Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
One of the ideas I keep returning to is this: “I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It is almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and almost always subject to change.”
Now, this idea is central to my skills with women, and not just in the initial approach.
It also applies to that dreaded but common female syndrome: Last Minute Resistance (or LMR).
(If you’ve ever been getting it on with a girl, making out like crazy and suddenly she appears to grow fearful, cold or uncertain and stops you with a “This is going too fast” or something along those lines, you’ve experienced LMR.)
I Had Her Buck-Naked, And Dripping Like A Leaky Pipe,
When She Suddenly Brought Up The “Boyfriend”
So let me tell you about this one weekend where I had a lovely lady in my hotel room and we were both in our birthday suits getting all hot and bothered.
I pulled her to the corner of the bed, slid on my “Willy Wonka Wrapper” and had her legs in the air when she pushed me away and said, “No … My boyfriend. I just can’t do this to him.”
Now, listen: I had no idea this lovely lass even had a “boyfriend” as it had never even come up before this moment. So all of you absolute moralists who want to write me hate mail, feel free-but you are as wet as she was on this one.
What I Did With Her “LMR” That Had Her Hopping
On My Turgid Meat-Pole
Immediately, I stopped what I was doing and lay down on the opposite side of the bed from her, to give her some space and diffuse her discomfort.
“Hey, I understand,” I said. “I don’t want to do anything that we aren’t both comfortable with and I want you to be certain, YOU WANT TO DO THIS.”
(By the way, I meant that. If she was not certain, I was no longer interested. I never force, pressure or push women-it’s disgusting and low-class. I’m a seducer, not a brute.)
Then a thought hit me.
“How about if I put on my shorts? That should take off the pressure” I said.
So I jumped up and dramatically pulled on my boxers, which got a laugh.
“Tell you what, let me get dressed completely.”
And that’s what I did. I got fully dressed then lay down on the bed, while she was laughing hysterically the entire time.
“Wait a sec,” I said. “Let me put on my coat. That should help you feel extra secure.”
So I did exactly that, and buttoned it up too.
By this time she was in hysterics, laughing. She kept saying, “Stop, stop! You can take your clothes off if you want.”
But I wasn’t done.
“Let me put on an EXTRA pair of pants. That will really render my c**k harmless.”
And that’s what I did-I took a pair of pants I had draped on the couch and pulled them over my jeans.
“There,” I continued. “Now you are really safe. But I’ll get under the covers while YOU stay above the covers and don’t think about sex.”
At this point she was crying with laughter and said, “You are sooo funny. God, I’m turned on again.”
Then She Did Something That Shocked Me
In between gasps of laughter she managed to blurt out, “This is really turning me on.”
Then, I kid you not, she spread her legs wide, spit on her fingers, and diddled herself dripping until she moaned out, “F-me”.
And so I did – after all, a gentleman doesn’t refuse a lady’s amorous requests, however crudely worded.
What Are The Lessons You Should Learn
Let me summarize the essence of my adventure:
- Sometimes a woman’s objections may feel very real to her. I don’t think this girl was faking her temporary distress.
- If she is uncomfortable at any point, don’t go pressing on. Pressure is for brutes and the clueless. Stop and give her space, physically and emotionally. Seducers NEVER pressure, although we do test boundaries. The difference can be subtle but the difference is sometimes quite clear.
- A master seducer improvises. I had not ever used the “put your clothes on in exaggerated fashion” move before.
- By taking her need for safety and exaggerating my response, it allowed her to dis-appate her anxiety through laughing her ass off.
- Fractionating a girl between starting and stopping and starting and stopping really works. If you don’t do it, she’ll often do it to herself and stop herself. Throw laughter into the mix and you have a potent poonani pulling cocktail.
- “Boyfriends” often mean next-to-nothing.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. From now on, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.
With what I teach you throughout my Rapid And Total Success With Women System, you’ll remain calmly in control as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.
that was brilliant RJ and very funny 🙂
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I like this article and Got the Concept of this Article.I made some of my own seductive tricks just now while i was reading this article.I Really like this.
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Ross Jeffries firing on all four cylinders: leadership, understanding of her world, fun and playful, authentic and vulnerable. Girls know when they are right on the edge of going wild with it. They know that they will change into a different person for a few minutes. Often, with a new guy, they think that you too might change in some way that will make them uncomfortable and want to back up. So they back-up first just to see what will happen. Is Ross great in trenches or what!
Sheer Genius! & Happy Birthday Ross!
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Please help, anyone…i am constantly stuck in my head. I do not know how to stop. i am terrible in social settings of any kind. I am not at ease talking to anybody. I cant put into words things i remember to say. When i have something to say it seems to me off putting to others, before i say them. So i usually say nothing. This has plagued me all my life. I am 21 and am sick and tired of not having much of a social life when Ross’s adventures are possible.
can i get some advice on being more social and trusting of my thoughts?
My mini-epiphany yesterday: If she’s really eager to be approached…hmmm, I just ended a mini-fling because she was getting ahead of me. My bad on mismanaging that one, but moving forward, I’d rather she’s “resistant”. Takes the pressure off of me to do it for her. So long as I’m safe, respectful, and pleasant, the more she “resists” the more I can focus on going for what I want and allow her to do the same.
This follows on a previous understanding about not saying “no” for her. It’s actually kinda sick if you abstract what that really means. Does a “nice guy” think he’s being considerate by assuming she wants to say “no”, but is too weak to do so? Isn’t saying “no” for her taking away her right to say “no”. There’s another name for that.
[…] First, you can exaggerate it to the point of humor. Many of you have heard how I overcame LMR by putting on two pairs of pants. […]
Ross, You are FU @*#)& Genius
I want to give you another testimonial, but more importantly, I wrote my first patten, field tested it and I am ready to share it word 4 word with my Sarging Brothers. I use synesthesia, implied compliments, posture, curiosity, and pacing and leading, etc. This 5 minute pattern has women begging you to call them and I made it up based on all your teachings. I call it “The Puppy Dog Pattern”
Here in South Beach, Fl. there are literally tens of thousands of mind blowing incredible women that walk there dogs all morning, afternoon, and early evening. And I discovered a pattern that uses screening.
OK, here it is. First you see the girl and the T Cup Yorkie. First thing, walk straight over to the dog AND COMPLETELY IGNORE HER> (Even though she is a model that should be on the cover of JUGS Magazine, ignore her!! For the first minute or two just look at the dog, Do some baby talk to the dog and introduce yourself to the dog. (Remember she is listening and know knows your name. By now she is introducing the dogs name. That is alright, touch the puppy’s tummy and say “I love you.” etc. Next You can stand up and pretend that you just noticed her. Next make like you are going to walk away, and the say “Excuse me, can I ask you an unusuak question. When you first saw this beautiful creature ( Frame your face and gesture to yourself ) ( and use lots of pauses for dramatic effect) Did you “FALL IN LOVE IMMEDIATELY, (Snap your fingers) Or did it take you a few minutes to REALIZE that you had to take creature home with you. ( Self point) I go on for 5 more minutes and then I use SRT. Wholy shit. I take her self anchor for love and tie it too yself. Then some more patterns and wow. She will not let you leave without promising to call her. I am not good at typing, but this is just part of the “Puppy Dog Pattern” AND IT WORKS!! No biceps or begging.
If you want the entire patten, please have your sectretary call me and I can go over it with you or she can record me do it verbally verbatum.
@David B
Nice patterning there. Although I wouldn’t waste my breath on models. Don’t have a secretary but shoot me an email at ross@seduction.com and include your phone number and/or Skype ID and we’ll see what happens.