Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but tend to choke at “the closing”.
That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.
But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they drop the ball.
In fact, just recently, I received the following email from a student:
“Ross,
I have had your home study course for a while, but have been tripping over my own dick for the last year.
I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed opportunities because I am used to being “shy” to make the move.
My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice looking 18 year old. I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and she kissed me. I still didn’t close the deal!! Sounds pretty sad huh?
This kind of interaction has happened time and time again, even before I bought your course.
The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset after the fact. I am willing to do what you outlined in the newsletters in order to become a more calm and confident version of myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not after the fact.
Am I the only student you have had that can’t close the deal when the girl kisses him?
Thank you in advance for your response.”
Ok, let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.
In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.
We call this fractionation. Simply put, you put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time. Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.
I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they will be FAR more receptive when you turn the heat back on.
So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes, then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and then resume.
We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.
Now, as for why this student didn’t “go for it”, I think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger than we are used to getting.
Over the years I have seen this happen with many students: the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do. As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery ticket in your hand and you are staring at the numbers because you can’t believe you won!
I remember one story in particular, about a student who had just gotten his copy of Speed Seduction® and used some patterns on an attractive woman at his church social.
She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”
The student said, “But the pastor is going to be coming out with the congregation any minute!”
She said, “I don’t want the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang me!”
Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the job, so he wound up having to take a raincheck!
The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success! Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.
Peace and piece
RJ
P.S. You can have all the success with women you’ve ever wanted right now, when you join me for 3 days and let me show you how it’s done. Click here now to register for one of our upcoming 3-Day Seminars (Chicago is next weekend!)
Thanks Ross 🙂 I heard about going in and out of rapport from Michael Beale when he was talking about pacing and leading. I don’t know it was called fractionation though.
Can I ask a question? Lets say you’ve gone in and out of rapport about 3 – 4 times (by using pacing and leading). When is the best time to slip in a pattern/s? The begining, middle and end, or just at the end?
Ross,
Is that stacked brunette in the black bikini posing with you on your Facebook page Sara Stone?
Who?