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    Sarbu Emanuel November 5, 2013, 7:36 am

    this is pure science. keep up the good work RJ

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    Mat November 5, 2013, 11:51 am

    I admire cleverness when I see it; so I just felt compelled to write a comment.

    I noticed, it’s also a challenge. You are stating *I* admire or like a certain quality rather than potentially attributing something about her that may be inappropriate or just inopportune (e.g. she feels/thinks: why is he telling me this so soon? I don’t even know him.).

    The implied ‘compliment’ (challenge?) is implying she must live up to that certain quality. That you don’t admire her necessarily, you actually admire the quality. Her embodiment of the quality can disappear though. In effect, can she maintain it?

    It also matches her process more. You know how women make these lists of their ideal man? So you are reflecting a list of qualities and attributes that you admire rather than saying something about her looks, directly.

    You know.. I used to do direct compliments. And 80% would be flattered especially when I delivered w/ pauses. However, I always felt it was just too much, too soon. I think for the exact reasons you mentioned above (those 4 about what she might think) is exactly why I don’t do it anymore.. on rare occasions only and it will be paired w/ something about their energy.

    And besides.. just because I find her attractive or whatever, now — in the moment — doesn’t mean I will in the future. It’s subject change. There’s no attachment. Because if someone else comes along who ‘manifests’ that quality much more-so, I will be more drawn towards them than her.

    I can leave at anytime or I can stay for more. It’s a continual process.

    Btw: There are plenty of women I found attractive a few months ago, and for whatever reason nothing happened; and then they came back wanting more, but I lost interest in the meantime.

    So, I think the implied compliment is more *honest & sincere* for me to use. Because my feelings are subject to change. And I have a right to that. 😀

    Because.. sometimes when I delivered the “absolutely breathtaking”.. I didn’t feel that was always the right term. Sometimes it was. Other times.. maybe 50%.

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    Harry Lime November 6, 2013, 10:18 am

    How about an implied insult

    “You know, I really admire women who devour vast quantities of refined carbohydrates and drink down barrels of corn syrup , so I had to say hi”

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