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Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,
In this video(which is #3 of 10 in my Youtube Beyond Dating Tips Playlist) I discuss the nature of approach anxiety-what it really is-and how to destroy it so you can enjoy the ability to approach and pick-up(and seduce) hot women with ease.
I have a radically and fundamentally different view of approach anxiety; I don’t view it as being about fear of rejection or even fear of the approach
Rather I view it as neurological friction; the result of two equally powerful and conflicting desires arising in your neurology at the same time.
What are these?
The desire to move forward and talk to the woman(or women) and the equal and opposite desire to stay right where you are and not say a word until you are certain that what you are going to say and do will work.
Let me give you a metaphor to understand.
Suppose I gave you a radio-controlled toy car. And you gave it the command to turn left and turn right at the exact same moment.
What would the car do?
I think you know the answer.
It would freeze up and spin its motor until it burned out or the battery ran out.
Is this beginning to make sense?
A huge breakthrough will occur when you now realize that approach anxiety isn’t really that at all. It’s internal conflict manifesting as neurological friction and cognitive confusion.
Now there is one more complicating factor and that is the meaning you give to the feelings of neurological upset.
If you conclude that the anxious, or rather FRICTION feelings means that you face some external threat-that you are about to be rejected, defeated or humiliated in the external world, then you are going to create secondary anxiety about that.
Now, in addition to the internal conflict, you get to add in a nice dose of fight or flight syndrome.
So what is the solution to all of this?
Watch the damned video. And if you’ d like to go directly to Youtube to watch, and so you can help me spread the word by rating and commenting on it, then it’s How To Destroy Approach Anxiety And Approach Women With Ease.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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Hi Ross, I watched all ten of these great videos a few days ago. I learned a lot from these. They're awesome !!!!
Ross – just a thought / question I have have just had. It also has to do with conflicting desires, or maybe conflicting beliefs would be more accurate.
1) Allowing a woman to tell you 'let's just be freinds' is a hypnotic identity you do not have to accept from her – one needs to maintain one's own intent.
2) One needs to screen out 'flakey' women who are wasting your time, make it clear you are not some super desperate beggar prepared to be a girls 'fall back option'
How does one balance these two beliefs, the energy behind them and become aware of which action to take – that is either try a different approach or 'exit stage left'?
And yes this does relate to a current situation I have – a great energy with someone, tremendous results with the sarge but it has hit this sticking point. Thanks.
Ross,
It's time to write your autobiography.
It's time, brother.
It's come to the point where it is no longer about the message. It's about the arc of learning and understanding the message.
It's time.
I use it when I was anxious to go to a new group session aerobics environment, I focus on the inside anxious feeling and felt it changing in a second,and i didn't buy in to the internal dialogue of unusual ,and i can tell,,, It works like a charm,!!!!I Felt changing very fast inside my heard…But this exercise, still didn't do the magic with the chicks becos I live from time to time to meet up chicks,so I never know when is the time to meet exactly,so the the fear and anxiety wont be their at a forecast way that I can focus on to compress it
What to do Master Ross?????
Regards
Blebleblebe JT
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Fears are the factors that make every men fail on their approach. It is best that you try to assess everything first and boost confidence before approaching a woman. Women are very observant they would know if your not confident and it would turn them off. It is best to overcome those fears and make up your mind if you really want her then get her.
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Great blog Ross! I agree. Ps….I have your SS system and its been great so far!