Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
In the initial phases of seduction, a little “tension” can be good. “Give her a little of what she wants, then pull back and make her work for more” is a generalized way of putting that.
But what if you’re the kind of person who, when shown affection or appreciation, responds with higher levels of the same? What if you do so to the point where the other person gets burned out on your presence?
This can be challenging indeed when resisting the urge to be affectionate is difficult, or otherwise no fun.
So, what to do?
I would say, first and foremost, get a full experience of the actual physical feeling of giving affection and apreciation.
What is the feeling flow in the body?
Pour all of your attention into that, turning off the internal talk and imagery.
Every few seconds, note out loud if the feeling is the same or if it is changing.
Feelings can change in many ways: intensity, shape, duration(short bursts or long waves), direction of flow, continuous or separated by patches of empty or much lesser intensity.
Do that for a couple of minutes.
This will give you great awareness so that when the feeling/urge begins to arise you can have awareness and choice.
Also, look at how much of your desire to nurture, give affection is done because it is more comfortable than say, being commanding or aggressive or strongly sexual.
Don’t get me wrong; you can be tender and affectionate in your sexual expression too.
And, above all, look for women who will lap it up. There ARE women who want kindness and connection and safety rolled into and surrounding and perfusing through their sexual connections.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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who’s that butt ugly minger in the pic? Did you use a git scouser?
@RJ,
“And, above all, look for women who will lap it up. There ARE women who want kindness and connection and safety rolled into and surrounding and perfusing through their sexual connections.”
I love three types of women A) Women that pack a lot of sexual heat, B) Highly playful females who are really beyond the worry of what their friends or anyone else thinks C) The type you mentioned above even some that need a big safety factor as long as they are strongly kind and affectionate.
The affection we guys give them should not be friendship affection. There can be highly erotic affection, and with some calibration we should be able to “read their minds” as to when they need a little more — direction, dominance, or passion. Or all three.
I am very affectionate so if I sense a woman wants that then they will get that from me, but only if it seems a natural progression from vibes and sarging Many women will eat this this stuff up if you are careful and pay attention to what you’re doing.