Dear Seeker of Success,
One of the most important components of Seduction is the “vibe” you put out there – meaning, how women perceive who you are and what you give to the world when you approach them.
There will always be women who are simply unable or unwilling, for reasons that are not yours to figure out, to accept the gifts you offer.
I’m frequently asked: what is the right way to handle women behaving toward you in a very rude manner?
For example, blatantly insulting you while you both wait in line at a pizza shop for no reason?
Or being rude to you as if she’s testing you, or as if she has more of a right to exist than you do?
First, realize that anyone who gets rude or angry at your genuine, decent behavior has a problem. It is about THEM, not YOU.
Here are three ways you can powerfully handle the situation and turn it to your advantage:
- Use humor. Shake your head, and say, “Wow..I hope you get over the guy who really f@@ked you up…do you spell that “Daddy” or “Papa”?
- Just hold compassion for them as a person in pain and say nothing, or say, “Wow. I’m sorry I interrupted you while you were being miserable.” (Credit to Stephane Hemon of ideaGasms for that one!)
- Challenge them to something better, say,“Wow…what a rude, cold way to PRETEND to act”. Emphasize the PRETEND.
A couple months ago, I was at Whole Foods and approached a woman with one of my tried-and-true pick-up lines – one that has worked for me hundreds of times.
Her response (with dirty look and loud disgusted sigh): “What the F@@k do YOU want?”
Me: “You know, I know what your boyfriend looks like.”
Her: “Really now? What DOES my boyfriend look like, since you know it ALL?”
Me: “I see his face in the mirror every morning when I shave.”
Her (really angry and almost shouting, not getting it): “Are you in my bathroom, m^#$*rf@@ker? What the…. F@@K?!?!?!?”
Me: (points to her, laughs hysterically, and then in mock drawl) “Well then…. looks like…. ‘Exit, Stage Left!’ for me!” (walks away, not concerned that she might be giving me the finger behind my back)
Again: when you don’t take crappy behavior from women (and people in general, for that matter) personally, it doesn’t happen as much.
But it still happens.
When you approach women with integrity and good intentions… the spiteful behavior of a few meanies won’t trip your game.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. With what I teach you throughout Speed Seduction® Rapid and Total Success With Women, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.
You’ll learn great tools and tactics to use in the initial walk up to guarantee you’ll never have to worry about what to say and that you are firing up her fantasies within minutes.
Now, that sure beats a poke in the eye!
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Ross,
I always find it exciting.. because it's an unusual response and conflicting.. and the fact is: They don't know me!
Btw, this girl was more like from a few years ago.. not a couple months back. (I remember you talking about this instance in one of your videos.. or did it happen again!?)
(or maybe this is a repost?)
@Mat
History has a way of repeating itself, if you know what I mean. A lot of students also tell me similar stories, thinking they’ve been singled out by the Universe to get dumped on, only to find out that it’s happened to just about every other man on the face of the earth.
That's a great article. Sometimes one feels they wanna use power against attackers. It's important to have this options along with walking away.
@Sooner
By following one of the methods in this article, you ARE using your power against attackers, in a way that they cannot compete with in their own wildest mean-girl dreams. Think about it.
Reminds me of a response a friend of mine use to offer.
“Hi.”
“Get lost creep!”
“Hmmm. Then I guess a blowjob is out of the question.”
@Dan
I’ve used formulas just like that one. A couple times, I got the blowjob!
As a pattern interrupt, in a small percentage of cases this can be powerful. I wouldn’t make this a Sarging strategy, but sometimes it’s worth a shot.
She’s used to guys responding to “get lost creep” by tucking in their tail and scampering off in the opposite direction, or begging her forgiveness for anything he might have inadvertently done to offend her just by having the temerity to suck in oxygen and blow out carbon dioxide.
A guy who stands his ground and, without malice or anger, gives back just as good, might strike her as a confident man worth exploring.
Again, I don’t recommend going out and looking for this, but if it happens…why not?
That behavior happens when they are scantily clad…beach, gym etc
pattern interupt
Ironic, huh?
People can do whatever they want.
I control where my energy goes.
You cannot control another person’s behavior. You CAN control your reaction to it.