Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
In our most recent post, I began to take on the naysayers who claim that language patterns are weird and silly.
One of the key points I made was that your attitude when approaching a woman and using pattern language has a lot to do with how she will perceive your approach.
Now, I delve deeper into the realm of what pattern language does for YOU as well as details on how your attitude can change the scenario.
Bear in mind…that anything you do, ANYTHING, that:
- Increases her comfort
- Opens her imagination/emotions/body feelings in the proper directions that are useful
- Gives you useful information/insight into her
- Sets a frame where you are of great value and she has to work for your attention
- Challenges her to live up to a certain expectation
- Offers her opportunities to gain something/learn something/experience something
ANY THING that does this is a pattern.
Patterns are NOT limited to memorized speeches. Patterns, absent the right context of getting her curious, getting her involved, checking her comfort and openness, getting/gaining information about who SHE is, are just flinging s@#t against the wall.
Sure, it’s better s@#t than what you are USED to doing as an AFC.
SOME of it may stick.
But it is a crap shoot.
Now, here is another thing:
When you create rapport with someone, what you carry with you gets conveyed over to them as well.
If you are carrying a ball of anger, frustration, confusion, pain, white-hot desperation, THAT WILL BE CONVEYED.
So calm yourself, clean up and transmute your energy as best you can BEFORE YOU GO SARGING.
I’ll say it again for ALL of you to hear:
You can be as slick as Willie with your language. You can have all the analogs(tone of voice, body language, tempo control). AND if you are conveying the wrong energy, then that “tightness” is going to come through. The urgency to get acceptance and validation will come through.
On Friday, I’ll be back to this topic with some solutions to help you avoid missing out on the benefits that language patterns bestow upon you.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. All of what I just explained ties back to the idea of showing up attractive, which you can learn more about by clicking here.
RJ,
One thing iv’e noticed is that as a customer of yours when I read or listen to your products many of your observations about flaky, scum bag chicks is so true. Iv’e had most of the moves you discuss they do-done to me.
My whole point here is this-
Will you please write a blog article about how to spot good women relatively quickly when in the field that a guy actually would want to have in his life for a while or even for keeps. Is there a way to almost automatically know if a woman is not a flake, con, total VD invested ho, substance abuser, etc. before she even opens her mouth? Body language she does. etc.?
@Jeff if I did not now any better, I would say you are using your perceived in ability to recognize a “great catch”, as a reason not to go out and sarge or use what you’ve learned. If you pay attention to Ross’s material, you will find that
1. you attract the great women by adjusting your own energy
2. you find out if a woman is great by “challenging” her to see if she is interesting and worth it
3. You make it very clear from the beginning what you will and will not tolerate in a relationship and if she slips up you hold her accountable
4. Part of the fun is going out and using patterns to discover if a woman is up to your expectations, you can easily discover that by having her list her values
also you energy is all wrong, you are coming from an energy deficit, this is demonstrated in your energetic relationship you are trying to propose with Ross. What is it I’m talking about? Well think about it, its obvious you want Ross to invest alot of energy in writing a blog that addresses your perceived problem, however there is no significant return for him. Even if he were to “recognize” your problem as being legitimate, it starts a patter where you end up never actually being satisfied with the answer you get, hence the constant search for a new “reason” for something not to work. This results in a dramatic energy deficit drain for Ross with no guarantee of a return.
However I digress, anyways, you have everything you need, stop waiting for everything to be perfect, you learn by doing, have some fun and lighten up. This shit really really works, so much I can’t imagine how i was such a dumbass for not using it.