Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
So there’s a woman you’ve been seeing, things seem to be going great. And now, you’re stepping things up – or trying to.
When you try to kiss her, she leans away.
When you ask her to come back to your place, she tells you she needs time to get to know you better. Even though this is now the third or fourth time you’ve met up, and, as far as you can tell, things go great until you try to make a move.
Ah. Resistance. What is causing it?
Who knows…
It could be she has serious intimacy issues.
It could be she is fucking someone and feels guilty about being intimate with you.
Or it could be you simply haven’t sufficiently captured and led her imagination to the point where she is feeling the feelings inside that let her know she wants to kiss/grope/fuck a guy (you).
One thing you can be sure of: for whatever combination of factors, she has NOT yet felt the flow of feelings inside; the flood of feelings on the inside that lets her know: I HAVE TO HAVE THIS MAN.
You see, the key to dealing with resistance is to understand the three levels of dealing with any response:
- The beliefs that enable you to stay calm and utilize what YOU see as “resistance”.
- The energetic control to keep your intent focused and strong.
- The actual patter or words you say.
Could be, she needs to feel more comfort and connection with you.
Are you are trying to “date” her; to shove Speed Seduction® into the dating frame? That triggers both her “check list” for a guy and her own fears about being labeled a slut, etc.
One quick thought: if she pulls back when you go for the kiss, are you touching her in some way before you go in for the kiss?
As I tell guys, the CLOSE starts the minute you first talk to her. Which means, early on, establish some comfort in touch.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Are you ready to stop wasting your money buying drinks at bars or clubs hoping that will get women to like and sleep with you, or taking women on expensive dinner dates hoping that’ll get them in your bed? Speed Seduction® Rapid And Total Success With Women is the answer to all your prayers!
I have a question for whoever wants to respond to this. It would be very much appreciated. I wanted to ask somebody what does it mean when Ross is referring to close a girl. I am assuming it means having sex with her but is that always the end game one needs to have with the girl? I only ask because I am somebody with Christian values and maybe that keeps me from having a successful seduction because I get stuck with the dating mind set and focusing too much on intimacy. It is just difficult for me to practice speed seduction with sex as the end game because I want to find somebody who I can be committed to for the long term. It is just difficult to do that when I feel to close the girl means to have sex with her right away. You know what I mean?
Ross,
“Are you are trying to “date” her; to shove Speed Seduction® into the dating frame? That triggers both her “check list” for a guy and her own fears about being labeled a slut, etc.”
What kind of activities can you do with a woman that will keep you out of the dating frame? You have talked about meeting at a coffee shop. My understanding is that if you invite her for coffee at a cafe that would considered a “date.” Could you provide some clarification on your definition of a “date”, i.e. is it something that you spend a lot of money on for?
Is the key to plan activities independent of her and then invite her to tag along with you? In this case you were already going to event x, instead of planning an event specifically for her.
What are your top 3 non-date activities for the women who are interested and attracted but for whatever reason you were only able to get their phone number?
Your thoughts on this will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Marc
@Marc Your question shows your thinking is WAYY off base. It isn’t about “activities” you do together, but how your language and vibe opens up the sexual places in her mind and body. Then the activities don’t matter. You are way too focused on behaviors rather than places in the mind so you are not getting, until now, the PRIME understanding of SS: capture and lead her imagination and emotions FIRST and then the logistical details become far less important.
Awesome men! if you keep giving me tips like this its just a matter off time my lips or my **** will fall off because of overuse..
If a woman leans away when you try to kiss her is because she doesn’t deserve it. The best thing you can do
is looking for another one and forget that bitch.
There is no reason to waste your time with someone, when there is a lot of others waiting to have some fun without fooling you.
Ross, I’m agree with you about what you say but at some point a woman need to be put on her place by a man. And if she doesn’t like it, who cares?
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heey ross I wanted to thank you for the many tips that you give.this programa really is realy ammazing, I try as much as possible, but first to apply the personal aspect, I unfortunately do not dare to speak to women but that is going to happen soon,i want to ask you question i have right now a email contact with a women
and got her through a detour asked question if she want to go out but she responded without saying no or yes how should I deal with this so she wil say yes
Greetings pedro
B,
With SS, we’re trying to circumvent the dating process cause it has a tendency to bring a lot of negatives such as a woman’s “checklist” as mentioned in marc’s post. All in all, in my opinion, dating is a lot like a job interview. You can use SS for that “one” special girl, if you want. It doesn’t always have to end with sex before you tie the knot.
Just structure an opportunity to meet you for coffee, NOT a typical dinner date. If your not quite sure about that then either get Ross’s Speed Seduction BHSC 3.0, if you don’t already have it or sign up for his coaching program. Thats my advice to you.
Hey B,
Speaking from experience: I’m not the type that wants to bed a girl right away either, but it’s important to get her thinking of you as a sexually appealing person from the get go. If she starts off thinking of you as non tempting but nice long term relationship material, or even worse as a friend, it’s impossible to change to exciting. I know because I’ve always inspired that nicefriendlongtermbutnotnow attitude. It leads nowhere unless you enjoy seeing your “”friend” meet exciting men that she confides in you about. I don’t know how to avoid getting into that space, that’s the reason why I visit sites like this.
In any case, we can’t know if she is “long term” material until after we’ve seen her in many different situations, including stressful ones So it’s smart to create the sexual attraction anyway, as soon as possible and then WE stay in the driver’s seat.