Dear Seeker of Success,
When I published my first book way back in 1988, “How To Get The Women You Desire Into Bed” I had no clue it would eventually spawn an entire community of warring “schools” of pick-up and seduction.
I used to jump into online debates with these folks until I realized it was a better path to keep my head down and just focus on my own work and my own passion – teaching and healing men who need guidance to succeed with women.
But the big dispute that was running back when I was in my “debate mode”, and the one I know is still going (thanks to emails from students) is this:
Is It Better To Be Indirect Or Direct
When Approaching Women?
My response?
Make it an “and”.
Learn to do both.
If you want to succeed with women, you have to have a system in place to meet them on a regular basis, and that system is incomplete if you limit yourself to just one of these approaches.
Personally, I find the more you “put your balls on the table” the more women admire you. They may not go for what you are offering but you’ll never be disrespected.
But I’ve had times where I will also start a conversation with a comment, observation or question.
Even when I do that, I have a direct element in mind at some point in the conversation.
Nowadays, I use one close and one close only when it comes to getting another meeting, and I’m just to prove I’m not a tease, I’m going to give it to you word for word.
Here it is,
“I’ve enjoyed meeting you. I don’t know what your personal situation is, but if you’re not with someone who is with you in the way you truly desire, then I’d like you to spend some time with me…”
Then I shut up.
You’d be shocked – I mean SHOCKED – at how often this works, And when I de-brief women they always say my “balls” blew them away.
So whether you open direct, indirect or as I suggest, a combination of both, try out my “close” and see what happens.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Once you learn a few key secrets about female psychology, and learn even just a few of the proven methods in my Rapid And Total Success With Women system…
…you will enjoy such mindblowing success with women, you will laugh to yourself at how easy it is!
I’m going to be recording myself with two different cameras, one being a camcorder, the other being a covert key chain camera; in regards to my efforts at speed seduction. The camcorder being my video diary for the end of the day. The keychain for recording audio, and a rundown of how things went after said approaches. I’ve developed my patterns into a 5 step process. 1: open/walk up. 2. screening question. 3. shopping/guilty pleasure pattern. 4. when you come here pattern. 5. closing pattern. I’ll allow some fluff talk between step 4 and 5 as an optional choice. Instead of saying she is pretty etc, I’ll use the word interesting. Example of my opener: “Hi, I know you’re walking, I just thought you looked really interesting, I like your long black hair, and your face looks really cool. (extend my right hand) I’m Stephen.”
Please post a link to where you are buying your keychain camera. I don’t like the approach; too complimentary. Remember what I said about implied compliments?
I know you’re doing ‘x’, I just like someone who can carry themselves with style and grace; I’m Stephen.