Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,
Pretty much every student of mine, even those who completely master my teachings and do everything just as I would recommend, has an experience with a woman that leaves him wondering, “What the HELL just happened???”
This one particular Sarge report I just received really stands out, so I’ll review it first:
Hey Ross, you know, you’d think by now I’d have a keen sense for women who are just looking for a cheap thrill. Thursday night I met a hottie (I’d say she’s an HB8) and we really hit it off. Things went so well I decided to cut it short and make her “want it more” by telling her I had to go but I’d see her tomorrow (we made plans then and there).
So next day we hang out for a couple drinks, it’s cool, and then got together again (at my place) Saturday night. Next thing you know, we end up in a crazy-ass makeout session in my bed that goes until 7:00 AM. She left, then I went to bed for a couple hours. As you’d expect, I was in bed pretty early last night, then woke up at 5:00 this AM to a text from her: “I’m thinking we shouldn’t see each other anymore.”
Now, thinking to myself with a half-chuckle “Boy, THIS is gonna be good…” I texted her back “What brings this on?” I’ll spare you the play-by-play and summarize with: turns out she has a boyfriend, she felt bad, she confessed her liaison with me to both him and me, she had been bored and horny when she met me and was looking for a good time but hadn’t planned on liking me so much, which was why she wanted to confess the truth to me, and if only she was single, etc.
In her explanation (a half-ass one if I ever read one) I got a bit offended, and I asked her “So would your boyfriend also forgive you if you confessed you wish you were single?” She replied “I’m sure he would.” I then wrote “I feel bad for the predicament he’s in.” After which she pretty much told me to F-off. I have to admit, it bugged me a little.
Overall, this was well-played on my student’s part. I would, however, add a couple things. First let me ask: for what it’s worth, was she good in bed? As long as she wasn’t a weak lay, ya know….
Now, I don’t think her explanation was “half-ass.” She came right out and admitted she had been out for a good time, and in my student she found it. She also seems to have no real qualms about playing around on her man.
It speaks to her character. I’ve had women admit to me that they cheat on every boyfriend they have. My response: “Why would I want to be with you then? You just came out and admitted, in advance, you’d be unfaithful to me.”
I’m also pretty sure this pretty chick didn’t “pretty much” tell him to F-off. I’m not a betting man, but I’ll wager a handsome sum the text read more like “Fuck off asshole, and don’t ever contact me again.” Because my student let her know in exactly so many words that he was onto her little game, and he accurately called her out on her behavior and now the spotlight burned her a little.
Look: when this happens to YOU, remember this: you met her, you got some, it’s all good, now let it go. Lots of women out there actually ARE single and ready to mingle. A better one is waiting. Now what in the name of Becky’s bloomers are you waiting FOR?
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. What was missing from my student’s reaction? I’ll tell you what: oh, yeah, he was a little offended and disappointed. BUT his world didn’t drop out from under him, he wasn’t crushed or discouraged, and he didn’t freak out either on her or the world in general. Hell, he was more curious to see what story she’d come up with, then worried about “losing” this cheat or worrying “what did he do wrong.”
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all they did was make out. and, that’s fine. I ahve had huge make out sessions with girls, and then it’s also over. for hours. all the stupid grinding like high school. probably he got a lot of LMR, and then figured, as screw it, at least I can make out and grab her boobies. mistake! if you’re getting totally LMR’d and only making out then cut it short, and go drink some wine. then see her again and you’ll have a way better chance than the guy who is happy to just get some grinding.
Hello Ross. (Mikhail, 17)
I have a question for you because i really don’t know what to do in a situation like this. So i was learning all your tapes, my friend let me borrow, and i completely emerced into your material so then i was like ok i have got to get myselve a guinea pig to test it out on, so i picked the hottest chick i know and interested her in a hang out, i told her i wanted her advise. So anyway long story made sort. I put her in like deepest trance of her life and i ran all kinds of patterns on her to see how can i anchor it. But i was massaging her on a table in a park. she never mentioned to me that she was back with her boyfriend. So he was there watching us for last 30 mins in his car. and we were outside i mean all the people watching like wtf he is going to fuck her tonight. so i did not know about boyfriend or anything but i made her lay on top of me on the table while i masage her neck. And then her phone is ringing. She picks up and she is like oh my god… she tells me about boyfriend watchig us. so i was like out of the character at all anyway she told me she still wants to see me and could not forget how magical my voice is (over the phone). i told her that i really want to see her but i don’t know if we should. she said right we really shouldn’t so i got angry and erased her phone # =( now i don’t know what to do cuz i wanna do my guniea pig. And i knew the stuff was going to work =) i belived in it but i wanna know what should i do next time i see her. Thank you ross, you changed my life. =)
Using these techmiques are not a way to look like a desirable person, it´s a way to become a desired person. From a spot of compassion we must admit that every girl in the the world is also affected by the social pressures and media bs supporting the dating frame. They also don´t know how to handle a strong man that doesn´t eat her bs, and maybe that´s why this stuff is so powerfull. I agree this girl answer may not be a real F off, but much more a sign that she never learned how to be with someone so strong. I´m not trying to be slushly supportive, but knowing by a fact that you don´t look like someone special, instead you are someone special is the key to understand that you don´t have anithing to fell bad about…
Answer to Mikhail. What is your problem with her having a boyfriend? He was too cowardly to confront you anyway either that or he gets off watching his girl with other guys, and she apparently gets off on it too.
Most of the girls I sarge do have boyfriends, that’s what bf destroyers were made for, and as long as they aren’t a friend of mine I don’t much care. Thing I have learned is most girls are with guys, not because they are that great, it just seems it’s better to have anyone than no one. This, sadly, is true of most married couples. Thoreau said, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation…”, this is true of women too. And while they may have loved the man they are with when they first got together, few people, surprsingly few, ever learn to keep the passion, the love, the joy alive. Consequently we have a divorce and infidelity rate of over 50% in this country.
