Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
More than once, I’ve heard from men who were scared to use my language patterns with women.
Por que, you say?
Well, there are a number of reasons:
- fear of “getting caught”
- worry about her laughing so hard her drink comes out her nose and the mood is ruined
- concern she might think “he’s trying to get me in bed, no dice fella”.
- Other reasons too
Here’s what’s important:
Just Because You Fear Doing It,
Doesn’t Mean It Won’t Work.
And, if you really tune in with clarity, it isn’t fear that stops you.
It is the internal sense of suffering that is produced when two conflicting desires – the desire to say it and the desire to keep your mouth shut – bump up against each other and create tremendous internal noise and friction.
You are going to have to let go of your need for certainty and guarantees BEFORE you open your mouth or I GUARANTEE you will never make any progress AND never know what works.
You Must Let Go Of
The NEED To Know.
Nothing wrong with PREFERRING to know.
But it’s only a preference.
And if any individual woman laughs at you or asks why you are talking funny, your world won’t shake apart. Even if wave after wave of humiliation should wash over you, don’t resist it or tighten up or turn away.
Relax into it – and it just turns into energy.
But she may just jump your bones and beg to be f@@ked.
And that sure beats a poke in the eye.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Imagine how great your life will be when you know, whenever you see a beautiful woman, anytime, any place, that you know exactly what to do to approach her, get her attracted to you, and seduce her!
Click here and make this YOUR reality.
It’s the “wave after wave of humiliation” some of us are tired of and although I can see the “relax into it” part as an Akido-like approach, it’s still easier said than done.
For instance I don’t think this would work for handling women who have what is called street knowledge. If as a man you’re not that type yet this is the type of woman that is mostly available to you then there has to be a different type of science for handling them?!
Mr. C
As I always teach my students: let your experiments with reality tell you what will work and what won’t. Go find out by what you do, not by how you speculate.
RJ
P.S. I can guarantee you: it DOES work and with every kind of woman. Every human understands dancing with uncertainty and admires someone who can do it. Just like we all admire the tight-rope/wire walker for the balls to get out there and risk for their passion.
Yes you have to approach without the fear that comes from trying something new. I saw a smoking hot young lady at a c&w dance bar (half my age at least). All I could do was sit at my table a gape watching her dance. I think she was with at least one female friend and dancing with what appeared to be a male friend off and on.
When her friends were busy on the dance floor I moved in and I was pretty tense at first. I just pointed at her shoes and said “nice shoes” (which was really true – she had dancer’s feet too). Then I shook her hand and VERY lightly pulled her toward me with the other and got her name (hey it was loud in there) and introduced myself. I complimented her dancing and excused myself. She might have been a lipstick lesbian for all I know (there were many there).
The point here is that I was able to approach the hottest woman in the place and really didn’t care what her response was since I all I wanted was to try something. I was invested in the method and it was a big boost for my confidence.
Quick tip: I teach guys to say something like “nice footgear” – and usually within the context of a larger opener.
Reason not to say “nice shoes” is because we’ve all heard the second part of that line 🙂
That said, the last paragraph is SPOT FUCKING ON.
Well done!
Mr. C
As I always teach my students: let your experiments with reality tell you what will work and what won’t. Go find out by what you do, not by how you speculate.
RJ
P.S. I can guarantee you: it DOES work and with every kind of woman. Every human understands dancing with uncertainty and admires someone who can do it. Just like we all admire the tight-rope/wire walker for the balls to get out there and risk for their passion.
Hey Ross, just to say your emails are great but have gotten better lately, absolute genius. Thanks for inspiring and teaching us that getting women can be easy like hunting, and that it can be done without fear. Many regards and cheers buddy!! 😀
More to come – thanks man!