Dear Seeker of Success,
EVERYTHING you do in your approach to women is part of the “close” that gets you the results you aim for.
Closing is not about “kissing” or “petting” or even intercourse. It’s about none of these specific actions or events. It’s a continuum of making her progressively more comfortable with contact, physical intimacy, and touch.
Touch of any kind builds comfort AND arousal, at the same time, if done properly. But now…
Let’s Get Into This “Kissing Issue”: When Do You Plant One On Her?
What I would NOT do is leave the “kissing” for the typical “dating” times: at the “end of the evening” or when you get her back to your place, or other baseless nonsense like that.
Test for readiness and kiss as soon as she displays any non-verbal cues that she’s ready: giving you the “doggy bowl dinner look” where she looks back and forth from one eye to the other, staring at you dreamy eyed, tilting her face to one side, etc.
Also, it is just NOT a “deal killer” if she isn’t ready to kiss the first time you lean in. No big. Maybe she just isn’t ready.
I don’t think kissing is really that “aggressive”. Really, unless she’s a prostitute and you are a customer, it shouldn’t be that big a deal. Kissing is a sign of comfort and wanting more connection as well as a sign of arousal and a way to build arousal.
What’s the big deal, really? As long as you aren’t slobbering and jamming your tongue down her throat, kissing isn’t an automatic gate way to her nu-nu, nor does her initial refusal or reluctance mean her nu-nu gate way is closed.
Bottom line: go for it.
IF she stops you, she stops you.
Let HER decide once YOU have gone into action, and stop trying to figure it out in advance whether she will stop you or not.
In these kinds of cases you really can’t tell and you will more often than not be seriously and pleasantly surprised.
Stop giving it so much meaning and she will too.
Peace,
RJ
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Again, worrying too much about the kiss time may not be the most usefull thing, since just because she kisses you it doesn´t mean she´s gonna f**k you… aiming to the right point is essential to getting to the right point. If you learn how to consistently create good states in a woman and keep her invested, the “kissing moment” should be no big deal at all, it´s just another step that SHE must take in order to have you f**king her, and i believe that shoud be our goal…
@Dino
You got it! Exactly!
You just have to be ready to go for it immediately but not be fussy about it. It’s such a hard skill but looks fantastic.
@Richard
The key is “naturally”. Not forced, not fussy, not at a specific time or point in the “date”. Also, sometimes you kiss, then go back to the chat, and kiss again later, back and forth, THEN you make out.
Fractionation is our friend.
Does “doggy bowl dinner look” is the thing Jason Vorhees of Friday the 13th do when the final girl pretend to be his mom and call him “Jason… it’s over, you can stop killing now”?
Nooooooooooooooooooo!
Kissing as a skill that cannot be overstated. Seals the deal every time. If you want one absolute way to take a woman’s breath away learn how to play tonsil hockey, and do it like you mean it. Don’t be pushy. Look her right in the eye and go. You just know — it’s surprised me a few times. I’m not a player. But once you’ve got in her in lip lock it’s game over. It’s the easiest move. I’ve only ever been rejected twice — once was my ex. My record is like, 10 minutes and we were back at my place playing mattress twister, as RJ says. Eye contact is key — and when I mean eye contact — you’re looking straight on, deep. The rest just happens.
@STP
There’s a chemical reaction there. They don’t call it “swapping spits” for shits and giggles.