Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
As I once told a friend of mine who asked me how I could take being “rejected” by women, “I never get rejected. I just discover if a woman has good taste!”
Now, I admit, that’s a pretty extreme reframe. But notice the fun state of mind it created for me.
My actual attitude in any situation involving women is: “I will either get what I want (or better than I imagined) or I will enjoy the process of learning what I need to get what I want or better than I imagined”.
Now, just imagine holding THAT belief in front of you as you consider approaching a woman you’d like to meet.
What it comes down to is the MEANING you assign to approaching women that determines what you will be able to do.
Here is an example:
I have had SO many students tell me they can’t even talk to a beautiful woman. I always ask them the following question.
“Ok. Suppose that stunningly beautiful woman you “can’t” talk to was standing there and I guy was coming up behind her with a knife raised in the air, about to bring it down on her and stab her. Could you talk to her then and at least yell, “Hey lady! Look out!”
Every guy I have ever asked that has at least said “yes” and many of them have said they would go on to try to take the knife away from the guy.
I always say,
“Congratulations. That’s talking to a beautiful woman!”
They always look at me kind of funny and say, “well, that’s different. I would be doing something good for her, in that case”.
Wow. As if talking to a woman and giving her the chance to possibly enter your world ISN’T A GOOD THING?
Really the only difference is the meaning YOU assign to it.
Instead of the woman being the judge of your value or attractiveness what if you just viewed talking to her as a way to enjoy seeing what she was like and even to see how much fun you could have playing with her?
Or you could go really nutty with your imagination, get really playful, and imagine she was suffocating and there was air in your sac!
I admit that’s extreme, but it sure beats viewing talking to a girl as a life or death situation.
The bottom line: rejection cannot exist in a properly directed mind. There is only the meaning YOU assign!
Hey…that sorta rhymes! Now write it down, 100 times!
The key here is to stay playful, have fun and assign the right meaning, the meaning that serves you, rather than the one that stops you in your tracks.
When you stay playful, your life will be “playful”.
Ha ha ha. This is fun. But the rhyming is done. (OOPS!)
Here is an email from a student who let that playful attitude serve him very well:
I really have to thank you for all of your hard work and dedication to redressing the balance in the power of men and women
I have been a student for over six years now and have had some mind blowing results, but the most important thing to me is the fun you can have doing this when rejection no longer even exists in your PREVIOUSLY negative mind.
I’m hope there is no need to give you specific stories as there really are to many to mention and “doing the thing” with women within just an hour of meeting them was unimaginable, until I had your coaching . . .it then became the norm.
I believe that students need to adapt it to their own culture and environment, but that goes without saying and thankfully you give your students the tools to do this.
I have actually found my ideal partner in life now and because of your material it was totally by choice not because it “was the best I could do”.
I am 39yrs old with no money [ too lazy there ] I would say I was only OK looking too , but my partner is just 21 and a HB 10, she has an amazing mind too [very important]. . . people are all ways in awe and ask ” how do you do so well with women”.
So thanks again and please keep up the amazing work so that you can help people to make themselves as happy as you helped make me
I hope your students never give up on having FUN with this and how easy it becomes with practice (not for the lazy ass or people shut down to fun).
A million thanks
Dave, England”
Dave, you are welcome. And let me say that the key here IS to keep it fun. If you start taking any of this too seriously, you will cut down the power of the techniques and get in your own way.
If you have ever seen me teach, I am constantly joking around but I take what I do very seriously. I just don’t have to approach it in a serious way.
I also very much appreciate your point about having found a life partner totally by choice and not because it was the best you could do.
When men come from true power and choice, that is when they can be truly loyal to a woman. Not because they gave up, but because they at last had the tools to STEP UP to the quality of woman they have always truly really wanted.
Peace and piece
RJ
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I am a girl and I love reading your newsletter Some of the mindset can be applied toa girl dating a guy as well do you agree? How far can I use this? The patterns work too?
@Payg
A girl? That’s not allowed! You are not given permission to read this blog.
Damn it__I missed the magick seminar.
Great stuff u write ROSS. You never fail to open my eyes to new ways of thinking As soon as I have the money I am going to invest in all your products. God bless you.
Thanks Ross
I agree with Dinel Goldmen.
Beyone IQ.
Wheno you are at a social club. You see a lady dress up we’ll nice. That means she see looking for someone to provide.
“I never get rejected. I just discover if a woman has good taste!”
You also never get rejected if your own screening criteria includes only being interested in someone who is at least a little bit open to engaging with you right then and there.
G’day Ross,
I want to give you some feedback on approaching women and how it can be lots of fun. I cannot remember which of your emails I read (Sorry mate) that I got and used the material that you posted.
Imagine a 50 year old blond playboy bunny – Hugh must have missed this one- anyway, I have seen her a few time at dancing but have not really spoken to her as she really stands out from the rest of the women….. and I really mean stands out and besides I am surrounded by women when I do go dancing.
In February I saw Yvonne at the dance but as I was booked for most of the dances I did not get a chance to meet her and when I did she had left.
Two weeks ago I saw Yvonne again at the dance and on seeing her I walked up to her and said:
“I feel terrible that I did not meet you last time and I began to realise that I would never get to know if you are a lady that I want to get to know because well I don’t know what you are like.”
Yvonne said ( laughing): “I am a terrible person when you get to know me.”
And so followed the chit chat—
It turn out she already knew a lot about me, my name , my age, where I was from, how often I go to Sydney, what I do etc.
A little later Yvonne walked up to me and asked for a dance – first time she has asked a guy at this dance venue —- as guy buzz around her like blowflys in a bush dunny.
After my dance with her I indicating that I would catch her next time – she indicated she would be there on the 25 March and I said: “Great but I will see you after that as I will be here on the 23 March.
Yvonne said: “Sure you cannot make the 25th.”
I said: “Sorry I have to look after my mum and I need to make arrangements for someone to look after her when I come to Sydney.”
Yvonne said: “Ok I will meet you on the 23rd then.”
Just before she left she came up to me to tell me that she was leaving and I said: “Hey, you can come up and talk and be with me anytime because, you do not have to be scared of my age as other women are.”
I did not touch her or attempt to kiss her I just said: “See ya” and walk straight over and asked another woman for a dance.
Ross your material really, really, really, works.
PS I also met a woman that said she could not have sex unless she was in love with the guy.
I said: “Yes I can understand why that would be important for you; and I am curious as a lady friend of mine, who just met a guy said, while love was nice what was really important to her was that she felt a connection with the guy and she got the feelings that she wanted to experience from the sexual experience – she said it was all about the feelings.”
The woman replied – “That right! It’s all about the getting the feelings.”
What is the point —-notice that love did not get a mention as Ross constantly indicates a woman’s first response may not be the same as her final response.
Ross – Thank you.
See Ya
Grey
Hey ross!
I’ve had the opurtunity to have alot of other gurus, but I chose you, so I need you to help me now mate.
I’ve buyed all your cd’s and stuff, the problem is that I have a hard time understanding it, or that someone must have done something to those files, anyway, could you please help me?
Love
Charles
@Charles
Not sure what you mean by “understand”. Do you mean you don’t comprehend the ideas, or the sound quality is garbled?
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