“Opening” When You’re Already Chatting Her Up

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Let’s say you’re already in conversation with a woman you’ve been introduced to in another context – business associate, mutual friend at a party, etc.?

You’re already in the conversation so you don’t need an opener – but how can you transition the conversation to something more Sargy?  What material do you use?

Two things, first and foremost.

First of all, a lot of it has to do with what attitude you want to take. How do you prepare for those events and scenarios? What do you do with your state and voice to rehearse before you go to those events so you’re ready when you walk in the door?

Second, by “material”, hear this: it’s not just about what’s memorized. It’s about understanding how women work. 

In those situations, you can certainly use a sense of humor. What I would do is make a little bit of small talk. Then suddenly look at her and say, “Are you a roller, folder or thrower?” Play a little game with her and/or get curious about her.

You can still get curious about people and ask questions. Ask, “If you could go somewhere where no one knew who you were and nothing you did would get back to anyone who did know you, what kinds of things do you think you’d love to try?”  

Speed Seduction® gives you plenty of games you can try. You can still be playful or do a quiz. You just don’t have to do the introductory lines. Skip that and go into a game or quiz, like Snack Quiz or Twin Brothers.

Do you understand?  You just skip the opener.

This is so important.

Whether you use the opener or not, it’s all about the principles of the opener – displaying emotional variety and being powerful, vulnerable, funny and understanding. That’s what matters.

You can certainly apply that in a conversation, whether you do it in an opener or not.

Now, go chat it up.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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