Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,
My recent posts on women who “run hot and cold” have struck quite a nerve.
I’m getting a ton of e-mails and responses, so I know this is an issue that many smart guys like you, including those in my Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, need assistance getting handled.
Now, talk about “hot and cold” – this next letter comes from a student who is Sarging on a woman who goes from naming the kids and planning weekends with the in-laws to not returning his calls, just like that… and he just recently met her!
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The woman in particular is an attractive, 25 yr old small-business owner who seemed to open up very quickly. I met her friends and family right away and we spent a lot of time together. She talked about children’s names and eluded to “our in-laws.” She almost disappeared July 4th and within a week of extreme distance said “you’re not like anyone I’ve ever dated and I don’t know why I’m pushing away what I truly want.”
She bought me gifts and a card the second time we went out, text me many times throughout the day and seemed so sweet, compassionate and just wonderfully feminine.
I’m not sure what went wrong but it sucks, bad. What do you guys think? Did I kill the attraction?
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First of all, what does “open up very quickly” mean? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? (That’s a yes or no question – you did or you didn’t.)
Frequently in the “Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets” ezines I hammer the point that “dating is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with!” Why?
Because when the interaction turns to “dating,” women instinctively pull out their “checklist” of what the “perfect man” is and start rating whether you are “her type.” If you have not yet connected with her emotionally and set the “anchors” that make any “checklist” irrelevant, you don’t want to be “dating” her.
For the same reason, I’m not in a hurry to meet family and friends. It puts too much “meaning” on things, and immediately that often triggers a woman’s “is he REALLY the one” fractionation / emotional interruption mechanism.
Now, she’s talking about kids’ names and in-laws that early on? That means she is trying out that kind of thinking because she thinks it is how she SHOULD be thinking instead of wanting to go out with her girlfriends, get laid, have fun, etc. She’s trying to convince herself.
Right now, you’re in knots from her “running hot and cold” (the gifts and cards, followed by the “extreme distance”) because you are hooked on the validation and attention. So when she pulls it away, you freak out, get clingy, drive her away, instead of being aware of that response as it first arises and being able to redirect.
It’s time to break the “hot and cold” cycle caused by your need for validation by this (or ANY) woman, and find the woman (or women) who will just want consistent, steaming-hot fun.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.
With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.
Claim yours now, and stop letting her “give it and take it away” – for good!
