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    here to loearn January 14, 2013, 6:07 pm

    RJ-
    What do you think about soul mates? I don’t mean the mushy romance marketter bs but rather, some one a person can truly connect with on a subconscious and meta physical level to keep for the long haul. It seems to me older generations of Americans had long term relational viability where today it’s like a revolving door. I believe in quality over quantity. I’d rather have a deep connection with someone than just a superficial fling.

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    Zarathud January 15, 2013, 7:28 am

    You keep mentioning hookers. Do you have anything serious to say about that either as a way of dealing with extreme issues or itself being an issue requiring more specialized work than your standard teaching?

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    Oleg January 15, 2013, 7:52 am

    I need to put some work into number six…

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    Shane January 15, 2013, 9:17 am

    Hi,
    I just want to say that I think that #’s 5 & 6 are probably the biggest things.
    I met this one fellow, he told me how he wanted to meet women, and all these things while he was living in his car. Personally I thought maybe he should change his focus and get a life, so he has something to offer women besides that he gets to sleep in their bed, but heck that was just my thoughts.
    Back to the tracks though, let’s say you are going around getting all these women to feel this incredible sense of attraction, at some point if you keep dumping women just because you can get more, I think a part of you might realize that’s kinda shitty, and so you find that it’s harder to do things like that.
    So the thing is, when you are a sargy master (which I don’t pretend to be since I am happy with my long term relationships, though I have had women 20+ years younger than me asking me to go out with them even within the last year) are you leaving women better off than when you found them, or at least making an effort to do so? I realize some women are stalker like (at least I’ve had that problem where some woman I thought was just casual would pop up at my house unannounced), but at least try to make the world a better place, there is nothing wrong with no strings attached sex, but don’t make some woman feel like this is the love of her life, that you are her soul mate, and then shit all over her. That’s just wrong (and I’ve heard guys brag about how they did that, so I know that there are “sargy masters” who do such things).
    But these are just my thoughts.

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    Roy January 15, 2013, 12:51 pm

    Ha! Amazing, I was the student who posted this on the SS list, and Ross your advice as usual was very effective. The biggest thing was getting away from what made me good at it in the first place. I had worked very hard at getting the fundamentals down so that I could just flow with the material AND I had let go of my attachment to outcome. Once I started NEEDING results, that’s when I stopped getting them. I approached a lot less and I slacked off in doing the ground work that gave me that kind of momentum.

    The things that really had me getting good results was my good state, and I achieved that state from regularly doing the SS drills and meditations, they gave me peace of mind and most of all the acceptance confidence to just go for it and not think of what could go wrong, in addition to staying active physically.

    Helping me get back to results from that slump was as follows:
    -DO THE DRILLS AND EXERCISES, especially to quiet the mind, visualize positive outcomes and let go of need for results.
    -Stay active physically (cannot emphasized this enough).
    -Doing it because it’s FUN and you enjoy the interaction and learning about her, not because you need some tail.
    -RELAX, it’s not a big deal to approach and meet a cute girl who has never had someone give her the feelings you’re about to.

    Thanks Paul!

    p.s. since you mentioned the World Series and all: GO GIANTS and DODGER SUCK! :]

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    Maczilla January 15, 2013, 5:19 pm

    This article is BOMB. Everything you say here is killer. I especially like number five. Sometimes I get so caught up in gaming girls that it becomes completely exhausting. Lately I’ve been thinking about getting a girlfriend so that I can focus on other things. But then again… I do love being single =s We’ll see what happens but thanks for the advice Paul!

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      Paul Ross (aka Ross Jeffries) January 17, 2013, 10:38 am

      @Maczilla

      That’s why I get paid the big bucks, to clarify the foggy and de-mystify the mystery. (No joke intended).

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    CARLOS John January 15, 2013, 7:20 pm

    EXCELLENT ADVICE MR ROSS!

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