Dear Seeker of Success,
Whether they realize it or not, the #1 thing stopping men from approaching women is approach anxiety caused by fear of rejection.
It starts in the sixth grade when Bitchy Barbara publicly makes fun of the note Johnny passes her in class, reading it aloud at recess and such while everyone laughs.
Then her friend Smarmy Samantha laughs in Johnny’s face when he asks her to dance. The night is ruined by the 6 times Johnny notices her and her friends (male and female) pointing and laughing at him throughout the evening…you know the rest.
By this time, approach anxiety is part of Johnny’s worldview. It’s easier to stay celibate and wait to “get lucky” than to relive what Bitchy Barbara and Smarmy Samantha put him through way back when.
Alright…enough.
Overcome The Humiliation Of Being Rejected…
With The Help Of Attractive Women!
Try walking up to a beautiful woman and saying, “Excuse me, but I’m experimenting with handling feelings of horrible humiliation and complete embarrassment.”
Then look to your watch and say, “In 15 seconds from now, could you please either totally ignore me or viciously and brutally reject me verbally? Ready? Go.”
See what she does.
Maybe she’ll laugh at you and walk away. Okay. You did ask her to. Same if she ignores you.
More likely, though, she’ll see right through your little act.
What Happened When I, Ross Jeffries,
Asked A Woman To Diss Me
Here’s how a steaming twenty-something hottie reacted to a skinny, ugly, lanky, weird-looking 54-year-old dork like me when I approached her on the beach just the other day and used the lines above.
She giggled and said, “You’re really funny. Why would I reject you? What’s your name?” (Whoa – she just showed curiosity – about me!)
I said, “No. This is an epic failure. You need to reject me. Here we go. In 15 seconds, are you ready? We’ll try again. Either be really cold and ignore me or brutally and viciously verbally reject me. Here we go.”
She just laughed again and wanted to know my name. (She’s still curious about me.)
Two (AWESOME) things just happened here.
First, she was curious about what kind of guy would approach her like this.
Second, she thought it was funny. I created curiosity and playfulness right in the same moment.
Now, I had her attention and could do something Sargy with it.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Now, wouldn’t it be great to have that power at your command; to light up women’s fantasies, desires, and the deepest parts of their minds and brains, so their hottest feelings are turned towards you?
Sound good, or sound DAMN GOOD?
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How the hell do you come up with stuff like this hahahahaha looks like fun 🙂
@Adis By thinking of the most fun way to motivate myself and test the world.
Some women wouldn’t recognize a double bind if it slapped them on
the ass!
LOL
I have had some fun with this one now. So far none has “played along” and rejected me or verbally abused me. It’s almost like some of them are just thrilled a guy is talking to them.
SEE? SEE? SEE?
The vast majority of women will do one of three things:
The few women who will be genuinely nasty…well, in about 30 seconds you know she’s nasty so you’ve only spent 30 seconds on her. Exit Stage Left and onto the next!
asking her to reject you!Is that not suplication? Ross you ar slipping!
@Robot
No no no. Pleading with her to LIKE you is supplication. This is a pattern interrupt. You are slipping…in your understanding. Go to the back of the class.
I really like this pattern because it acknowledges her power to reject you and at the same time subtly takes it away!
I used a version of this with a waitress who I had never been able to have a more than routine superficial conversation with, although she was flirting with me. I could make something up, but I will give you the truthful version of what happened: She acted like I had assaulted her, or made some indecent proposal. Reproaches about how she was working and I was “nothing but a customer to her.” I think she was mostly playing to the audience of her colleagues here who were listening in. Felt like I was in a nightmare that had transported me back in high school. I didn’t back down but tried to find out if there was any interest behind all the anti-slut-defenses but she wouldn’t give me a straight answer.
At the very least, it became clear she has a lot of issues.
@Alrick No no no no. This is meant to be done with a complete stranger. In the context in which you did it, no wonder she responded as she did. It’s a bizarre and semi-threatening thing to say to a waitress who HAS to talk to you. And she’s talked to you before.
CONTEXT!
OK I see, context. But in this case I combined it with asking her out. That was what the rejection part was about. See I have no problem going up to women and starting an innocent conversation. Where it gets difficult is to switch to a sexual vibe in a non-threatening way.
@Alrick you will be interested in our blog post, “3 Ways To Implant The Sexual Vibe That Drives Her Crazy, Hoping You Like Her“. Stay tuned to your emails as long as you’re on my list.
This is interesting. Now, if only I could conjure the motivation to practice this…
@Manuel
Inside the Secret Training Collection, where there are videos on this. Also the Inner Game section of Rapid and Total Success With Women and the Hyper-Resonsive course, will be great refreshers for you.
Hi Ross,
Thinking in terms of body language, on how we are meant to say this (It’s not what you say but how you say it), are we indicating we are being playful with a slight smile ? or is this said in a “dead-pan” facial expression ? Is it said as if talking a fellow work collegue ? Is it said as if asking the receptionist where the bathroom is ? What is the body language and “real” intent of the communication ?
Pete
@Peter
Matter-of-fact tends to work best for me. You’ll discover your own pace when you get out there and do it. Many of my students have had breakthroughs with this technique which is why I repeat-share it on a regular basis.
You’ve got to be one of the most intelligent people I’ve ever met.
Thank you for the kind words!
How is the course helpful with the next step mentioned in the email after this opener . Elaborate.
Rapid and Total Success With Women covers the entire process up to getting laid.
It’s explained in some detail at https://www.seduction.com/blog/totalsuccess/
Especially the part about Sexual Aggression Mastery.
As usual, bull’s eye! I don’t run into beautiful women all that often here in southern Border-New Mexico. To actually meet a woman with a WAIST is muy raro.
Most recent one was an exhibitionist anyway. Nice to see her. Great legs, and a flat belly, too.
I ‘meet’ women pretty often, even with my advanced age, since I started playing lead in a local cumbia band.
Glad you’re still going strong.
We Silver Foxes must stand together as a Band of Brothers. Going strong all day long.