Dear Seeker of Success,
Smart guys like you want desperately to turn your fear of women into the charm and charisma that gets women hot and bothered and ready to go.
But something is stopping you – like you literally talk yourself out of it.
Such as this student:
Ross, I have been working on building my confidence with women for over a year now and it’s going nowhere. I’m starting to think that no matter how much I rehearse confidence, I’ll never overcome this feeling of worthlessness or being unworthy of meeting good women.
And I think it goes beyond just women. If I can’t find something to do with my day or some friends to be with. then I start to think it’s because I have no real friends and no one wants around. Then the cycle begins. When I start my weekend off on such a bad note the feeling just gets stronger until Sunday night and I am already defeated for the entire week ahead.
It’s like I am literally rejecting myself. How do I break free of this vicious cycle?
Ross here…. wait….did you just say….
….You’re Rejecting Yourself?!?!
And yet you want to have sexy hot women falling all over you, cat-fighting amongst themselves over who gets to go home with you tonight… or even more, two or more of them going home with you?
A big part of your problem is too much of an “inward focus”.
That is, you are un-usefully in your head, evaluating yourself, instead of turning your curious attention outward toward others.
You are ASSUMING/PROJECTING that others are judgmental, critical, mean and rejecting you without even giving them a fair chance to show you otherwise.
How Is That Fair To HER?
Do you see yourself as the kind who is closed to the possibility that other people might be essentially good?
That women might think YOU are sexy, charming, and attractive?
And even more – how is that fair to YOU?
If you see this amazing sweet-looking honey sitting at the table next to you, and you ASSUME she’ll shoot you down cold without having made ANY effort to approach her… you’re literally deciding FOR HER that she will NOT like you.
Imagine… if you DID Sarge on her… and she ended up getting irresistibly aroused by you and banging you that same afternoon?
Or, To Your (Male And Female) Friends?
Now as far as finding things to do and people to hang out with, is it that you can’t?
Or is it that, because of your beliefs and projections about being judged and rejected, you haven’t developed the awareness, scheduling and other skills so that you plan fun events for yourself, and fun events involving others (including hot women)?
Look: if a person believes they are unable to walk or run, they probably won’t bother developing the skills of walking and running.
Then, because they don’t have the skills, they will conclude that they are physically unable to – even though their legs work just fine!
Do you see the cycle?
Now….BREAK THE CYCLE
Focus on the skills of searching for, planning and creating fun things to do, events, etc.
Apply the same when you approach women and you will see results other than the rejection you put on yourself by ASSUMING she won’t like you and not giving her the chance to “below you” in the first place.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. When you master the principles inside Rapid and Total Success With Women, with no further need for assurance or guarantee of success of any kind before you take bold (and fun) seduction steps, as you walk like a giant where other people fear to step!
It’s time to get off your excuse-making, “I understand but don’t do it” a##, and get moving right now in the real world with the success you’ve always wanted!