Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
At various times here on Ross Jeffries Uncensored we’ve discussed (among other hot topics) sarging without a wingman, sarging when you’re solo and everyone else is in mixed groups, and sarging when some dude keeps cock-blocking you.
Now, let’s say you’re in a smaller, quieter place, more upscale. The place is very small & everyone is within earshot. Lots of 3- or 4-sets of ladies, mostly professionals unwinding after a day at the office.
This place is small but a great hunting ground; so you don’t want to risk kiboshing it by being viewed as ‘on the make’. Some guys might view this as a problem.
I would first ask: how is that a problem?
It can only be a problem if you ASSUME(without evidence) that talking to women is something about which you should be embarrassed, ashamed, sneaky, etc.
Who put the idea in to your empty head that women don’t want guys to come up directly and talk to them?
You view yourself as “hunting” but you don’t want to be viewed as on the make!
No wonder you feel like you have to hide what you are doing.
How about you come up with a better f@@king metaphor than being a ‘hunter’ and women being your ‘prey’?
How would everything suddenly re-organize, shift and change… now…as you start feeling the shift from this advice?
Look guys: the metaphors you use to describe to yourself the actions you are going to take have profound effects from the cognitive layer all the way down to the neurological level of synapses, neurotransmitters, hormones, etc.
SO PICK A GODDAMN BETTER METAPHOR, KNUCKLEHEAD!
Here’s one for you: this place is a party, you are the host, there to make sure all feel happy and welcomed. And what a gift it is for them (not arrogantly so), that you give special attention to THEM.
Now, does that beat a poke in the eye?
Listen: the women (all 3 of them over there) are waiting. What, in the name of Natasha’s nightgown, are you waiting FOR?
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Sick and tired of passing up attractive, upscale, sexy, beautiful women who are right in front of you while you sit there virtually paralyzed not knowing exactly what to do or say to meet them? Then click here for the key that throws open the gates to ultimate Speed Seduction® mastery.
Thank you Ross. I sure have this problem, if I had to approach women in a small coffee shop. More than the fear of rejection its the fear of embarrasment in front of other peole, and thats why I always stick to approaching women outdoors or at least at a safe distance from other people’s ears but lets see if I can do better keeping that “gift giving” attitude in mind!
Ross is the shit.I love him.