’t matter, but if it really bothers you instead of saying Discovery Channel why don’t you say Youtube… and then watch some roller-coaster videos on Youtube?
Good points. There’s an inner-game that goes with it.
I agree with truth and integrity, and these responses seem fine to me when “caught” flirting.
But what about the lies you recommend to start out things like The Discovery Channel Pattern? Since the man using this pattern almost certainly did not watch a Discovery Channel show about roller coasters, this pattern has a lie built-in. And most of your examples of using quotes involve lies as well, which encourages your students to ruthlessly lie to get what they want in life, to create trust with rapport and using her words, and then to violate that trust by lying.
Truly great communicators are flexible enough to communicate what they want with honesty, setting a solid foundation for mature relating. And true magicians know that honesty and integrity are the most powerful tools for infusing one's words with true Power.
Steely Dan (above) beat me to the punch with part of my response. Scroll up and read it.
Another tactic, and this is very key to Speed Seduction, is to adapt your stories and patterns to turn them into a story. Instead of “I was watching the Discovery Channel pattern” change it to “A friend of mine was watching this show, I think it was on the Discovery Channel, it might have been a YouTube video, I can’t remember… anyway…. have you ever been on a roller coaster and…” (see how that cleans things up?)
The patterns and phrases were designed so they can be adapted to YOUR situations with YOUR women and tweaked as necessary to align with YOUR truth. In fact I teach my students to be aware of the embedded suggestions, language, etc within the patterns and know how that works. That’s actually more important than it having been a video you watched on the Discovery Channel.
See?
You know the truth is that I have never been “caught.” Even with women I have know for a long time who have never heard me use a seduction pattern. Unless you are being a total creep, with you energy, vibe, or tone, this is normal for women. I used to fear this at one time; but, after practice I have learned that it was my fear being projected onto them. Even then they did not seem to notice it.
Tonality and vibe. Tonality and vibe.
Students have sent me videos of their Sarges, and the ones I find creepy are the ones where you can tell they spent hours and hours rehearsing every word and trying to mimic MY exact tonalities, instead of mastering HOW THE FUCKING PATTERNS WORK so they can adapt for THAT WOMAN in THAT MOMENT and use her feedback to guide the seduction, rather than bulldoze through her by reciting a sermon.