Dear Seeker of Success,
Are you now getting, or have you ever gotten, pushback from a female interest that goes something like this:
“Wow, I want to get involved but I think you’re just going to leave me hurt”
or
“You’re something, but I don’t think I could live up to you.”
Is she intimidated by you?
Does she lack self-confidence?
Are we seeing past trauma in her life rearing its ugly head?
Perhaps a little self-doubt in her mind, “I don’t deserve this man”?
Could Be Any, Or All Of These.
Or Something Else.
Let me point out the piece that I think is missing: having HER reach for it, having HER confirm for herself in her OWN thinking and her OWN behavior that:
- She WANTS to reach for more.
- She MUST reach for more or she will lose you.
- If she DOES reach for more, she WILL get a great reward with you (you will NOT reject her if she DOES reach for more, but reward her instead).
One thing to emphasize above all is the attitude that you do not and WILL not overwhelm her.
At some point, SHE has to qualify herself “in”.
But if she does not, you will walk away and not feel anything other than, “Ok, let’s draw someone better”.
[Hint: the tools would be ratification, meta-stating, measuring. Also screening, both actually screening for certain personality traits and giving the appearance of being screened.]
And of course, fractionation.
If you are always, always, ALWAYS moving forward then she literally CAN’T move toward you.
Where are you energetically, physically, etc. pulling back a bit and seeing if she moves toward YOU?
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Are you ready to finally like to get this area of your life handled, and reap the benefits of being a man who has choice and power with women?
Wish it wudn’t so, but some girls are so used to being gushed over that you’ve gotta get them to invest before you so much as open you mouth. —— That guy “Alan” on Two-And-A-Half-Men outta try “pulling back”. Thanks Ross
is there a difference between screening and giving up?
@A M LOL!
Sometimes… For me screening has been partially a matter of giving up on adolescent fantasies that were just getting in the way of getting anywhere with adult women.
I’m 36, professional in a very technical field and well read beyond my field. One thing I screen for is the ability have a conversation that interests me even if she isn’t modeling a bikini while we talk. Not many younger women have the life experience to do it.
That and the “free hooker” fantasy, which I think more than a few guys expect. You may get there, but only after you drop it and focus on the skills in yourself and paying attention to what you need to in her.
Just my 2 cents.
Just a little motivation from Arthur Schopenhauer (quoted from Gandhi)
All truth passes through three stages.
First it is ridiculed.
Second it is violently opposed.
And third it is accepted as self-evident.
You are changing the way people see relationships. you know this more than i do. If you can reach enough people to make a change in societal beliefs, im sure you must understand, the more you are opposed is the more you must stand up for the truth. To me, this quote represents that.