For those who know how, the world of women is a Candyshop, eat all you want, we’ll make more.
double t
If the following floors you, that’s a good thing. It’s inside stuff few men ever learn… On some level we all know that mate selection is a tradeoff. A few women do something about it. Around 9% of us aren’t fathered by our official “fathers”. Some women are wired to be “poachers”. Usually subconsciously, if they can attract them, they shop around for better male genes. The strategy is to send more of their own into the future with increased odds of survival. I’m not judging Right or Wrong here, just sharing scientific facts. A woman who “doesn’t know what came over her” actually may truly not. It doesn’t fit her self image but her body’s sexual instincts called the shots, not her conscious mind. Don’t worry about her primary relationship if it happens to you. That’s HER responsibility. Women are better at cheating than most men anyway. Don’t argue with nature. Don’t take sexual advice from any clergy too squeamish to do some “fathering” of their own either. Be glad for a good time and keep going. Guilt has its purpose, but don’t wallow in it. Human’s are still animals underneath it all. Be glad.
She is only doing what most of US do, get a bit on the side. Moving on is good, no loss.
When they do what WE do, WE should not raise so much as an eyebrow.
One of the reasons to wrap the rascal!
When we look for causual, we are really looking for an attractive sex toy, and so are they!
Onward
She deserves to be happy even she has a borefriend:) Then you have to understand her unhapines and move her to a better place (with you) = pacing+leading. Let her keep her borefriend and make her feel good from time to time.
wow, thanks guys, i did not expect to get a response, anyway yeah she is really the chase where she just does not have anyone else to be with, but her boyfriend is such a pussy, he was stocking me on my rollerjog yesterday(shirtless, gotta keep my 10 status). and when i saw her boyfrien i was like OK have to confront him, really creepy dude =) and he just drove away, such a pussy i guess. anyway i will see my guinea pig project tomorrow, but i mean the technology is so amazing, yesterday at the pool i did not have to say anything, i was working on my breath work, the chick went up to be and started dipping into the water, making eye contact, until finally looked at me and it was like the responce i’ve never seen before her hipples were stone hard she had dialated pupils and her lower lip was pointing directly at me, i was like wwwwooooowwww too mutch but when you carry this attitude in your mind and you take up so much space with your powerful energy that is what happens i guess, but she was a 7 a really hot and sporty 7 =) anyway thanks alot double t but i have so much fish in the pond i will just “exit, stage left” because i want this stocker off my back.
CYA, may the force be with us =) lol
I think the evolutionary perspective (Deacon 168) is extremely explanatory and underutilized, BUT I would still be wary, to say the least, of getting involved with a woman who hasn’t attained significant mastery of anticipating and directing her own “urges” in a manner that doesn’t F&*@ up her life and those she is close to.
why not reverse the feminist brainwashing?
MMMM how about:
“Well Debbie, your text makes a guy feel like crap. Really
did feel that you are stringing some guys along. I hung in
cause I figured that maybe three of us could get together and
you could find that two-on-one isn’t much better than good
one-on-one, special with a solid, stable, no-needy person
like someone here. Will be flying in from N.Y. on the 19’th
give ring if you want to do some chinese. You pay. lol. bye.”
I’m new at all of this, but I don’t see why the guy in the original letter had to be rude. So she has a boyfriend, so what? Unless he had decided based on a few encounters that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with this girl, why be upset? If she wants to sleep with you, great. If not, there are others.
Am I missing something?
Seumas you’re missing the inner message. The guy really liked the girl. So when he found out he was crushed.
In my case, I’m not that emotional so I’d like to know if I can trigger some more of the “got some” stage before I let her go. She is a little distant. I haven’t said anything about her behavior yet so she has not told me to fuck off… yet 😛
Any words of wisdom Ross?
Ps: I imagine your face Mikhail when you knew the guy was watching… hilarious lol.
Not so much he was crushed, not even so much upset she has a boyfriend. The issue is, in the way she let him know she has a boyfriend, by saying things like how she’s “sure” her boyfriend would forgive her if her boyfriend knew she “wished” she was single. My student was put off because she showed a lack of integrity about the whole thing. However he just told me he’s going to try calling her, could be she meant well and communicated badly. I’ll send an update when he reports to me.
This student gets laid and complains LOL
move on to the next
I would be happy to get a woman to listen to me and see if this really works.
Wow anyway that came out into long conversation, anyway if anyone cares in her case the bridge is out, i think at least. I tried to give her a chance to hang out with me again (have to finish the project=) (then her boyfriend read all the texts, did not even text me back =) but she kept resisting so today i called her on her shit over the text (i mean it was pretty obvious she was damaged) and then i texsted her “And you know what?” “fine I guess you really don’t deserve this chance to go on the romantic adventure, with me. I thought that you were brave enough to look beyond the frames you put on yourself and reach for what you really want. But you are not the person so have a good life” she responded to me by sending 10 texts worht of material that her boyfriend is what she really wants and how i put her relationships in danger and totally pull her whole life inside out… bla bla… and that i sould not have all thouse feelings toward her. So i got really pissed, like full out rage, and told her “wow did you really think i was attracted to you. If that’s what you really want then i am out of your life. I am erasing your number. and i did not mean to cause all this trouble to you and your XX(she was with him before then they broke up..had one night stand =)… and back again…)” and then i went and did all the wonderful yoga and detangled all my frustration and anger thru filter to pure power =) anyway I dropped this project, really erased all means by which i can possibly bug her (no dumpster diving possible this time=)
Thank you brothers,
your advise was really helpful.
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