Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,
Today, the movie Going The Distance opens in theaters.
For those who haven’t heard, it’s a “romantic comedy” (yet another attempt by the romance industry to turn smart men into Average Frustrated Chumps or AFCs) about a man and a woman who meet, have a “summer fling” and then travel back and forth between San Francisco and New York City to see one another.
I am not telling you to NOT see the movie. If you do, try to have compassion for the male character, Garrett, who according to the IMDb.com description of the movie “…has always had a problem with commitment and understanding what women want… he learns the hard way that he cannot speak the female language…” (FYI, I’m in Los Angeles. Garrett, write to me, let’s do some private coaching.)
Second, I am not telling you to NOT ever engage in a long-distance relationship. I AM going to caution you about some of the realities associated with long term relationships.
Why “Going The Distance” Might Get You Further Away
From Suck-Sess With Women, Near And Far
Long distance relationships sometimes work. Here’s something to keep in mind, if you are thinking about placing yourself in one.
You’ll be doing a LOT of communicating by email, phone, and IM. Now, it’s one thing IF you have already been f@@king like weasels BEFORE “long distance” and “relationship” become part of the same statement (like, if one of you gets a job in a new city, the other can’t move because of THEIR work, but you together decide to try to make it work).
But if you declare yourself “in a relationship” with some stranger (and yes, she is a stranger) you met on the internet PRIOR to f@@king, you run the danger of her merely enjoying the fantasy attention. I see WAY too much of this happening anymore. One of two things will happen.
- When you guys “take the plunge” and decide to meet in person, you might get an email from her the day before your flight where it becomes clear to you that all that “ooooohh” and “aaahhhh” and “I waaaaannnttt yyyooouuuu” she was typing in the “naughty box” was just her acting out a fantasy.
- She’ll find a man locally who can please her, and she’ll hit the power-off button on you, since at that point you’re just “words on a screen.”
Remember: you never know where you stand with a woman until you make that first SERIOUS physical pass, so I don’t consider a woman a serious prospect until AFTER we’ve “gone the distance” in the sack.
And one question for you: if you are in a long-distance relationship, is it really a relationship, or a crutch so you don’t have to risk “going the distance” with the wonderful, willing women who are HERE, NOW?
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. If I were on the writing team for Going The Distance, I’d add a scene where Garrett goes to my website and orders Speed Seduction® Rapid and Total Success With Women.
It would make for a pretty short movie, though, as he wouldn’t have had to work nearly as hard to claim the success with women he deserves. Ready to “go the distance” with your girl getting game? Click here to learn how
Yes, this is a similar situation I am in now. I’m in Canada, Toronto(new York of the north) and she’s in Vancouver San Fransico of the north. I told her I want her to be bisexual. Hence, drew Barrymore. And we communicate by my apple laptop and iPhone. Hence, Justin Long.(I’m sure you know the feeling Ross, cough Tom cruise, cough) I started e-mailing her when I got to Vancouver from vacationing in LA to watch the olympics. she was interested. But I moved back home after the games.(east coast) I was bored (living in my parents basement again @ 28 :-P) and so I kept e-mailing her making her feel very special. She has always had a crush on me and the feeling was somewhat mutual. But now that I’m back in Toronto their is so much hot tail walking around I will be fine. I was just depressed and feeling like an AFC, it happens, I felt like George Costanza. Btw, I like when you take recent movies and tv shows and incorporate them into your newsletters. It’s pretty cool. But as far as this situation goes, she saw me at the highpont in my life, when every cylinder was firingl. There is part of me that feels like with her. I can be at that peek again. And she is very talented herself. She’s a sketch comedy writer and her stuff is pretty good. And I’m the kindof guy that when a female comedian does her stand up on TV I immediately change the channel. Plus, she’s fucking hot. I don’t want to give you her information, but she’s of polish ancesteroy, 5″8, Blond hair, blue eyes.Jennifer aniston Type looks, she’s a good 8/10. But I like her personality. she’s funny, confident and has my back. So I think. This girl IS special, but I don’t want to move back to Vancouver or have a long distance relationship like in that movie. I guess I will have to see the movie to get a mirror view of the situation. But if you’ve got any thoughts(your students also) buy all means please leave a comment below.I’m confused. Btw, today is my b-day!
Another piece of finely tuned propaganda to discourage the “player” mentality. And it’s always the man who engages in these things, and by implication women are the wholesome and borderline asexual creatures hell bent on a relationship they probably are setlling for anyway but keep alive with sheer delusion.
Well gotta get going, need to find my soul mate so we can produce offspring to consume things and join the military……
My favorite part was the p.s. and that the movie would be cut short! =)
I never saw the movie and probably won’t.. I could spend the 90 minutes or more watching you, Ross or outside talking to girls. I would agree 100%. It is a mistake to assume some chick loves you when you’re worlds apart and you still aren’t getting any pussy on the side.
My long distance relationship consists of jerking off to the Eurobabes and guys at Eromaxx. I love the orgies they put on and one day I’m gonna travel down there and finally meet and fuck my heros!
Actually.. I would need to do a Guys Go Crazy probably before a Mad Sex Party or a Bi-maxx. But, that’s not even necessary. Because there are actually quite many college girls I know that love to party and do the grown-up..(not sure of their tastes in group though..) so I could just take them and get all-access pass. I mean, how’s it EVER going to get back to anyone they know in Ohio that they were fuckin’ and suckin’ and lickin’ and slippin’ and slidin’ in Czech?? Problem is: I need more money for travel and such. But, that won’t be long!
Cheers!
Flying across the country to see a girl might be a good idea. One could break the flight into three legs leaving a good eight hours of Sarging time between flights. The stewardess are a lot more friendly than most guys think. And when it’s special fun, they sometimes call you when they come through town.
cant wait to get my hands on the 3.o course
I think Long Distance Relationships can be better than typical ‘close’ relationships in several ways. First of all, you’re not all up in each other’s business all the time, constantly around each other and getting on each other’s nerves. Second, when you do see each other, you’re so hot for each other it’s like a sexual marathon. Third, it’s normally understood that you’ll both have other people on the side closer to home, so you’re not all freaked out with thoughts of infidelity. I’ve got girls in several states whose doors are always open for me, and vice versa.
I like the phrase “fantasy attention” because it’s such a simple summary of that common denial that doesn’t even require a long-distance real-hate-shun-ship to distort one’s thinking. Well put.
Ross!! your insights are most brilliant!!
My response is more like a question!
I’m currently chasing a tail that lives halfway across the world. we sort of dated back and forth for a while and had sex with her once, that was the night i took her virginity. Since that night, I have never seen her again. We are now friends on Facebook, she is still drop dead gorgeous – I’d say she’s a 10 but a 9 for me until ….
I’m a relationship type of guy, a smooth that’s using Speed Seduction 3.0 to get girls and yes I’m getting laid but I live in a small town – not too many hot girls here.
So anyway, me and that girl still have feelings for each other and I’m thinking about a serious relationship. Her career is picking up for her while I am on the rebound from a recent divorce and debts.
(PS: i bought the SS-3.0 after my divorce)
What is it that I like about this woman? She very charismatic, romantic, good teaser and shows focus on having fun with one guy – in the past, she’s only opened up to me after she felt she could trust me!
Now guys give me your best shot, what do you think is best decision right now??