Dear Seeker of Success,
Have you experienced the feeling of knowing exactly what to do or say…
…but when you’re actually in the situation, you
- Freeze up?
- Forget your lines?
- Take no action?
- Suddenly have no idea what to do?
Not too long ago, I got a note from a student who can easily envision what happens when he walks up to women and gets them all hot and bothered for him.
But when he is out in public surrounded by approachable hotties who have not yet had the chance to say YES to who he is and what he gives to the world…
…He Feels Afraid And Can’t Get Himself
Moving And Talking To Women
In The Real World.
Here’s my answer:
I think the problem here is you are imagining a MOUNTAIN of work and meaning rolled into one small action (the Sarge).
In other words, every time you see a woman you want, you approach it on the basis of your ENTIRE GIRL-GETTING GAME being on the line.
Thus, simply going up and talking to her becomes (for you) one huge, massive, impossible and measureless labor.
What If You Just Viewed Her
As ONE Woman?
ONE chance to learn one small piece of a skill?
I think what you are experiencing is NOT fear.
It’s OVERWHELM.
When you were a baby and learning to walk, you didn’t stack all that meaning on ONE step, did you?
You took it one step at a time.
Also, you are hanging to certainty.
Rather than accept that you simply don’t know what her response will be, you cling to the certainty that she WILL reject you!
It’s funny: humans would rather project the CERTAINTY of failure and pain, rather than embrace the uncertainty of NOT knowing!
Rather Than Aiming At Confidence,
Try Aiming At Neutrality.
Neutrality doesn’t mean projecting that you KNOW you can do it and you KNOW she will drop to her knees and blow you.
Neutrality means sticking to facts:
- I don’t know what is going to happen.
- I don’t like that I don’t know.
- Let’s go find out and see; maybe I will have fun and I CERTAINLY will learn SOMETHING.
Even if you learn that it was harder than you thought, that STILL is a learning that you can use to change.
Or you might learn that your feet feel really good when you walk up.
Or you might learn that ONE part of your body actually can relax and feel good while all the rest feels shaky!
You Can ALWAYS, ALWAYS
Learn Something…
Fact is, you don’t know WHAT you will learn.
But you CAN be certain about one thing: If you don’t get moving, you certainly WILL remain frustrated and alone!
I GUARANTEE THAT!
So maybe you ought to trade that GUARANTEE for some uncertainty and see what you can learn…
…ONE STEP AT A TIME.
Because you only learn ONE STEP AT A TIME ANYWAY!
So take a step and learn whatever.
Remember: one step forward in your Sarge is one step forward toward getting laid.
Stand still and you won’t get closer to getting laid.
Take a step and who knows – that might put you in front of the scandalously sexy babe who has been wondering when you would finally get around to making your move.
If you ask me, that sure beats a poke in the eye!
Peace,
RJ
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