Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
From time to time, whether it’s in my Coaching Program, one of my private discussion groups, or here on my blog, I’ll ask my students that simple, yet timeless, all-encompassing question:
How’s it going with you and the ladies?
You all tell me your stories. And it shows me a lot about how what I teach is helping more smart guys like you overcome your challenges with women, master the skills, and get more moist pink abundance, more vaginal victory, more rides on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle, more, more, more, more, more!
And yet, there’s another theme: it doesn’t work every single time with every single woman, and sometimes this stuff does require a little effort. You know what, that’s correct.
It gives you something much, much more important.
To make my point, let me share with you a few snippets of feedback from one of my coaching clients who recognizes the relationship between persistence and relaxation:
> The breakthrough (with her) was when I gave myself permission to just practice,
> not give a f@@k, and not focus on outcomes, as it really relieved
> the pressure, and the resources I had inside of me came out. I had,
> up to this point, been so focused on outcomes, and that had screwed
> me up and would often make me feel like a loser and unattractive. I
> wasn’t focused on the PROCESS, which is precisely where I needed to
> be focusing.
RJ: Exactly so: fear and anxiety and tensing up FUCK US UP. Stay relaxed in the immediate present.
> Also, probably the biggest lesson for me was, no matter WHAT
> happens, that’s no indication of what’s GOING to happen, unless you
> DECIDE that it will. And thinking back, I can only remember one
> time when I closed the very first woman I talk to in an evening.
>
> Being PERSISTANT when things didn’t go according to plan was KEY for
> this being a really awesome night for me.
Being persistent AND relaxed. Let me fill in the “stuff between the lines” for you. When you know you’re doing the right things and making the right moves, it puts your mind at ease because you know you’re headed down the right road. At the end of every road is a destination.
Every time you take a step forward, even though the answer to “Are we there yet?” is “not yet” you can rest assured you’ve gotten just a little bit (maybe MORE than a little bit) closer.
So instead of beating yourself up for being a loser with the ladies, instead you say “That was great practice. Now I’ll do even better with the next one.”
Hey, I’ll take it.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. If you are ready to get in control of your life and start meeting, flirting with, dating (AFTER you’ve slept with her), seducing, and sleeping with sexy, beautiful women, fast and easy… then your next move is to click here to see the next step.
Hi RJ
Thanks a million for this blog.
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This girl that I was sleeping with left the country. Now she takes forever to return emails. She says that she is my girlfriend. I also gave my word to her that as long as I was with her I wouldn’t see other women. But now I feel terrible about it as I’m not meeting any new women, I don’t know if she is really my girlfriend. She actually says that we don’t have to do anything to “prove” to each other that we love each other. She even hinted about marrying saying something like, Ïf we ever get married…..” The chink in my armour is not hearing from her for long periods. The suspense gives way to fear. She says there is nothing so frantic and urgent and don’t worry. But she knows that this is my weakness, and she is sure rattling me there. But I have held my own. I have called her bluff on every occasion she tested me, the latest being the time when i called her, she said hello and then hung up. When i left her a message on the phone saying that it wasn’t cool that she “hung up on me”, she emails me asking what i mean. So I explained it just as a matter of fact. I kept the vibe and tone of the email friendly and instead of directly accusing her of “hanging up”, I just put it across like, “Well what I mean is that the last time i called you I heard you say hello, and then the line snapped, and when I called again I get the answering machine”. I hope she gets the drift. But she hasn’t replied. Maybe she is testing, waiting to see at what point the suspense will break me and then I will go running to her and ask her why she hasn’t been writing me (Did this two times already, and although her response was nice its still weakness on my part, and thats not sexy) In fact at one point I just couldn’t help it! I actually shed tears in front of her. But she was quite nurturing about it, even kissed my tears and everything but later told me about a boyfriend she once had who’d cry for everything and that wasn’t sexy. I knew it was a lost battle so I kept quiet, accepting of my weakness. She even told me that she really wants to make this work but doesn’t know if I could handle a girl like her. So gentlemen, thats my story.