Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
It often comes up that a woman who has recently gotten out of a long-term relationship will be reluctant to sleep with you.
Even though she wants to, really bad.
A student of mine received an e-mail from a woman he had been Sarging and things were really heating up. A little confusing with a “WTF” aspect to it, for sure. But, check this out and then I’ll tear it up:
“I’ll be really honest with you here. I enjoy talking to you and I think you would be great in bed. But there are a couple reasons why I’m not going to sleep with you. One – I am still very in love with my ex boyfriend. Two: I really enjoy talking about sex with someone that I’m not sleeping with. It’s just so much more honest. I’m sure that makes sense. See you Thursday, looking forward to it.”
It’s right in front of your face…
This Chick Has ALREADY Made Up
Her Mind To Sleep With You
She needs an excuse in her mind so she can feel blameless; “well, I TRIED not to sleep with him and even told him “NO” but I just couldn’t help myself..it just HAPPENED”.
Note what she said, “I think you would be great in bed”.
STOP! How could she “think” that without FANTASIZING about it?
Just say to her,
Hey…I’m glad for your honesty. Whatever we each and BOTH feel, I don’t want to do anything unless it is BOTH something we are BOTH thinking and dreaming about and totally want to do. So let’s just relax, enjoy each other’s company and only in whatever ways are comfortable and we BOTH want to do.
This takes the pressure OFF.
Then keep right on Sarging..when you start to undress her and she resists just say…“We BOTH can’t help ourselves!” then fairly aggressively peel her panties off and enjoy the “lift-off” of the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.
And that sure beats a poke in the eye!
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Remember: a woman’s first response to you should rarely be taken as her “final answer.” More likely, she’s responding to what’s in her mind and her world AT THAT MOMENT. In 24 hours from now, 1,440 minutes will have passed, each with a reason why it’s possible she’ll think differently.
Sound like a lot to manage? Not if you have this on your side and in your corner.
Ross, I love you. You are the man. From what I see 97 % of all the other dating coaches are crap, but you are the real deal. I love you.
Soon to move back to the United States, Sabra
The negation pattern also should be a great way to keep the things rolling when he actually meets her…
Another really good one by the undisputed champ of seduction. I know this is off-topic but I have a really good question. Do you do anything PROACTIVELY to get that great voice of yours like do you NOT eat certain things (dairy and caffeine supposedly makes your voice scratchy and dehydrates it), do you have a vocal coach etc…? Thanks for the advice.
@Abe
Actually, I love coffee and eat cheese like a motherfucker.
I just worked on my voice, consciously breathing into my abdomen and practicing until I could speak with resonance.
RJ
You are right woman are natural ss’rs pulled this off a FB posting from a woman club promoter who was promoting a bar filled with men from out of town for a convention who were visitng this bar en masse:
“Come to Blah Blah Pub, ladies! So many single business men from XYZ corp! Plus we’re open on a sunday, it’s kinda a big deal”
Come=cum, “so many business men”=men with money/influence ” it’s open on a sunday kinda a big deal” scarcity big=well you know if anyone knows the attraction pattern:)
A guy called her on it ans he had a hissy fit and said it meant something else
LOL!
I think that it was Freud who said that “a denial was as good as an admission”. Nice to know that idea extends to man’s eternal quest for nooky.
Bravo! I would have missed that one.
Coffee and cheese are good. I do recommend practicing your voice if you don’t always use it a lot (e.g. writing code all day). It makes a big difference. I don’t know if it’s just my perception, but the guys I work with seem to be resonating much more pleasantly too now.
Ross,
I remember 12-13 years ago you teaching a trance voice technique that was the most profound improvement for me by breathing and making the AAAAA, EEEEE, IIIII, OOOOOO, UUUUUUU repeatedly with resonance. You called it the 10 hour orgasm or something. Is this something you still teach or is there something better?
@Entertain
I had forgotten about that. Took that one from Bandler. Should reintroduce it.
RJ
The guy ‘abe’ has brought up an excellent point. Voice is very important as much as its tone, pace and variance. But back to Ross, I’ve read some of your stuff but this article on LMR has caught my attention and believe this area of deniability by her, comes in many forms not obvious to the average male especially yours truely. Another form of deniability is when this girl I met described her sexual orientation through the words spoken by a psysic back to her when she was visiting as a tourist in Paris. Does this make any sense ?
@Albert
Yes, she is using quotes without knowing it! Most women have at least a basic grasp of SS methods without even being aware of it! I just love the female of the species!
I’ve been using this stuff in spanish and let me tell yah, it works. So for all those brothers that questions whether or not you can use this for indian/asian/black/middle eastern women etc… Just do it. It’s not as tedious as I thought it would be (creating language patterns in spanish as well as translate the ones ross teaches). A human being is a human being. period. Lotsa fun seducing those really smoking babes the kind you see on those spanish tv channels.
@Abe
I am seriously growing more convinced that, after getting past some initial jadedness, the HOTTER the woman, the easier the seduction. Why? Because she’s been bombarded with so much of the same thing, over and over, that YOU stand out as rare ,unique, scarce and totally something she MUST chase down and have.
Just gotta control the state through the initial seeming ‘bitch shield” and then try not to lose it when you are pumping a perfect ass into oblivion.
To be poetic about it, of course…
Thanks Ross
LoL at your response. Alot of my own personal state issues (maybe alot of people or everyone can relate to this) came in the form of lust. For example, as I go to approach, I would AUTOMATICALLY make mental movies about the woman doing “nice” things (hehe) for/to me. Throwing away my porn collection was one of the best things I ever did. Oftentimes, I could be dressed like crap and I’ll make eye contact and smile and she’ll end up sarging me. Shinzen’s teachings are awesome. You think he has game? hehe
ROSS, here it is! THANKS! now I know what it was. went to f*** good luck, guys
Hello, Mr Jeffries
First of all, I have to say that you are amazing…20/10
and I just want to ask you one thing about your Suggestions and Affirmations…
Like for example…as I see that the Phrases like “A person can feel horny, Debbie” do have a great impact on a woman’s mind…
do you think that it can work the same way in affirmations to boost self esteem or self confidence…
like
“I can feel that I love myself”
since you have said that the word “can” disipates the resistance and
the words like “imagine” or “feel” in some way activate an imagination or a sensation…
do you think if I use these words on my affirmations…will they help me???
Thank you and have a nice day!