Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,
Many of my students have heard a permeation of the following: “Women will have sex on the third date, but will not decide if they love him for another six months or so, because they believe love takes time.”
Maybe there’s variance in how many “dates” before the woman will mount the baloney pony, or how much “time” she needs to fall in love, but you get the idea – social programming has women thinking they’ll be perceived as whores unless they make you mastur-wait for sex, or some sort of flakey if they allow themselves to fall in love too soon.
Here’s another one, the main topic of this lesson: Pretty much all younger women say they don’t want to be with older men.
One student (in his mid 30s) encountered resistance from a 20-year-old coed he had been Sarging almost a week and who he’d already made out with…who out of the blue sprung this on him: “I keep saying, I’m not supposed to be with anyone over 27. So why am I even having any conversation with you at all?”
Leading me to ask, what’s the difference between a 27 and a 28 year old man? And really, what’s the difference between 27, and, say, 33? How about 27 and 53 for that matter?
Here’s what I say:
Forget about what people write with such stupid generalities. It is based on THEIR limits.
In the past I’ve had women “fall in love” with me in 20 minutes. On the other hand, some never do.
If “pretty much all” younger women say they’ll “never” be with an older man, then what’s up with all these middle-aged and even elderly men scoring so much young tight trim?
What about this trend (that you see discussed in more and more magazines lately) of “Do-Over Dads” in their 50s and even 60s starting second families (sometimes first families) with younger women?
Must be plenty of younger women perfectly willing to settle down with/marry and ACTUALLY HAVE KIDS with considerably older men, right? (And if it’s his second family, doesn’t that mean he probably has a son about HER age?)
Look, the real issue is: will listening to what other people say is the “right way” help you go where YOU need to?
What is the process-the methodology-by which YOU will discover what works and what is true? Do you really need written reassurances or can you move through some uncertainty with a determination to FIND OUT FOR YOURSELF WHAT WORKS?
Do you see my point? The real value is asking a better question than “when will women have sex or fall in love?”
The better question is, “How do YOU find out what is true and real, for yourself? And how do you handle the uncertainty of looking? Can you convert into excitement, curiosity, playful determination?”
More and more I am convinced that my job as a master teacher is NOT to answer the question the student asks. 70% of the time it is redirecting the student to ask the much more useful question or questions that they aren’t even thinking to ask.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Let me also add: you need to calibrate your approach to the unique individual woman in front of you, regardless of her age, upbringing, or the belief system she’s been told she is supposed to have.
We cover all of this, and more, inside Rapid and Total Success With Women.
Great post Ross. Far too much hot air both spoken and written. We all must learn to listen to our own heart. We living in a time when opinions are reiterated as fact.
It is definitely the better teacher who points the student towards the answer instead of simply answering questions. Either that or asks the student a deeper question.
You score my 10 out of 10 agreement here. I’ve suspected for a while that some of the “experts” selling their sage advice effectively prey guys who don’t know better than to buy weapons grade Bullshit. Said experts then blow their money on some gold diggers smarter they are. Others have some game but haven’t kept up. Those should have retired to Florida by now if they aren’t glad to keep learning.
I put you in the top three of the community. You aren’t complacent and “get” that it pays to pay attention.