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    Adis June 4, 2013, 9:15 am

    How the hell do you come up with stuff like this hahahahaha looks like fun 🙂

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      Ross Jeffries June 7, 2013, 11:11 am

      @Adis By thinking of the most fun way to motivate myself and test the world.

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    Zarathud June 5, 2013, 1:14 pm

    Some women wouldn’t recognize a double bind if it slapped them on
    the ass!

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      Ross Jeffries August 29, 2016, 3:41 pm

      LOL

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        Zarathud The Incorrigible - Offender of The Faith August 29, 2016, 5:29 pm

        I have had some fun with this one now. So far none has “played along” and rejected me or verbally abused me. It’s almost like some of them are just thrilled a guy is talking to them.

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          Ross Jeffries September 23, 2016, 2:56 pm

          SEE? SEE? SEE?

          The vast majority of women will do one of three things:

          • Play along and pretend to be mean, while trying to stifle laughter seeing where this is heading
          • Be real curious because this is new to her, and play along to see where it goes
          • Be genuinely impressed the man is showing humanity and vulnerability

          The few women who will be genuinely nasty…well, in about 30 seconds you know she’s nasty so you’ve only spent 30 seconds on her. Exit Stage Left and onto the next!

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    robot June 6, 2013, 8:11 pm

    asking her to reject you!Is that not suplication? Ross you ar slipping!

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      Ross Jeffries June 7, 2013, 11:10 am

      @Robot

      No no no. Pleading with her to LIKE you is supplication. This is a pattern interrupt. You are slipping…in your understanding. Go to the back of the class.

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    Alrick June 7, 2013, 1:24 am

    I really like this pattern because it acknowledges her power to reject you and at the same time subtly takes it away!

    I used a version of this with a waitress who I had never been able to have a more than routine superficial conversation with, although she was flirting with me. I could make something up, but I will give you the truthful version of what happened: She acted like I had assaulted her, or made some indecent proposal. Reproaches about how she was working and I was “nothing but a customer to her.” I think she was mostly playing to the audience of her colleagues here who were listening in. Felt like I was in a nightmare that had transported me back in high school. I didn’t back down but tried to find out if there was any interest behind all the anti-slut-defenses but she wouldn’t give me a straight answer.

    At the very least, it became clear she has a lot of issues.

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      Ross Jeffries June 7, 2013, 11:09 am

      @Alrick No no no no. This is meant to be done with a complete stranger. In the context in which you did it, no wonder she responded as she did. It’s a bizarre and semi-threatening thing to say to a waitress who HAS to talk to you. And she’s talked to you before.

      CONTEXT!

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        Alrick June 10, 2013, 2:19 am

        OK I see, context. But in this case I combined it with asking her out. That was what the rejection part was about. See I have no problem going up to women and starting an innocent conversation. Where it gets difficult is to switch to a sexual vibe in a non-threatening way.

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    Manuel May 13, 2015, 3:32 pm

    This is interesting. Now, if only I could conjure the motivation to practice this…

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      Ross Jeffries May 14, 2015, 10:22 am

      @Manuel

      Inside the Secret Training Collection, where there are videos on this. Also the Inner Game section of Rapid and Total Success With Women and the Hyper-Resonsive course, will be great refreshers for you.

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    Peter May 13, 2015, 7:43 pm

    Hi Ross,

    Thinking in terms of body language, on how we are meant to say this (It’s not what you say but how you say it), are we indicating we are being playful with a slight smile ? or is this said in a “dead-pan” facial expression ? Is it said as if talking a fellow work collegue ? Is it said as if asking the receptionist where the bathroom is ? What is the body language and “real” intent of the communication ?

    Pete

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      Ross Jeffries May 14, 2015, 10:18 am

      @Peter

      Matter-of-fact tends to work best for me. You’ll discover your own pace when you get out there and do it. Many of my students have had breakthroughs with this technique which is why I repeat-share it on a regular basis.

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    Alan May 19, 2015, 2:06 pm

    You’ve got to be one of the most intelligent people I’ve ever met.

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    kc August 30, 2016, 8:09 am

    How is the course helpful with the next step mentioned in the email after this opener . Elaborate.

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    Leslie Piper September 15, 2016, 1:34 pm

    As usual, bull’s eye! I don’t run into beautiful women all that often here in southern Border-New Mexico. To actually meet a woman with a WAIST is muy raro.

    Most recent one was an exhibitionist anyway. Nice to see her. Great legs, and a flat belly, too.
    I ‘meet’ women pretty often, even with my advanced age, since I started playing lead in a local cumbia band.

    Glad you’re still going strong.

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      Ross Jeffries September 23, 2016, 2:43 pm

      We Silver Foxes must stand together as a Band of Brothers. Going strong all day long.

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