Dear Seeker of Success,
Does playing hard-to-get make you more attractive to women?
Will letting her know you’re displeased with her make her want to give you more pleasure?
These are among the questions asked my a student of mine:
>I find out sometimes I show dissatisifaction with women and can get more control over them. They will ask what they can do for me, am I satisfied, et cetera, like they are afraid of getting me angry.
>So I would like to ask here, are there ways to test women like they will test you at first to see if they will take your bullshit? Should I “sometimes” ignore women or teasing women, I don`t know if this will make me more attractive to them? I think control is a little like attraction, is that right?
Alright, let’s dissect this…
- Control is an illusion. Humans are chaotic, complex, and at best, you have influence.
- Do you want “control” – or what you perceive you’ll get as a result of “control”: more priority, more respect, more compliance? “Control” is really just a tool to achieve these other things. If you can get these other things without “control” then fantastic.
- I would express dissatisfaction as part of an overall strategy of letting people know where they stand and where **I** stand. I wouldn’t do it as a tactic to create compliance. I’d do it to set things clear and make sure people(male, female) etc know my rules and that I DO have rules.
Now, it is true, some humans, and some women (the younger and less sure of themselves) do need and do respond to being dominated and “controlled” at every turn.
The problem is, this is a royal pain in the ass and a lot of work.
Not what you want.
You Want A Human Being Who Can Initiate
And Take The Lead On Occasion.
I do NOT want a mindless slave who fears displeasing me at any second.
To attract HEALTHY women:
- Create great feelings in them and link them to you
- Take those feelings away if they violate a major rule of yours that you have told them about or if they continue to violate less major rules. The worst “punishment” is to withdraw your company and attention.
- Call them on their bullshit WHEN they do it, in a firm but fair way.
BTW if your rules are that they must ALWAYS do as you say, must NEVER disagree and must NEVER have desires of their own that don’t include you, then your rules must be immediately repealed and replaced with something healthy.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. When you know what to look for and how to use a woman’s emotional responses, she will actually provide almost all of the energy for the seduction.
In the Rapid and Total Success With Women course available to you right now, you’ll learn to do this through both learning the skills and doing the drills.
Great post. I’ve watched guys who’s modus operandi is seeking control. Seems like it initially works for them but over time, karma catches up and their facsimile of a relationship turns into ugly drama. Bottom line is that seeking control is based on poverty mentality which invariably leads to self-fulfilling prophecy.