Dear Seeker of Success,
I’m taking a quick gander through my Lovely Mail Bag here and there are two e-mails from students here.
When I put them together, I think they sort of solve each other. Let’s give this a try.
The first is from someone who seems to be having a little problem with his walk-ups:
“When I go up to her, no matter what I do to make the situation fun, it still feels like I am a stranger who has moved into her space to hit on her. She knows what I am there for, no matter how ‘innocent’ or ‘just friendly’ I might be trying to be. So she’s on her guard and sometimes it freaks ME out and I stumble.”
Not a minute later I read a Sarge report that had this interesting snippet in it:
“I opened the gal with an observation that her 2nd toe was bigger than her big toe. Since she is an HB 9.5, she was floored. She told me later that she just couldn’t get over that. She’s used to guys telling her how beautiful she is. I’ve NEVER told her that. And she’s one of the gals that I hang out ‘with benefits’ to this day.”
This makes me wonder…
How Did Morton’s Toe Beat Out Playful And Innocent?
It’s like this: Making an observation about her toe was an interesting opener because it combines more than one “energy” or attitude. It combines a matter of fact observation, that is true, along with something of a put-on, on your part.
Her toes being uneven isn’t REALLY what is most noticeable about her, I’m sure, so you were kind of putting your tongue in your cheek, though I’m sure it wasn’t visibly done so!
The best “openers” tend to combine these positions or energies.
Here’s one I like to use:
“I Don’t Get It.”
I’ll say this to a woman who has an unusual design or logo on her shirt. It’s a put-on in that I am pretending to be puzzled. It’s also a comment/question about something going on with her.
And also, by not saying “excuse me” or anything like that, it is a put-on in that I am addressing her like I already know her.
“I don’t get it” is something her boyfriend or roomate or friend would say if she came into the room wearing something like that, as opposed to what a stranger would say, which would be more like,
“What’s your shirt mean?”
See the difference? She will (subconsciously). And things will go a LOT different.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. The real genius of mastering your girl-getting game isn’t just the suggestive language – it’s also the clever way in which it’s structured to seem like a perfectly ordinary conversation!
The “Ross Plays With Girls” demos you see inside Rapid and Total Success With Women lay this out for you.
Hey Ross,
You are bang on the mark with this one (pun intended!). “Excuse me” is just the lamest approach ever and women feel that one straight away.
Guys, the best thing to do is look for something in the woman’s environment and comment on it with an energy she can accept (e.g. not like a stranger) and things go much more smoothly.
Cheers,
Darren
Her second toe is longer than the other…this where I would go into the “exit stage left” pattern…give me a polarity responder any day (:
In a way that comment is half “neg” and half observation..combining magician with hypnotist
Excellent post again Ross. It’s just like when I go up to a woman and say, “Your dimples are uneven.”